How to screw the PRIME YEARS of your Life | Akash Gautam | Motivational Speaker for Youth & Students

Mr. Akash Gautam. अच्छा, just also taking a check which language should I use because मुझे भाषा का थोड़ा प्यार है। हिंदुस्तान में बोले जाने वाली छह भाषाओं सीखने की मैंने कोशिश की, सीख भी ली। और छह भाषाएं सीखने के बाद मुझे समझ आया कि मैंने अपना time waste किया because अगर भाषा महत्वपूर्ण होती तो मिस्टर बीन्स इतने अच्छे वक्ता कैसे होते हैं? अरे, सो कहने की चाह होनी चाहिए और उससे महत्वपूर्ण है कि सुनने की चाह होनी चाहिए। मैं छः की छः भाषाएँ इस्तेमाल करूँगा। बीच में अगर किसी कुछ समझ नहीं आया तो आप मेरी भावनाओं को समझो। बाबू, जैसे the most the most wasted time In the lives of today's youth is between 10 p.m. and 2 a.m. ये ताली बजा रहे हैं यही विक्की डोनर हैं। Yeah, जैसे ही खाना काके कमरे में पहुँचे मतलब if you if you actually if you were to record your conversation with with your girlfriend or boyfriend and you were to listen to it after ten years you'll feel embarrassed here. क्या डिस्कस करते हो साला? कितनी रोटी खाई क्या किया? And then some youngsters they kiss on the mobile phone. Graham Bell जिसने फोन बनाया उसकी आत्मा पछताती होगी होस्पाइप में। होस्पाइप में कचरा फंसने की आवाज़ आती है ना? Relationship सब सारे दोस्त relationships में व्यस्त हैं और ज़िंदगी से तरसते हैं। Yeah. You know, we are falling in love very regularly and very frequently, and almost every time it's a true love. Yeah, youngsters today are relationship addicts. You know, they keep on moving from one relationship to the next, hoping that the next one will satisfy them more. Yeah, I'm sorry, but 80% of the emails which I receive are about relationship issues only. और तो 80 परसेंट, two third have a problem कि breakup हो गया और one third किया कि हो नहीं रहा, right? You know just anyways हम ज्ञान नहीं देंगे मतलब कुछ काम नहीं देता मजा आया है। We'll talk about it a little later, right? Further what to do? Daydreaming? You know TVs, Netflixes when you reach home at the end of the day's work you're too tired to even meaningfully engage with your parents or siblings. So we switch on a default channel called TV or on the mobile phone seeing all this stuff, right? And, and, you know, overeating or undereating. People have complexes. Boys think they're not tall, girls are fat, curly hair. Complexes. I have to ask you this question. How much sexy would Sachin Tendulkar or A.R. Rahman be if you take away cricket or music out of them? Being sexy is how How much successful you were? Yes or no? So get rid of your complexes. If you were really innately, hugely successful, thousands will flock you to chase you and to date you. Yes or no? All right. Today. No, no. सुनो सुनो जो ताली बजा रहे हैं वही पापी हैं। Today. Today, if your friend has a love life or a romantic life and you're jealous of it, you're very in a great zone. Today you chase your goals and become awesome, and tomorrow thousands will chase you for your awesomeness. Right? I personally believe that the biggest trap in the youth today is relationships. Because you're, um— Because you're not prepared for them, you know. It's it's like you get into a relationship because you're lonely. Such a boring assumption because your friends are into a relationship. It's such a boring and and imagine if you are bored with your own self and you're getting in relationship. आप खुद bore हो किसी और की जिंदगी में जा रहे हो उसकी जिंदगी में तो तुम kinder के सबकी फैला दोगे यार. You know be be more You need to be centered first. You need to be less feverish first. You need to be sorted in your mind first. You need to understand yourself first. You need to have grown first. You need to be settled first before you get into a relationship, because being in a relationship is a full-time job. Boys know it. Paying all the coffee bills. Coffee bills se aada