Two speakers discuss communication for introverts. Speaker B advises embracing authentic vibrancy and practicing skills without performing for large audiences, while balancing energy with self-care.
I am an introvert. Many people I know are introverts. Most of my clients are introverts, and we do not get our energy from other people. And I've watched some people, like we go into a Chamber event or, you know, a big networking event of it, of some kind that are, that's in person. And I'll watch some people get up in front and they're, they are like over the top on the their gestures and their tone of voice and everything. And I can tell that they are clearly extroverts and they thrive on this over-the-top stuff. So for, for us people that would like run from that, what advice?
Well, I have a few things to say. My advice, first of all, is being authentically vibrant is not over the top. Everybody has a natural vibrancy that when it is unlocked and a person breaks free from that childhood conditioning or corporate conditioning that has them have to be nice and perfect and whatever, when we break free, a life force flows through us. And it doesn't have to be like big, like, okay, everybody, here I am. Authentic vibrancy is you being you in a way that feels good to you and everybody who's around you. That's my first response. Second response is nobody has to get up in front of the room if they don't want to. Nobody has to become a speaker that speaks to 10, 20, 30, 40, 100, 200 people. If that doesn't call to you, then by all means don't do that and keep developing your communication skills. Whether we're talking about non-verbal communication or verbal, it is at the heart of good business in my mind. Good communication matters. So start noticing what you're doing and how you're communicating and Maybe like any area of life, give yourself a challenge to grow and learn something. Third thing that I want to say, and this is the last answer response, is I am not an extrovert, and I love when I'm actually in front of the room and getting the energy back and forth that can happen. Dotty, it is amazing how cool that is. But put me in a room with hundreds of people, and I just want to talk to one person at a time. And when I'm done, I need a lot of time to take care of myself and come back to sitter. So I don't— I— we're all different, we're all complicated, and may we all become the best versions of ourselves.
