Dr. Aravind PadmarajuHealwitharavind · Founder & CEO

People stay in toxic relationships

10 Jul 2025 · 1 min

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In this monologue, Aravind Padmaraju, Ph.D., explains that many individuals remain in toxic relationships because they fear being alone, a fear that stems from a deep disconnection from themselves and a lack of self‑love. He argues that the problem is not the partner but the individual's internal sense of not being enough. To heal this, he recommends practicing Ho'oponopono, specifically a "rebirth" forgiveness exercise that helps people deeply forgive past experiences, reconnect with themselves, and cultivate self‑love. When self‑love is established, one no longer attracts toxic partners and gains the courage to leave unhealthy relationships if they do arise.

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There are many people who stay in toxic relationship. They just don't want to be alone, so they keep on, you know, trying. They keep on trying, uh, and they stay in that toxic relationship just because they think, I can't be alone. Yeah. How do we heal the fear of loneliness? So the fear of loneliness only comes is when you are deeply disconnected with yourself. The thing what you are looking from the partner is not the problem with the partner. In the deep within, you know that you're not enough for yourself. You're not feeling the love for yourself. So the one activity which you can do through Ho'oponopono, where I teach the rebirth exercise, where you deeply forgive everything happened in your life and deeply connect with yourself. The moment you start seeing the love for yourself, you become the attraction of that person. First of all, you don't even attract the toxic relationship, and even if you attract the toxic relationship, you have the courage to move on with that, move out of that relationship.