My 10-Step Transformation: From Suicidal to Successful

There was a time where every single day I used to self-sabotage myself. I was thinking why I have done these many mistakes in my life and why my life is like this. I really wanted to end this life for once for all, and I can't take this pain what I'm going through, and all that bad things why only happening to me. And this was a state, and I was literally into a depression, suicidal thoughts, and I don't know what was happening. But there is one thing, there is a 10 steps which has really transformed me and going from being in depression and suicidal thoughts to being happy and successful and able to fulfill not only all my goals but also able to work on my passion and helping many people to get them out of the suicidal thoughts and giving them again a life. So that was my journey and in this video I wanted to tell you my darkest story in my life, the one of the lowest moments and one of the toughest moments and one of the most depressing moments of my life. So I'm going to share my personal journey and what are the 10 steps which has really helped me to come out of going from suicidal to being happy with myself and going from depression to being happy with every single moment of my life. I wanted to share my personal journey and I wanted to watch this till the end and share it with as many people as possible. Because I want this video can at least impact so many people who are feeling that, you know, they are into a lowest moment and nothing possible. But I want this to be an inspirational story and take lessons what I learned and what is I implemented can help at least 10 people or 100 people. I want you to go through these steps. These are very practical and it will change your life for once for all. So let's begin. Hi, my name is Arvind Padmaraju. I'm a health and wellness coach and a TEDx speaker and a Guinness Book of World Record holder as well. So let's kickstart today's video. So I wanted to tell you a backstory about why did I had those low moments, and I'm going to talk about 10 different steps. How did I go from being lowest moments of my life, self-sabotaging, depression, anxiety, and angry, anxiety, whatnot, all the challenges, to being more calm, more peaceful, more happier, and able to fulfill every area of my life, successful in health, successful in relationships, successful in my career, successful in my finances. How did I go? I wanted to share my journey and practical 10 steps. I wanted to watch this till video and let me tell you what is that my darkest moment. So back in 2021, April, I started, um, I started with my own business where I have founded HAFIT and I started with a lot of excitement and a lot of anger because even the start of that I was angry on someone has rejected me. On that anger, I started, and I started with a big bang, hiring coaches and built my whole business. And, um, over a period of 6 months, because of so many things was happening, I was not able to handle, and I went into a loss of my business where I lost more than ₹20 lakh through my business. Even though I'm doing it better, but something or other was not working towards it. That is what happened by end of December. And the same end of December, I also started one more investment firm where creating returns for higher returns for by using Indian stock market where I have trusted a person and I have invested more than 1.5 CR and that person lost all the money almost like 60% of the money in 3 trading sessions and I lost more than 1.2 CR along with that almost like 60 to 70 lakhs about others money I lost it and the same month I was working in Expo 2020 where my term has came to end. That means another 4 months I had. The April 2022 was my last, and I have lost more than— with all this, the bad investments what I did, I lost more than ₹1.5 CR. And also my job has came into a stall. That means I will become jobless in another 3 months. And so much of burden, and I was almost like ₹1 crore, ₹1.2 crores of a debt. And that was a moment, was lowest moment of my life. And I was literally desperate in every single thing to fix. And I was self-sabotaging. I was very guilty. I was actually putting myself into a lot of pressure and hating myself about all the bad decisions which I took. And I was consistently overthinking. Slowly, slowly it has created a stress. I had sleepless nights. And thanks to my wife who supported me unconditionally. I used to torture her about what is happening and how do I am going to live, how I'm going to protect my family and what is going going to happen? How do I going to clear off this 1 crore debt? On top of that, I don't have a job, and there are a lot of people are going in that time. Even the market was not good because it's a post-COVID, and how will I get a job? There was so many things was happening, and I was consistently being in this overthinking mode. I was slowly, slowly deteriorating, deteriorating, deteriorating. So that was the my lowest moments, and I was even thought about suicidal thoughts I had, and I was actually the toughest moments of my life. But these are the 10 steps which has really helped me. These are the 10 steps which has really transformed me. And I took every single challenge as a blessing. And I started with the first step, and I had more than painful moments. But that moment was the amount of power I had was very limited. And I have grown from going from 400 rupees salary to earning 10 lakh rupees. But I never in my whole career I never felt that way. Then I had only one inspiration that I have gone through something. Maybe there is something even the God or universe wants to teach me. And I have done this one step, which is help me to get over that phase. That phase, that one step is nothing but surrendering and trusting on the God and trusting on the purpose of my life, trusting on the universe that there is some biggest lesson which I need to learn, which I'm missing from my life. And that was one biggest thing I said. I was surrendered. I was praying every single day. God, please help me, please send me someone who can help me to get out of this particular situation. And exactly after 2, 2 and a half