In this personal testimony and instructional video, Dr. Aravind Padmaraju, a health and wellness coach and certified healer, recounts how chronic conflicts with a colleague and recurring arguments with his wife left him emotionally drained. He explains that he discovered the Hawaiian forgiveness practice Ho'oponopono, which centers on a four‑sentence prayer—“I’m sorry; please forgive me; thank you; I love you”—and combined it with body‑scanning and VAK (visual‑auditory‑kinesthetic) techniques to release stored emotional pain. By repeatedly addressing the person involved, taking 100% responsibility for his own feelings, and observing physical sensations until the tension dissipated, he reports that the colleague eventually left the organization and his marital disputes became less hurtful, allowing for smoother resolution. Padmaraju emphasizes that Ho'oponopono heals the practitioner, not the other person, and that internal peace radiates outward, changing relational dynamics. He concludes by inviting viewers to a free three‑day masterclass and longer healing challenges, urging them to adopt the four‑sentence practice to take ownership of their emotions and transform their relationships.
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I used to constantly clash with a colleague who saw me as a competitor, and he used to trouble me a lot in my office. And I had a huge fight with my wife, left me emotionally drained, and I did not try to fix it. I just healed myself instead with Ho'oponopono. So, hi, my name is Arvind Padmaraju. I'm a health and wellness coach and international certified healer. In this video, I am going to deep dive into how I used Ho'oponopono to heal my relationships instantly with this prayer. For a long period of time, every single time there is some clash happens with my colleague or some clash happens with any relation, I used to feel like a barriers. I used to feel like there was so much of heaviness I used to carry at work. Most of the times I used to have, uh, always a disagreement with the colleagues and they are doing lot of politics behind me. And I used to feel like a threat constantly, where they do something bad for me and where my boss will fire me. And this was the consistent pattern for me. And at home, every single time there is an argument happens, I used to feel that I could not express what I wanted to express. I was holding so much of anger, blame, emotional pain until I revealed I learned about this amazing technique which I'm going to share it with you in this video. What if I tell you by just using this amazing prayer you can instantly heal yourself? And what I realized after learning this healing technique is every single pain or emotional— what you are feeling is your own creation. So there is one of the beautiful word one of my mentor told or I learned in Power of Now book: don't shoot the messenger, listen the message. Because every single person who's coming and creating that discomfort in you is somewhere inside you. You did not accept that part what they're showing, or maybe they are showing the fault within you which you don't want to hear from them. Okay, so let's dive deep into today's video. How you can use this powerful Ho'oponopono prayer, which is the 4 sentences: I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. And how you can use to heal your relations. But it is not about healing other person. So just remember, Ho'oponopono can never heal other person. It is all about what you're feeling internally and you being saying and healing your own emotions. Because energetically we all are one. If you release all the negative emotions, bring the positive emotions towards other person who is creating the discomfort, automatically, energetically, you can start sending those signals to him and the behavior will change. So that is what is the Ho'oponopono. Just remember one thing, Ho'oponopono is not to heal others, to heal what you're feeling, either when you think about the situation, when you think about the problem, when you think about the person. There is some emotions are creating within you, you need to start clearing them. Yes. So let's, let me give you exactly what happened and how it has been changed my life with the example of how I used this healing technique for my healing my colleagues, whatever the, whatever the challenge I had with him, whatever the conflict I have. So this is back in a 1, 1.5 years back. So my colleague constantly used to trouble me. He thinks that me as a competitor, every idea I bought, he used to come and challenge, or he used to do something in the behind. I used to, I felt like, you know, he's doing something, something bad behind me, and I used to be always just defensive, and even I used to get angry about why this guy is doing like this. But I asked myself, am I protecting— am I projecting him bad? Or why exactly what I'm feeling inside me? Why should— because the same other behavior is not hurting me, but why his behavior is hurting me? Then I went into deep understanding, because by the time I also started learning about most of what my experiences are my own creations. That is what I learned, and that's when I started using this Ho'oponopono. So every day, whenever I used to feel any kind of a discomfort, I used to repeat, dear, that person name, and I used to say, I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. And I used to express why I'm sorry about it. I'm sorry about it, judging him that why he's behaving like this. I'm sorry about why he's behaving like this. I'm only blaming him, and I'm also asking forgiveness 'Because without me, you should have not even— this situation should have not even happened.' I used to give, 'Please forgive me for not taking ownership for my own part, create this conflict within between us.' And I used to say, 'Thank you for realizing me that there is something within me I need to heal. Thank you for coming and showing up because it is indirectly contributing into my progress.' And I also used to say, 'I love you for whatever you did which which is making me to progress