Everything You Know About Mindset is Wrong

You don't have a growth mindset. You don't have a fixed mindset. They're not real. They're on a spectrum. You can shift them and shape them. Doing daily personal development, daily mental conditioning is so important because it's very easy for your mindset to go off the rails. Your mindset is malleable. It means it can change. When we think about mindset, what are we perceiving? Today we're going to talk about your mindset as a dynamic lens. Your first mindset shift is you need to understand it's a dynamic lens. You don't have a growth mindset. You don't have a fixed mindset. Those are concepts, but they're dynamic even. They're not real. Right? You can adjust them. They're on a spectrum. You can shift them and shape them. They're not forever types of things. They can be developed and there's a bigger spectrum than just those things. Often people think it's just one thing, but like, it's not. There's a dynamic lens to which you perceive the world. So let's let. What are we perceiving? Let's draw out your lens. I want you to do this in your notes. I need you to have this forever.

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So we're just gonna. We're gonna, like, put you here, and this is you looking out through your lens.

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Hopefully, you know, it's happy, but it might be sad. I don't know. I don't know. But I can tell you it's going to be affected by three simple things. And then I'm going to break down how those perceptions can really shift your life. So stick with me. This is the biggest part of the training. And if I get you to understand this concept and these concepts from here, we will work right through how you interpret things, right through your negative thinking, right through your relationships. We'll work right through your skill development. We'll work right through your achievements. We'll work right through your stress and the bad days and your health, like, all through one simple picture. So draw it out. Do the work with me.

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So you're going to have a lens. This lens is dynamic, right? It's always being shaped. But what are we seeing is the question when we think about mindset. What are we perceiving? What is the thing we are seeing through this lens? I'm going to draw this out with you. Please draw it out with me on your sheets. And then we're going to work through it. The first thing that we are, perceiving is our self. Okay, how do I perceive myself? My mindset is my set of beliefs and attitudes and assumptions about myself.

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That's one lens that we have.

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I am seeing who I am, and it is developing for me a belief about who I am. I am perceiving the world and how I move within it, but I'm perceiving myself like I am knowing who I am, and it is setting up for me an attitude about myself and the world. It is setting up a set of assumptions about who I am and how I operate, what I prefer, and how I progress in the world. So it's a lens, it's dynamic. It's day by day, right? Isn't it true a couple weeks ago you felt pretty good about yourself, but then you found, like, maybe two days later, you felt really low about yourself. Why? Because mindset and our perception about ourself, it's a dynamic lens. One day you look in the mirror, you feel pretty good about yourself. You're having a good day. The next day, I'm fat, I'm ugly, what's wrong with me? I'm old. Look at the wrinkles. You're terrible to yourself. Why it's dynamic. That is why doing daily personal development, daily mental conditioning is so important, because it's very easy for your mindset to go off the rails. Your mindset is malleable. It means it can change. There are a lot of forces that can change, but you got the concept right. It's like, oh, wait, the like, my perception of myself can change. And we believe, like, or we've been told that mindset is more like, structured than that. Like, it will last longer than we think. It actually takes a lot of caretaking. It takes a lot of caretaking. The good news is when you make a fundamental mindset shift as you learn today, like, one fundamental mindset shift can actually improve people's performance, grades in school, promotability, work quality. We can see those improvements and their last. Like, a fundamental mindset shift from your first set of fixed mindsets as an example to a growth mindset that can last three years in the research. Like, it's fundamental, it can last, but it needs a lot of caretaking. Like that pet, if you want to be actually happy, if you actually want to feel good, if you actually want to progress through life. Because remember, my job is not to teach you baseline. I'll let the you know those fundamental concepts or that generalization, I'll leave that to philosophy or to academic psychology. My job is to interfere in your Life as a coach. I need to get you to longer term success and improve your well being and your relationships while we get there.

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That's the work of high performance before. Okay, now let's back all the way up. Why is this so important? Your view of yourself is very dynamic. This is why the work of personal development, why the work of reading, why the work of journaling, why the work of self, introspection, meditation, therapy, coaching, the stuff of know thyself. You don't know thyself forever, right? It's not like one day you have an epiphany and you know yourself forever. Know thyself is an active teaching and you have to continually think about how you perceive yourself, but more importantly, not reflect on it, not ruminate it, condition it. How should I view myself if I want to move through my world toward my aims successfully? We're going to start with again the idea. Here's you. You have a lens through which you view the world. You view yourself in such a way it sets up your beliefs of self, your attitude of self, your perception of self, and your belief in your capabilities in the world.

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You do the same thing though, for your social relationships. Your mindset affects the beliefs, the assumptions, the perceptions, and your sense of relatability with other people. And you have to really think about that. It's like, oh, okay, my mindset is making my marriage happy or not. My mindset is raising good kids or not. My mindset is helping me develop a team or not. And this is so important because think about how easy it is today that this dynamic lens has gotten super scratched by judgment, comparison and division. Just think about how profound that is that so many of us view the other, the other political party, the other preference, the other style, the other personality, the other enneagrams. We view these other things as enemies. And if you view this, if you view yourself positively and you view other people negatively, is that going to have a certain result in your life? Of course it will gauge where you are not only just in terms of like mindset conceptually, but your actual mental health and outcomes in life. It's very important to pay attention to this. You have a dynamic lens and you have to shape this dynamic lens on your social reality. As an example, a lot of people, when they perceive their spouse, they're perceiving a person 15 years ago, five years ago, 10 years ago, they haven't dynamically updated their perception, their belief, their assumptions, their connection with the person who's here. Now. Your spouse, your partner, your kids, they change. And as they change, have you changed perception with them or have you held them to one thought, one pattern, one expectation that doesn't even exist anymore? That's not fair anymore. And this is why I keep using, I'm going to keep coming back to this word dynamic. A dynamic adaptive mindset is so vital for real world consequences. Okay, so what else do we view? Well, obviously we view the world outside of self and social. There's circumstances, there's how the universe works, there's nature, there's situations, there's opportunities and threats and challenges that we perceive the world in, not just our immediate social environment, but the world overall. Right? The world, where it's at, where, where it's going, how do we feel about it? This is all related to our mindset. Okay, so when someone says mindset, you're gonna think, oh, it's a dynamic lens of how I interpret, see, perceive and feel and move through the world, related to myself, social and the world. Okay, that's the biggest picture I can paint for everybody. And now we can get into the work of. Let's bust these things down. What is it? What are the common elements that we are actually looking for? Perceiving and sensing, like in here, where all this relates. So let's draw this out and I'm going to teach you a simple little framework. If you're ever trying to like tune up your mindset, here's what you're actually looking for, here's what you're interpreting and sensing within these things as we move.