hai. Girls, pay your own coffee bills. Because when boys pay for you, they will seek for return on investment. लोचा तभी होता है। Are you with me? Anyways, no ज्ञानियाँ. For funny emotional issues, and if you look into any of these things which I'm speaking about, these are nothing but your misguided efforts to calm and comfort yourself. Yes or no? You know, over a period of time, most of the things will numb you out instead of recharging you out. You know, why are depressions so prevalent? Young people are antidepressants because by the time you're five, you're ten, you have a mobile phone. By the time you're less than eighteen, you have a car. By the time you're twenty one, you've already had two three breakups. बचा क्या? Too fast, too soon. बात पे, बात पे टूट जाता है साला दिल है कि BSNL का broadband connection. You know, कमाल का हौंसला दिया है खुदा ने हम बंदों को. वाकई हम अगले पल के नहीं होते और वादे हम पूरी जिंदगी के कर लेते हैं. It's crazy, man. Like, it's, you know, and because media— look at what media tells you. JK Super Cement. Vishwas hai, isme kuch khas hai. In your age, this is the biggest distraction. Attention seeking syndrome, wanting to be flirting is fun. Yes or no? मज़ा आता ना जब you meet someone online and then suddenly attraction starts. You meet walking and chatting, sitting and chatting, shitting and chatting, sleeping and chatting. And you think no one is watching, but your mind is watching it all. It tracks, it attracts. The direction of your focus engine, and it automatically gets blunt. Yes or no? And I tell you what, it's so itra bada mithya hai, itra bada attraction hai. It's a magical feeling, yeah. You know, you know, boys and girls, it begins with butterflies in the stomach, and some people end up having babies in the stomach. It's magical. Love is such an expensive gift, boys and girls. Yes or no? Do not give it to someone who's very cheap. It's a very expensive gift. Don't just give it, fritter it away. You raise your own self. अपना औरा बढ़ाइए, अपनी औकात बढ़ाइए. Automatically the right people will come into your life. And this is the time. I'm so jealous of you. I'm forty plus and you're in your twenties, not even. I wish I were. The irony with the life is that we live it forward, but we understand it backwards. I wish I had the time as much as you had. I would have done crazy things. Yeah. I was doing the same stuff which you are doing, but अकल नहीं होती ना तब। That's why I'm here. I'm here to tell you get it itchy right ya. Don't waste it away. हजार काम कर दो, भूख रखो। कहाँ टुच्चे मुद्दों में फंसे हुए हो? Ladies, all the ladies raise your hand. तुम औरत नहीं हो? हाथ खड़ा करो। पूरा हाथ खड़ा करो। मेरे पीछे-पीछे बोलो, बोलो boyless. Is not equal to joyless. You know, get out of that. I need attention. I need someone to go to coffee with. Someone should praise me. Oh, निकलो बहन इन मुद्दों से। तरक्की करो। Are you with me? You know, boys, get out of those hairstyles and looking macho. You know, I am the same guy. Your mother warned you about, right? Okay. Right. So, you know, people are in the relationship breakup issues. Salaam. By the time you are twenty, people have already had three point two breakups. Average. It's crazy, man. वो लड़का लोग तुम सुनो मेरी बात. हमारी जात तो एक है यार। भाई भाई स्टाफ मेंबर रहे। वो बेवफा है तो क्या हुआ? मत बुरा कहो उसको, किसी और से तुम प्यार करो और दफा करो उसको। Hold on hold on। यहाँ पे किसी और करियर है। Because अगर वो लड़की नहीं है, because चंद्रमुखी हो या पारो, क्या फर्क पैदा यारों? Right, बस मेरे साथ बोलिए, बोलिए when I do the right things, the right things will automatically happen to me even if I don't want. Yes or no? अब इसका दूसरा बोलिए when I do small, तुच्छा जलील थिंग्स, the जलील थिंग्स will automatically happen to me even if I don't want. With me? Choice is yours