Dr. Aravind Padmaraju traces people-pleasing, shame, and depression to inner-child trauma between ages 5-15, when the brain can't filter experiences. A single incident at age ten triggered his own 27-year depression. He describes how these encoded memories drive roughly 90% of adult subconscious behavior and outlines healing through inner-child work and parental-wound cleaning.
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Yes, absolutely. So when I, when I told about the deep root causes, there are 7 root causes I found. One of the root causes is the point which you are talking about, which is the inner child traumas, the inner child experiences. So this is one of the things which we need to fix it. So what happens is when you are a, when you are a child between 5 to 15 years old, your brain is in the alpha, theta, and delta wave state. There is no filtering.
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There is no filtering about good or bad. What happens? Your hippocampus filled, majority of your hippocampus filled with the memories when you are a kid. For example, the wife and husband is there, they're just arguing and kid is watching and fear started why these people are. And then the second thing is there are 2 siblings are there and parent is giving importance in front of them and neglecting other person. Their actually internal inhibition is not that. But the kid is seeing every time my parents only support to my sister or a brother, and they feel I need to give more to get the love, and they become the people pleaser in their lives.
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And the second thing is you have an emotional abuse happened. Someone has abused you, someone has physically maybe abused you. What happens is that deep level things, the story what your inner child creates, the perception, and the perception Story will also have the emotional patterns and the deep level. When I actually worked on my own story, I told you that, you know, 27 years I've gone, I'm going through a deep depression. What I found is one of the biggest reason my guilt, shame, and fear, these emotions were very common in my life. It started when I was 10 years old with one incident. That incident dictated me for 27 years, and I tried every method, hard work, doing everything. I used to go to the Almost top, one mistake come to down. And I did this for multiple times. And the last, I was about to hit the end button in my life. But when I understood this is majority of them happening because of this 5 to 15 years, you need to clean them. Every negative emotional experience is a dead rat. And you are seeing the, the responses what you are living right now. You are 90% of adulthood It depends on the experiences what you had as childhood.
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The fear what you got, the people pleasing what you got, you're becoming— you are struggling with saying no to the people, and you're not able to forgive people, you're not able to receive the power, you're not able to feel the power, you always feel low, you always feel powerless, and you shame yourself, and you cannot enjoy the happiness. All these memories are some or other incidents happened as a kid. And until and unless we don't go back to that incident, there's a process of inner child healing. We go back because our memory, our mind doesn't have a difference between a reality and whatever is perceived. That story is already there. Every time there is a fear, harm, so it goes goes back and reads that story. And that kid, the inner inner inner child of yours, is your ninety percent of subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind has all the memories. and that memory has already created a story, and you are saying that you are, you are useless, or maybe you are not good enough. If that is created as a kid and you play with that story throughout your life, by any chance we have next life, you will continue the same emotional journey to the next level as well. So this is one of the most foundational things which I do in my 3 Days Breakthrough Experience.
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So we work on 7 core root level problems. Where majority of the past creating your current future, current and future. So we need to work on it. One is the inner child, and if you don't heal the inner child, you're living with the dead rats and experiencing the smell, and you are upset with outside world.
Yes, exactly. And I even love this example that perfume वाला that you know it will stay for some time, but after that you will again go back into the same smell. So you know like when we are talking about inner child healing, there is something like when I work with people in the same thing. And I have also seen a lot of people go in blaming their parents.
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Like, you know, my parents are the problem. So even though the parents are still, you know, humans at the end, they have their own past experiences shaping them. So how can you let the audience know that it's not even your parents' fault? It just happens and you become the chain breaker. So if you can throw light on how should we see our parents' relationship then?
Yes. So, um, when I told you the majority of your inner child traumas. For example, there are 2 things. Whatever damage is done is done. We cannot change it.
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So there is a process of healing even the parental wounds because they are the source of energy. Forget about how they give, uh, whatever they did in your life. You are today in this world because of their choice.
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Forget about how they treated you, how did they create a condition, maybe their own journey, all of that. But without them, we are not there. We need to accept them as they are. So there is a powerful process of the Parental Wound Cleaning. Basically, as I told you, there are 7. One of them, which is basically combination of your generational karmic loops. Majority of them, when I start working with them, majority of the fear is not even your fear.
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Majority of your guilt is not even your guilt. You're carrying because as part of our ancestral DNA, there is only one thing moves is your emotional karma. The emotional karma pass on to one life to other life, and there's a powerful process of ancestral trauma healing where we break that emotional karmic loops. Once we break it, and we have a crazy shift in the people's the way they think about themselves, the way they take a risk risk-taking, the way they change it. So this is the second actually the powerful thing which you need to fix it. The first is inner child. Second is your ancestral trauma in that your parental wounds and. There, your entire ancestral wounds also has to be done with a process to heal that.
