Brendan Kane explains how to spot when someone is wasting your life. One mistake is a mistake, but the same one repeated is information. Watch for apologies without change, repeated hurt, broken promises, and boundary-crossing they later call your drama.
Here's how you know someone is wasting your life. And this is a simple warning from Maya Angelou, who said, "When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." Basically, what she meant is everyone makes mistakes, but when the same mistake keeps happening, it's no longer a mistake, it's information. And when someone is not worth your time, that information keeps repeating. They apologize, but nothing changes. They hurt you, then act confused when you remember it. They cross a line, then make you feel dramatic for having one. They promise they understand, but the same same version of them keeps showing up again, and every time they do, you start negotiating with reality. You tell yourself they didn't mean it. You tell yourself they're just stressed. You tell yourself this time will be different. But Maya Angelou's point is simple: stop arguing with the evidence. At some point, the pattern is the answer. They don't just disappoint you once, they keep showing you who they are, and you find yourself pretending you didn't see it. And that's how you know someone is not worth your time.
