Dotty Scott talks with someone about being judged for physical traits like birth deformities, scars, height, and weight. They argue for looking beyond first impressions and practicing self-acceptance instead of letting appearance determine how you see someone.
Can you give some examples of things that maybe aren't really in our control that might happen?
You know, yeah, the, the thing that, that I find difficult is being with people who make that judgment in such a way that it is so firm that it just can't be changed. And I feel badly about this. Someone who might be born with a deformity or someone who's got a facial scar or a scar on some other part of their body. They're just things that, you know, we can't control our height. I mean, I think in the olden days there were some people that controlled their height and controlled the size of their feet by wrapping them, but that's not generally the thing. We can control our weight For the most part, my life coach is totally awesome. I've watched her go up and down in weight, and I love her no matter what weight she is, what size. It doesn't make any difference to me. When you get to know someone, that's great. But in the beginning, for those people who are really judgmental, my suggestion is wait and look beyond what you're seeing now, because people make different things work for them, and we won't know what they are if we don't give them a chance. So those are things that we may not be able to control, but we can control how we feel about ourselves. So if we can accept who we are and our uniqueness and our marvelous way of being, then it doesn't matter really what other people think.