months, the first time, that was a second step which I've taken, is during this process of surrendering and trusting the universe and taking, um, looking at the reality and accepting the reality was my second step. Because I was always self-sabotaging, why this happened, why this particular thing happened into my life, why did I do this much of a blunder in my life, how could I put my family into a risk of putting putting all my investments into one bucket and where I blown everything and I put my family security into a risk. I was consistently with this thought, but the second step which is actually released so, so much of burden is accepting the reality. I cannot change the reality, I cannot change the past, I cannot change anything whatever happened in the past. I know that I made a mistakes. I started accepting myself, I started accepting myself and I started saying that yes, I did a mistakes, but I have also failed many times. I went back and showed some of the proof that where I had low moments and how did I grow away from that particular moment. I was consistently remembering those moments. The second step what I did was accepting the reality. The moment you accept the reality, half of the burden is gone. The biggest fight what I had before I did this was consistently not accepting the reality, not accepting that how could I lose 1.5 CR, how could I put myself into a danger where going behind something and which is not working out. And the moment I accepted it, the half of the burden is gone. The third important thing, because of the surrender, because of consistently asking, I need someone to help. First time ever in my life, I started asking for help. I started looking for a coach who can help me to get over that phase, get over and bring back to me with my energy and my back to my old state. So that is when I started hiring the mentors in my life. That was the biggest blessing in my life. What the first mentor who helped me is Alok Tong, and from there are a series of mentors, be it Siddhartha Raj Shekhar, Kartika Nair, and then Vishen Lakhiani, then also Mitesh and Indu Khatri, and then Joe Dispenza, Tony Robbins, and Eckhart Tolle. So there are many millions of people actually helped me with, through their podcasting, through their mentoring, I was able to slowly, slowly stepping onto normal state. So that was the biggest thing. And I also know that many of you, whenever you are in a low moments, always ask for the help because you may be thinking, I am the strongest person in the world, I have gone through so many things. Because when you are in a low moments, your logical mind will be switching off because of the state of you being consistently with that fireflight mode. That fireflight mode will not allow you to think about positively. So this is what I learned from my first mentor, started accepting myself, started taking small, small steps. The third step is always take help, hire someone who is actually there. And that, that was the biggest blessing for me because I was able to heal a lot of past traumas, started working on myself, and that was the one which has actually given me a next level of transformation or next level of evolution. The third step is always ask for the help. Don't suffer because suffering is optional. But going through pain and taking help and coming out of it is always a choice. So you choose, always ask for the help if you really want it. If you're going through any kind of challenges, if you want my help, let me know in the below comment section. I will get in touch with you. I really want to tell you that all the potential is within you. The pain what you're going through is your own creation. The suffering what you're going through is your own choice. You can literally come out of that, and I want you to Always take help. That was step number 3. And step number 4, whenever you start working with a mentor, always don't expect to go from 0 to 100. I was also always self-sabotaging. I will set 10 things, and if one thing, if the 10th thing doesn't happen, I used to self-sabotage myself. Oh my God, that day is such a bad and such a— I could not do anything. And I could put myself into a lot of stress because I was comparing myself when I was in a peak action taker to a lowest moments. Just remember one thing, when you fall from 100 to 0, you need to again build your momentum from 0 to 1 to 2 to 3 to 4 to 10 and then to 100. You can never jump from 0 to 100. That was the biggest mistake. I started taking baby steps. I started because during this time I deteriorated my health. I was, my relationship was not there. I was, I was there with the family, but I was always in the absent. I was never been present. I was never able to acknowledge my presence in them. And I always overthinking all the time. And also my finances got impacted, my career got impacted. The biggest thing what I did is I started fixing small, small steps. The first thing I fixed is my water intake, my walking, my, um, slowly, slowly my food habits, my exercise, and started prioritizing, taking better choices in my money, and started researching what are the mistakes I did and all that. These small, small baby steps. And I never been hard on myself, and I gave enough time to come from 0 to 100, it took almost like a 1.5 year to come back and bounce back to the original state. But that journey was the most fulfilling. And always when there is a, there is a biggest hit in your life, always take baby steps, build that momentum, and then you can really go to the next level. So once you take baby steps, the next important thing is celebrate small wins. Celebrate small wins. Maybe, maybe you started working out 3 days a week, appreciate it. You started learning a new skill, appreciate it. You started drinking more water, appreciate it. I used to celebrate small, small wins. I used to acknowledge that yes, I am progressing, I am not stuck at my place. That was the biggest blessing for me, that, you know, accepting and celebrating the small, small wins which I am doing. Because most of the times we've been very hard to ourselves that we are not counting a small progress which we are making. Over a period of time is