because Maharashtra Roadways की बस पे लिखा होता है कि सवारी अपने सामान की कोई ज़िम्मेदार है। ज़िंदगी किसकी है तुम्हारी? ज़िम्मेदारी किसी ने ली है? लो साला खुद लो। All the girls raise your hands. हाँ भाई तुम्हारे पे आता हूँ and listen carefully, listen very very carefully raise your hand keep the hand raised all भाई लोग सुनो मेरी बात no one no one in the world is interested in your stories बर्बाद कर देती हो सुना सुना के मुझे ऐसा लगा मुझे ऐसा कुछ मेरे पापा मेरे भाई। भाई लोग सही बोल रहा हूँ? ताली बजाओ भाई लोग मेरे। Anyways, see why I'm saying it? No offense to the— I don't want any Shiv Sena to do a demonstration. Right. See the point is simple, ya. आप अपनी emotional competence बढ़ाइए. Don't seek, don't seek attention. You know? शेरों ने, lions ने, उनके तजुर्बे से उन्होंने क्या सीखा? कि शिकार धाड़ के नहीं चुप रहकर होता है. Keep on silently working. Keep on silently working without seeking any attention. People who chase the spotlight. They're always, they never progress in life. Don't look for attention. Don't look for gratification. Don't look for companionship. Learn to live alone. That's the biggest skill set in today's world. Are you with me? अपने अंदर समुद्र है। अपने अंदर सब कुछ है। Right? You know, आप goals की बात कर रहे हो एक one life, yes or no? उसके लिए यार input different करना पड़ेगा। बहुत तरसाएगी, बहुत तड़पाएगी। ये मंजिल है मेरे दोस्त, मौत नहीं जो पल में आ जाएगी। One line उसमें इतनी एक जिंदगी में भी साला टुचे काम किए, आशीष किसी तरह से मर गए एक दिन तो फायदा क्या होगा? I'm not against those poets or romanticists, but fall in love when you're competent to do it, when you can take decisions for your own self. You need to ask yourself, why are you going to the college? People go to the college because उनको पता नहीं और क्या करें। ये admission ही उसी course में मिली। ठीक है ना traditional route आप college में आ गए हैं। इसके बाद हम MBA करेंगे। इसके बाद हम ये करें। वो classical route चला हुआ ना? You know जो कि बताया गया है हमें ऐसे-ऐसे-ऐसे-ऐसे करना है। You know because the world is changing. I'm not saying you don't educate yourself. Yes, you must, must educate yourself, but you need to be clear why are you coming to the college. If richness is not the reason why you're coming to the college, if versatility is not the reason why you're coming to the college, if making a network of people is not the reason why you're coming to the college, then if just passing the subjects is the reason you're coming to the college, then it's the wrong reason. Are you with me? Right. You need to make that a focal point of existence in the college. Very, very simple, yeah. 7 out of top 10 careers of 2025 are not even born yet. I'm giving you some data. It's biometric future forecasting predictions by top universities of US. And look at it very scarily. You are living with obsolescence. You're sleeping with obsolescence. I'll put it like that. 7 out of top 10 careers of 2025 are not even born yet. The richest man of 2040 also is not even born yet. Predictions. So what will those careers be? आने वाले time में काम क्या आने वाला है? Degree नहीं, interest नहीं, passion नहीं, super qualification नहीं, experience नहीं, pedigree भी नहीं। काम आने वाला है आपने skill कितने? How much time you spend in sharpening your skill set? What is your unique skill that you have which others don't have? Are you with me? I'll give you some data. Have you any idea what is my qualification? What have I studied? I'm a motivational speaker and go and talk to the CEOs across the world, top senior managements. But by education, I'm a postgraduate in fashion. I'm a fashion designer from NIFT, New Delhi. Yeah, it's not cool. Don't clap. It's useless. Only the institution is good, but I did not study anything out there. From fashion to passion. Which clearly makes me believe that qualifications do not always matter. Confidence and skill definitely does. Right? Now, understand the reasoning and the rhyme here. Are you sharpening your skill set? Are you getting closer to what is that unique thing that you have with you? Because your degrees are not going to take you any, any, anywhere. They might give you a start, but after that, it's only what you have with you. Are you with me? Right? 