Dr. Aravind Padmaraju argues that suppressed anger, not anger itself, causes harm. He points to serial killer Jeffrey Dahmer and actor Jaydeep Ahlawat as examples of people who seemed calm but harbored deep unexpressed rage, often rooted in early conditioning to suppress emotion.
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He slept with a gaze. He murdered more than 14+ people in a row. He was a serial killer, Jeffrey Dahmer. His interviewer says that he is the most calmest person they ever met. But look, some of the calmest people are carrying the most unexpressed anger. They are the one who says, I'm okay, don't worry, I'm fine. They don't fight, they don't complain, they just keep swallowing it. But every time you suppress what hurt you, you are not necessarily releasing it. You are often just pushing that emotion deeper into the pattern, and eventually the smallest thing can become final trigger. We have even seen public examples of this. Actor Jaydeep Ahlawat recently spoke very honestly about his own struggle with anger, describing his temper as sometimes destructive and saying he can snap very quickly. And this is what I want you to understand. Anger is not Always the problem. Unprocessed anger is. Maybe you were taught as a child, good girls don't get angry. Don't talk back. Keep the peace. So you have learnt to suppress it, and years later you either explode or you turn that anger inwards. Healing does not mean becoming aggressive. It means that learning to feel the anger, understand what if, what it's trying to tell you. And express your truth before your body and relationship have to carry the burden. That's the real emotional healing. If you have spent years swallowing your anger and you are ready to understand what is underneath it, comment heal. I will send you an exclusive ticket to my 2-day Heal and Manifest Bootcamp.
