Short YouTube talk by Brendan Kane explaining signs of emotional intelligence. Kane cites Carl Jung’s idea that making the unconscious conscious prevents it directing your life, and distinguishes emotionally intelligent responses (reflection, understanding) from reactive ones (raising voice, trying to win). The piece emphasizes self-understanding rather than emotional suppression or control.
Here's how you know someone has emotional intelligence. And this goes back to the psychologist Carl Jung, who said, until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate. Now, what he meant was this. Emotionally intelligent people, they don't start with a reaction. They start with reflection. They take time to understand why they feel a certain way instead of blaming the world around them. You can see emotional intelligence in how someone handles conflict. When something goes wrong, you see, one person raises their voice while the other lowers it. One person tries to win the argument while the other tries to understand it. Emotional intelligence isn't about controlling your emotions. It's about understanding them so deeply that they no longer control you.