7 out of top 10 careers of 2025 are not even born yet. Who would have known? Apps weren't even there 6-7 years back. Now everything is on apps. People have made millions through apps. Are you able to future forecast what's the next big story? People who are doing it, they're earning and breaking it. And you are spending your time in relationships and looking good. It's such an exciting time to be living in India. Yes or no? It's unprecedented time. Generations, 100 years from now, will look back at this time and look upon this time as saying it was the death of the old and the birthing of the new. Such an exciting era it would have been. Yes, it would have had some turmoil, but such an exciting time it would have been. I would be more worried about making millions today. Each and every one of you should be more worried about making a lot of money and paying it back to the world than worrying about a relationship or worrying about getting a job or a placement. What are you focusing upon? आपका ध्यान किधर है? आपकी जिंदगी उधर है। मतलब तुच्छी बातों में बजरोगे और तुच्छे ही रहोगे यार, right? You know and problem is that जितना समय तुम एक job को लेने में लगाते हो या आप कुछ मेहनत करते हो सारी उम्र उसको insecure see you are competitive guys you trained to be competitive in tenth class you scored good marks you were competitive 12th, you wanted to get good marks— competition. Graduation— competition. Post-graduation— competition. You clear those exams, CAT— competitive, competitive, competitive. After that, to get into a job— competition. To appraisals— competition. Competition has become a biological imperative with you till the seminal level. And personally, I feel that the more competitive you are feeling about in your life, the more scarce you will feel about things and you'll feel not the abundance. So instead of getting into those jobs, my personal request to each and every youngster out here is, think about your ideas, start business. You don't need money for the business, you need conviction and guts. Are you with me? You might earn less for the next few years, but over a period of time, you'll earn 100 and 200 times more. It's worth it, work. Yes or no? Otherwise, you'll always be changing jobs. One second you'll change, but you'll— you would not even know where, in which direction your life is heading. You might post those selfies of on a trip to Singapore with your family and tell the world on Facebook that you're happy, those 200 people, but— and think that you're happy also, but you don't know what you're missing. Are you with me? Right? It's your own life. It's not your wife that you can take it non-seriously. Right? You know, it's a beautiful time. Anyways, you know, what matters is how big is your idea? What is your idea? Are you getting closer to finding your ideas? People are doing crazy things today, yeah? There are no rules in the world. Everything has a backdoor entry. Have the guts. How many of you got a good reading habit? बाकी लोग क्या फोटो वाली किताब पढ़ते हैं क्या? मस्तराम की कथाएं सुनते हैं, right? So If you don't have a good reading habit, बस, you'll never feel that thing about your own self, that mojo within. Start reading. Read literature which is not related to your subjects. You'll get that cross-contextual learning. You look at the same things in a newer way, on a newer footing. You get ideas. Read newspapers, see