what makes a big achievement. So this was the Sixth step, celebrating small wins. And the seventh important thing is the moment I understood that amount of impact a mentor did in my life and amount of impact the teachings which has created in my life, I started aggressively investing on myself. I started understanding every single bit why I'm going through this suffering. During this discovery, one of the biggest, one of the biggest discovery of my life was I was having a lot of childhood traumas. Which I really want to work on. I really want to thank my mentor Kartika Nair, who is the founder of Shinko Shakti, who helped me to come out of all that traumas. And that was the reason I was consistently losing money because there was a traumatic experience which has happened when I was a childhood and I was consistently losing weight. So just imagine if that incident was not happened, if that depression and suicidal thoughts were not happened, I should have never went into a self-discovery journey. I should have never went into this period. So that's why anything and everything which is happening in your life is a blessing. Whether it is a pain, whether it is a failure, whether it is a challenge, whether it is whatnot is happening, and everything is a blessing because the universe or a God wants to teach you some lesson for you to evolve to the next stage. So that was the biggest thing I kept on learning, and I kept on investing. I kept on understanding what were the mistakes I'm doing, what is energy, what is the law of attraction, what is traumatic, what is healing, what is that neuro-linguistic programming, why we self-sabotage, why we go into that low moments. And I consistently kept on learning and learning and learning and learning and investing and implementing all of them, I started seeing— I can— I started seeing so many changes in my life. And I could never imagine last 20 years that things doesn't happen. It started happening in matter of 2 years on working on myself. I was almost invested more than ₹65 to ₹70 lakh on my own personal growth, went into different courses, different modalities, different things. It was every single day, there is 1 to 1.5 hour to 2 hours I was just working on myself. I I was just working on myself. I was still facing the challenges, but I kept on working it. But the learning on investing on the personal growth was the biggest blessing in my life, which has transformed me 100%, 360 degrees. The next step is during this process, not only I'm learning, I started helping the people whatever is working for me. I started helping the people to get out of emotional traumas, get out of their health challenges, and how they can build that muscle of a mind muscle to program and progress in their career. I started teaching. The more I started teaching, the more I'm becoming better, the more my energy was going higher. So this was an 8th lesson. Anytime there is anything has helped you in your life, start teaching to others. I started teaching to my friends, my colleagues, and also my community. So this was a thing, the step number 8. Always teach what you learn because that becomes a default state of your life. So that was the 8th step. And the 9th step is being with a positive community. Whenever you are at the low moment, you are attracting the more low people in your life. And what you need to do that time is your environment plays a major role. I got rid of all the negativity from my life, and even something comes in, I used to accept myself. I used to focus on being with the positive communities. I have part of multiple masterminds to gain that energy and gain that inspiration, gain that motivation to make sure that my energy always there high, and I'm focusing on growing my mindset to the next level where I can grow in my personal life as well. I started every single day, there's 1 to 2 hours I used to read, I used to listen a lot of podcasts. So Jay Shetty, Rob Dial Jr., and Alok Tong, these all, these all people's podcast has really, really helped me to evolve going from depression to where I am today. Okay, that was step number 9. And step number 10, the biggest thing which has shifted myself is I wanted to each one of you to this particular step is life-changing, which is counting blessings and being grateful for every single thing. And I will tell you, the thing what you are thinking that, I know there is nothing in my life, I want you to start counting the blessing. Are you able to breathe? Do you have a house? Do you have food to eat? Do you have water to drink? Do you have people to talk? Do you have parents? Do you have friends to share something? Do you have money where your employer is paying you? Do you have a car to drive? Do you have a bike to to go? Do you have— if when you go out, are you able to see the world? Are you able to breathe? Are you able to actually feel that all the emotions? Are you able to hear? Are you able to walk? Are you able to do the stuff? See how many blessings. I want you to start counting the blessing. This is the biggest thing. Every single day I had gratitude become a part of my life, and I used to consistently be grateful for whatever is happening in my life. And I started being grateful for all the mentors, all the lessons what the universe has taught me, and all the learnings and skills what I built over a period of time, and all the amazing health what I have, and amazing digestive system, amazing every single small bit of it. I started counting and being grateful for it. Because what you're thinking is you are thinking about a 10% of the problem where 90% of the blessings you are missing. So blessing and being grateful is one of the biggest weapon where you can raise your energy to the next level. And I started counting and that became a part of my life. I started appreciating every single thing in my life from my family, my wife, my kids, the love what they're sharing, the happiness what they're giving. Over a period of time by using all these 10 steps, I'll tell you what are the achievements so far. I went from being in depression and suicidal thoughts. So right now I'm the happiest person ever and I became financially free. I went