A creator shares a decade of harsh comments about her appearance on social media, mostly from men telling her to change her hair or makeup. She learned to stop seeking approval from people who dislike her and focus only on those who actually value her work.
I'm scared of social media. I guess it's, um, the fear of not being accepted. Hmm. You know what I have found? We got 3 minutes. I have found that there are people that don't like me, and I've discovered that I don't want to work with them anyway, so I don't care. And, and this— when I started doing video probably 10 years ago I had all kinds of people criticizing what I was doing and, you know, just not being supportive whatsoever. I mean, it would be stupid stuff like, Dotty, you should straighten your hair. Dotty, you should wear lipstick. Dotty, you should wear makeup. I mean, it was just like crap. Okay. It's one of those things, right? Coming from men, of course. Um, and I just realized that I don't want to work with these people anyway. So I don't care. And the people that liked what I was doing are the people I wanted to work with. So, um, I would say literally be yourself, and if they don't like you, don't spend one iota of energy thinking about it. Okay, I'll take that advice. It has served me well. Because I do get in my head about Why don't they like me? Da da da da da. You don't care because ultimately you want people that love you to be your clients and the other ones, eh, who cares?
