Aaron Marcus lost a modeling job he was placed on hold for and talks about processing that disappointment without letting it become discouragement. He suggests exercise, treats, or shopping to work through the emotions, and frames modeling as a marathon that requires resilience.
Hi, I'm Aaron Marcus, and I wanted to share some new information with you. Whenever I'm doing in-person workshops, whether I'm doing private mentoring sessions online, or talking at an event, I always talk to people about do your audition, let it go, move on to the next one. And I truly believe that. However, I also let people know that Sometimes it's not that easy, or even if it's a matter of trying to find representation and you're not getting the agent or the manager that you want. And I always tell people, don't be disappointed, just move on. And here's what I've come up with. And like I said, I do believe that, but I've kind of changed things a little bit. And you know what? It's okay to be disappointed. Look, I was in that situation just a couple weeks ago, and there was a job that I really wanted. It was a modeling job. I have attended go-sees for this one particular casting director in New York for years, literally, and they've always been very difficult ones to book. You know, they're looking for one person who looks like a doctor, and, you know, the 100 people who walk in there, they all look like doctors. So for this one, besides the fact that it was pretty It was a 2-day, full-day booking, and there were some bonuses involved, and I got put on hold. Now, when you're put on hold, you know, that means that they're considering a few people, and so somebody's going to get it, and a couple other people who are on hold are not going to get it. And to make a long story short, I did not wind up getting it. I got released, and it felt bad. It felt really bad. I wanted this thing so badly for a whole variety of reasons. And so I just wanted to let you know that, look, we are all human. We have feelings, we have emotions. If you don't get something that you really want, feel bad. It's okay to feel bad, feel disappointed, but don't get discouraged. And I think that's the main change. Look, I felt bad for 24 hours, uh, and I did, you know, I went out for a run. That seemed to help a little bit. For some people, maybe it's buying, you know, Ben and Jerry's ice cream or, you know, doing something, going Going out shopping, whatever it takes to make you feel better. But just understand, it's okay to be sad, it's okay to be disappointed, but don't get discouraged. This industry is a marathon, it's not a sprint. And so whether you're just getting started or you've been in the industry for a long time, there are lots of highs and lows and you have to take them in stride. So anyhow, I just wanted to share that with you. Hopefully you found that helpful. If you have any questions, you can always go to my facebook.com/howtomodel page. Please like it, or you can email me at aaron@howtomodel.com. I look forward to talking with you again soon. I'm Aaron Marcus.