in my life. I used to keep saying these words until— and I also used to basically scan my body during this time. I used to feel a little discomfort most of the time on my chest area, and I used to keep repeating these words until I see this energy is completely released. Yes, so this is how I used. And also I used a VAK technique. It's all about once you identify the pain, you You keep observing the pain, you keep using different techniques to release that pain. Because every single emotional pain actually stuck into your physical body. So when you use these words, what is happening is it is releasing that from out of you. So what beautifully happened after I started healing layers by layers over a period of, I think, 2 weeks or 3 weeks. I completely felt normal. Whatever he used to do outside, it doesn't even bother me. And what happened over a period of time, this particular colleague is completely gone away from my life. He got another job and he moved out and all of them, and completely the problem is solved so beautifully. So this was the biggest thing what I learned is every single person who is bothering you is actually coming and showing you there is something you need to work on yourself. There is something inside which is you need to start healing. Yes, so this was the one real thing which happened with me. The second important thing which always used to— I used to struggle with every single time there is a big fight happens with my wife, and I used to have a lot of anger and lot of frustration. Why she is not understanding me? Why she always judge me, why she used to, has to say all this to me. And I go through a lot of emotional pain inside me. As I already told you in this video, that every single message, you have to take it as a message. Don't try to target the other person because you're not taking the essence of that discussion. So that is when I started focusing on why am I feeling this. Then when I deep dive in, So started observing as a third person. So why I'm getting hurt? Because she is showing me some of the faults which I don't want to hear, because those are the faults within me. And the second thing is there are some of the things, the past experiences are creating that negative feeling within me which I'm being upset with her. But actually what was happening is inside is already there. Whatever she was saying, whatever that anger she was showing, I was going through with my own pattern where I did not accept in, uh, in the past. Then what I used to do, I used to just tell her name and I used to say 4 simple words. I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you. And I used to feel whatever the emotions I was feeling and I used to repeat, I'm sorry for blaming completely on you. I'm sorry for judging you for your behavior. I'm sorry for not understanding you and only focusing on my part. And please forgive me for not taking ownership of my part. And please forgive me if any of my actions created this discomfort for you. Please forgive me for not understanding you sometimes. Thank you so much for showing me this particular behavior, which identified some of the things which I need to heal in myself. I love you so much for being there in my life and making me realize how blessed I am because of you. And I keep using these 4 sentences with a different reason. I keep doing over and over, and I start observing my body. Over a period of time, I see that the intensity used to go down. And believe me or not, every single time I do, within no time, we both will start having back to the normal. And I never used to feel— even right now we still have those arguments, but those never hurt me because she is just showing if my— there is something which I really did the bad, I'm okay to accept, I'm okay to forgive, and I'm okay to move on. And which has given me the flow in my relationships, and we have a great bonding with my wife. And even though arguments happens, they get sorted out store easily and I keep healing myself. So what I wanted to tell you with this, the relationships, is most of the times what the pain, what is creating within you is the something which is blocking you internally, which you need to heal. The more you heal, the more you go inwards. Whenever there is outward so much of chaos, you started feeling better because the inside is what is creating that outside. Feeling, whatever outside result or outside whatever you're feeling. Yes, so this is what is my realization. So never force other people to change. Always see what is that energy which is holding you, creating that pain. So Ho'oponopono is the best way. And one of the important thing, whenever you say Ho'oponopono, you take 100% responsibility of whatever you're feeling, whatever results you have and whatever actions you're seeing from the others. Yes, this is how. And keep saying these 4 sentences until you feel better. Yes, so this is what I wanted to share in this video. So my relationship did not heal because I convinced anyone. They healed because I choose to feel peace inside of the pain, and I started letting go all the stuck energy from my own inner self. The moment I became internally peaceful, internally made happier, and accepted about and took 100% responsibility about every single thing what is happening in my life, the healing journey started. And I started healing all the negative emotions. I kept healing. Yes, if you want to actually practice this Ho'oponopono with me, I do— there is a free 3-day masterclass, and also I do a 30 days and 90 days healing challenge where you can start identifying those traumatic experiences and start healing. So if you're really interested, the link is there in the below description. So join that link and start your healing journey. If you felt this video is valuable, click on the subscribe button and also click on a bell icon so you will be notified when I post my new video. So until then, I want to remember you that The real power is within you. So repeat these 4 sentences: I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. So I will see you with one more video.
