5harathFounding Growth Lead, Willow Voice

Taking Shots and Learning from No

5 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this short spoken segment, the speaker shares personal advice on persistence and handling rejection. They emphasize that the majority of success comes from simply showing up and asking. The speaker reflects on how they used to take "no" personally, but now understand that a rejection is rarely about them—it often reflects the other person's circumstances such as busyness, burnout, or other priorities. They argue that the most persistent individuals tend to be the most successful, noting that a "no" may be temporary and that a lack of response simply indicates the other person is busy. The speaker recommends circling back after some time, typically about a month, to re‑engage.

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90% of it is just showing up. It's just asking. And I think it also comes from the thought of getting a no is very rarely personal. I used to take nos very personally. I used to think, oh, well, they just don't think I'm like good enough for them to talk to or whatever. And, and as I've gotten, I guess, more successful in my own career and have more people reaching out to me, if I don't reply, it has nothing to do with the person that— or if I say no, it has nothing to do with the It has everything to do with myself. Either something's going on in my life, either I'm burnt out, either I am just like way too busy and I need to limit my, like, my interactions, or I'm just like tired and I like, it caught me at a bad time. But it, it like, the most persistent people that I've found are the most successful. Like sometimes getting a no doesn't mean no forever. It means no for right now. Or if you don't get a response, it just means, okay, that person's just busy. I'll circle back in like a month.