news channels. Don't see those star pluses and craps. What the hell? Are you with me? You get your ideas, meet people, network a lot, see what's working, see where the problems of the world are. When I got into this profession of motivational speaking, I had— I saw people in this field, in this domain, who would— who were very, very straitjacketed, talking very formal stuff, you know, this, that, yeah, whoa, you can win, you know, stuff like that, right? And I found that there was a need for someone to come and refresh the audience, to actually go ahead and practically solve the practical problems. So I tried to juxtapose my own personality against my profession. You do the same. Are you with me? Do anything, yeah, who's stopping you? Your parents are not stopping you. Your friends aren't stopping you. Your teachers are definitely not stopping you. You are stopping yourself. Get up, get out of your way, gentlemen. Your mind is stopping you. तुमने चाहा ही नहीं, हालात बदल भी सकते थे। तुम भी हिमालय की बुलंदियों पर पहुंच सकते थे। तुम भी fantastic health पा सकते थे। तुम भी fantastic fitness, amazing relationships, खूब सारा पैसा, खूब सारी spirituality ला सकते थे। तुम तो ठहरे रहे उस झील के पानी की तरह, साला दरिया बनके बहते तो कहाँ से कहाँ पहुंच सकते थे? ऐसी बातों पे ताली बजाना और फिर कुछ न करना ये भी एक आदत है। लड़का ठीक बोलता है, बड़ा बोलता है। Change होने में दम चाहिए, guts चाहिए, character चाहिए। Are you with me? Because स्वाद में फंसे हुए ना हम, we have to look cool to the world around। सब बोलेंगे कि वो देखो, वो तो बड़ा towing है। In order to live up to that cool image, how much energy we invest in trying to look cool to the world? Yes or no? We are servants. We are huge servants of the image which we want to project to the world. You know, if a lady girls, a lady gives a compliment to a boy sitting out there. Keep boy. What's your name? Green t-shirt. Yeah, shirt. Huh? Kamal. Dhawan. Dhawan. Very good. Nice. You know, ऐसा लगा RDX है वो चल रहा है। So, if a lady gives you a compliment, कि धवल तुम्हारी sense of humor बहुत अच्छी है। इसकी what लग गई? इसको तीन साल BMS में cheap joke मारके घूमना पड़ेगा। Because baby said I am very good. You notice we we are huge servants of the image which you want to project to the world. Instead of spending so much energy in living up to that image, a better idea would be to spend and divert that energy in making smart progress. कम बोलो मैक्सिमम एनर्जी आप ही कहाँ लगती है फालतू में एडवाइस देने दूसरों की लाइफ में घुसना ये करना वो तू ये कर देख मैं बताती हूँ वो जो सोनू है ना वो है ही रामखोर भाई घोड़े को ब्लाइंडर्स क्यों लगाते हैं घोड़े को ब्लाइंड ताकि वो अपने उसपे देखें। Instead of thinking of giving ideas to others, think of giving higher ideas to your own self. Make smart progress. Talk, बोलिए talk less. Avoid mess. दूसरों का advice से बिल्कुल मत तो गलती जाएगी। अपना slave है जिंदगी में इतना बड़ा दूसरों के life में क्यों घुस रहे हो? Right another distraction because seclusion is the price of all if your goals है लोगों को लगता है कि हमारा अकेला कोई फ्रेंड नहीं है, हमारा कोई ये नहीं है। कौन सा भाई? जो कोई अर्थ को एक आ गया। अगर तुम्हारे मेरा कोई फ्रेंड नहीं है यार, I'm sharing with you। मेरा घर पे कोई नहीं आता। जो हैं फ्रेंड्स दूर हैं, कभी-कभी बात हो जाती है। I don't need friends, अपनी लाइफ में सिलेबस होता है। बहुत स और फ्रेंड्स आते हैं तो नेगेटिव एनर्जी लेके आते हैं। वो एटल झूठ बोलता है कि हर एक फ्रेंड जरूरी होता है, और जो तेरा है वो तो मेरा होता ही नहीं। यू नो मेडिटेट करो, फिटनेस रखो, गोल्स पे फोकस करो साला और करना क्या है? मजा ही उसमें? वो जो छिछोरापन में मजा नहीं है यार इतने साल सबसे मोटिवेटिंग लाइन कही थी रूपांतरवेज इन पन्यान वालों ने, जो अंदर फिट, वो बाहर है। अंदर सड़न चलन कुड़न है, टेंशन है, फ़ियर्स हैं, कॉम्प्लेक्सेस हैं, एंजाइटीज़ हैं, कॉम्प्लेक्स, वरीज़ हैं, फेलियर्स तो फिर बाहर कैसे हिट होगा? इनपुट