going from the depression, I built a business which has made more than ₹80 lakh in last 2.5 years. And apart from that, I created 10 passive income sources and I built my trading business where I went from ₹1.5 crore to making more than ₹3 crore as a net worth. And not only that, we started helping people and we are right now managing an investment firm which is, which is we are handling around ₹8 crore as a fund. And we are helping people to get on that. Not only that, I have a beautiful life and beautiful health, and I have built my community to grow more than 1,000 people. And I have built a business where I really passionate about helping, and I helped more than hundreds of people to heal from their past traumas and able to help them in their own personal transformation journey. And not only that, I was able to help people to transform their health and reverse their diseases and able to impact more than thousands of super fit families. And this is all what— and not only that, I I became a TEDx speaker and I became a YouTuber. I became a health and lifestyle, health and wellness coach. I became an NLP practitioner. I became a certified life coach. I became a certified Holobody coach. I became a certified Ho'oponopono healer. I am still learning about Reiki. I'm learning about handwriting and I also became the 40 under 40. Soon I'm going to receive that award. Not only that, I completed doctorate in health and wellness and I've given multiple interviews and met multiple people in different networking events. And not only that, I'm currently financially free. I quit my 22 years of a job and I'm doing now full-time health and wellness coaching. And I'm in a mission actually to help super fit families, busy parents who think that being fit and healthy, not only in physical, mental, emotional, spiritual health, is not possible. I am creating a routine. I'm making a simplified, practical, sustainable approach where they can follow in the comfort of at home without following any strict diets, without following any regressive workouts. And, and I'm in actually in a mission of transforming every single parent and give them all the tools and skills which I learned during this journey. And also they become the health superheroes for their kids' health and for next generations to come. So that is where I am. So if I can go from that lowest moments to this moments, there is only one thing. These are the 10 steps which is really transform me. And I want you to tell you one thing. I want you to give you one assurance. Every single power is within you. The pain what you're going through right now, you are seeing in other direction. I want you to take every single pain, every single suffering, every single challenge is a blessing. You will not know the answer, but once you go through that journey, once you evolve as a person, once you go through that phase of a life and you look back, that particular moment was necessary. For you to evolve to the next stage. I am telling you, if I did not have those moments, today I will not be financially free, I will not be working for myself, and I will not be working towards my passion, and I will not be who I am today. The amount of knowledge and amount of people I impacted, nothing should have been possible if that particular lowest moment doesn't happen in my life. And I wanted to tell you, the one single statement every single time was happening in my life was Everything is a blessing. There is someone to take care of you. It is okay. I had to go through it. Accept everything is a blessing. Every single time there is a failure happens, there is a pain happens, there is suffering happens, keep repeating this fold. Everything is a blessing. Universe will take care of, and at the end of the day, everything works towards my higher self. Yes, so this is what is my journey, guys, and I really, really want to appreciate you for watching till the end. And my only inspiration, my only intention is I want you to tell you that whatever is happening in your life, accept it. Whatever is happening in your life is happening for your good. Whatever is happening in your life is— universe wants to teach you something to evolve to the next level. So I want you to accept yourself. And if you really want any help, please do approach me. And I have the links and I also put on a comments. And also let me know if these 10 steps, whatever I told you, if it has really helped you in your own journey. And I really, really I want to look forward to see you, each one of your comment, that what you're going through. And also something I do where I consistently, by learning all the skills, I created a 20-minute routine which takes care of your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual health and wellness, which is just a 20-minute routine and you can do it. I have given a below link, there is a 1-day free trial is there, or if you are fully convinced, you can get into my 30-day challenge where we will work on your physical, mental, emotional health every single day to raise your energies, to raise your frequency so you can handle these kind of situations every single day. If you're really interested, link is there in the below my description. Click on it, and I'm looking forward to see each of your comment that how this particular, uh, my journey, if it's inspired you, if it has given you any kind of a hope, I want you to type in the chat box. I can tell you one thing, you are awesome. You have unlimited potential. The things which is happening to actually show you the true potential what you are been keeping inside that has to come out. So that is why all the things are happening. Thank you so much for watching patiently. 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The, the moment you're able to heal, the moment you're able to elevate, the moment able to give the power to your inner self, the outer world will automatically change. Your reality is a reflection of what you're carrying inside. So that is what it is. Thank you so much. I really, really love you for patiently listening to me. I'm going to see you with one more new video. Till then, Aravind signing off. Take care. Bye-bye. Love you all.