The Best Way to Deal With Your Nervousness

Hi, my name is Aaron Marcus, and I want to share some incredible information with you, and it deals with nervousness. And the thing that's, that's so interesting about this is that absolutely the way that you deal with nervousness will completely change your acting and modeling career. And the thing that's also neat about it is this is very universal. And this is something that holds true with any kind of job in life, anything you do, whether you're a salesperson, whether you're a doctor, it doesn't make any difference, whether you're a student. It's how you deal with it. So here are a couple of quick ideas. Number 1, most people get nervous. They might not admit it, but the fact is when you are auditioning for something, it can be really nerve-wracking. I just auditioned for a TV show recently, last week and had a callback. Now I was reading for the director. I was nervous. I mean, how could I not be nervous? But here's the thing. Sometimes people will say to you, don't be nervous. Don't worry about it. You'll be fine. Yeah, that's easy for other people to say, but you're the one who's actually doing it. And the thing that's funny about this is not only do I not think it's bad, I actually think it's good when you're nervous. Because when I get nervous, I feel a lot of energy flowing through my body. The trick is Learning how to harness that energy and use it in a positive way. Here's one of the things that I do that really helps me tremendously when I am feeling nervous going into an audition. The number one thing is my goals are not booking the job. That's not my number one goal, booking the job. And for me, that helps take some of the pressure off. So yeah, my synapses are firing. There's energy flying through there. But it's harnessed energy. And I'm not going into the audition feeling desperate, feeling like, oh, I've got to get this thing. I really want this thing. What I do is I have my number one goal as enjoying the process. I want to enjoy that audition. I want the opportunity to play with a character. And when I'm feeling that way, the people who are watching me, whether it's the casting director, whether it's the director, They're not seeing somebody who looks desperate either, somebody who's needy. They're looking at somebody who's feeling confident. And so my number one goal is to have a good time, and that energy just spreads throughout the entire room, and it does take a lot of the tension away. My second goal is I want to learn from the experience. And so sometimes I walk out of the audition and I feel like, Well, I did everything I wanted to do and it was a good day at work. Sometimes I think, eh, I really wish I would have done, you know, something else, and I'll make a note of that and try to incorporate that in my next audition. And the third thing is, if I happen to book the job, that's just icing on the cake, but that's not my number one goal. And the same thing would hold true, you know, if you are selling a computer, you know, and you're talking to somebody. If your number one goal is making the sale, People will feel it. If your number one goal is to enjoy yourself during that process, it will help relax people and it will take some of the pressure off of you as well. So the key thing is when you are going into an audition, you know, sometimes you do want to help get rid of some of the extra nervousness. Sometimes I will shake my hand, sometimes I'll jump up and down a little bit prior to going in there just to release some of that nervous energy. But when I go into the audition, I don't try to squash the nervousness. I just embrace it. I use it. I feel that it brings more life to what I'm doing. And most importantly, enjoy it. And that's how you will have your most success. If you have any questions at all, or you have a comment about this, always feel free. You can go to my facebook.com/howtomodel page. If it's more of a personal question that you don't want people to know about, you can just email me at aaron@howtomodel.com. And something— if you would like to be on my mailing list, you can actually go to howtomodel.com, sign up for my free 30-day challenge. Every day, I will send you a video helping you along, teaching you Everything from putting together the right photos, preparing before photo sessions, how to find an agent, how to market yourself, putting together comp cards, headshots. Every day for the next 30 days, you will get a free video. There's absolutely no cost to this, and you will automatically be placed on my weekly mailing list as well. And I send out free acting and modeling information to you on a weekly basis. So anyhow, I'm Aaron Marcus. I hope you found this helpful, and I also, I really look forward to talking with you again soon.