ही गंदा है तो आउटपुट हसीन क और जो सोचने वालों की दुनिया है वो दुनिया वालों की सोच से अलग होती है। यू नो सपने तो बहुत हैं हम ये करेंगे वो करेंगे करेगा कौन? अपना हालीमून स्वयं रचाना पड़ेगा दोस्त। कोई और आके नहीं करेगा। Don't spend those money on those luxuries upgrading your handsets, upgrading or how people want to look at you. Pick up those apprentice ships, those internships in Starbucks or here and there and see how customer behavior is. How people behave, how do you handle money. Do things which no one else has done, yeah? Do stuff which is— which people don't like to do. That will get you richness early in your life. Go to a foreign country without money, work there, earn money and then stay in that country in 2 months. You know, can you think of doing eccentric things? You know, work with startups. The more difficult it is, the more easy it is. Why? Because 99.99% will leave because it is difficult after some time. That 0.01% who hang on will become rock stars. You don't have to become a superstar in your market or domain, whichever you're thinking. You just— you're all management students, I'm saying this to you. Today there's no market, there are micro markets, there are niche markets. Yes or no? For every emotion of a human being, there are 10, 10, 10, 10 markets and every 10 market has 100 competitors. All you need to do in here is hang on for good number of years, build your thought leadership and become the number one in your micro market. When you're the number one in your micro market, people will buy you at a premium. The difference between number one and number 3 is not 2 places but 20 places. You don't go to number three doctors. You go to number one and pay them more. To relentlessly focus on your unfair advantage, the thing that you do and others cannot. Now you might have a counter question. I don't know. मैं तो घीये की सब्जी हूँ। मुझे पता नहीं कि मेरे में exciting क्या है। हो सकता है ना यस और नो मैं भी ऐसा ही था मैं कुछ 40 मार्ग खान नहीं हूँ ज़रूर ज़रूर 7.5 right nothing if you are confused today gentlemen and ladies it's a great zone to be in because confusion is the beginning of clarity but what is the sin पाप ये है that you don't आप हाथ पाँव ना मारो उस confusion से निकलने के लिए anyone who's gotten clarity in life has gone through the tunnel of confusion You find out what's good about you, and you will be able to find it out. What's good about you by making hundreds of mistakes, by exposing yourself more to the world, by taking up internships, part-time jobs, seeing how the world is working, by reading more, by seeing more, by watching more, by observing more, by being a by being a good student to life and living better. Are you with me? Rather than just be lazy, कुछ लोग तो ऐसे कॉलेज में देख के आते हैं ना कैसे लगे मतलब the age में आए थे। मायूस, दुख भरी दास्तां सुनो मेरी। टेंथ क्लास तक हमें लगता है कि हम सुपरहीरो हैं। कुछ भी तो कुछ भी फोड़ देंगे, पढ़ देंगे, है ना? कुछ भी कर देंगे। लेकिन टेंथ के बाद आपकी गाड़ी अगर चल रही है और ये आपके गोल्स इन लाइफ में हैंडब्रेक लग जाती है। गाड़ी को क्या लग जाती है? Handbrake किस चीज़ की है? Handbrake है आपकी आदतों की, जो कि धीरे-धीरे set होती हैं sixth seventh के बाद और tenth के बाद jam होनी शुरू हो जाती है, which makes you so predictable, which chain you, which prevent you. Not that you don't want to change, you really do wish to change, but आपकी आदतें आपको जगड़ रखती हैं tenth के बाद। वो that's why I'm saying For the parents sitting out here, आपका बच्चा आपकी बात सिर्फ 12-13 साल तक सुनेगा। जो सुनानी तब तक सुना लो। पोलियो की पाँच बूंद डाल दो। तीन पाँच जो भी है, उसके बाद नहीं सुनने वाला हूँ। क्योंकि हैंड पर एक लग चुकी है। Yes or no? Thank you very very much. I'm not talking to you. God bless you. One life. Rise and shine. Rise and shine! Rise and shine! Thank you very much again!