Dr. Aravind Padmaraju argues that when you blame a breakup on your partner changing, you're usually seeing your own unresolved emotions reflected back at you. The real work is internal: accepting your partner as they are and healing what their behavior triggers in you, not waiting for them to become someone else.
A lot of breakup happens because of one thing, that is you have changed. Yeah, you are not the same person that you used to have. So how can you grow individually? Yeah, so most of the times when other person changed, you are changed. He's not changed, he's actually showing all your imperfections. He's showing your reality as a— as through his behavior, and you are not happy with yourself. The most of the times when you say that you changed The problem is internally you did not work on those stuck emotions, whatever is there, whatever the things which you want other person to change. So deep within you know that that other person will never change, and you're trying to do something which is not possible. You know that, but you keep trying it. So rather than that, is every— no one is perfect in this world. You need to accept the person the way it is and also see what is within you which is creating that emotion for you. Once you heal, once you accept the other person as it is, then I don't think so there is anything can bother you.
Manifestation may feel less like chasing what you want and more like becoming the person....
