Brendan Kane explains that liars over-communicate, piling on unnecessary details and refusing to let silence happen. They're not just hiding facts; they're trying to control how you see them. Watch for excessive elaboration.
Here's how you know someone is lying to you. And this comes from Friedrich Nietzsche, who made it very simple. He said, "I'm not upset that you lied to me. I'm upset that from now on, I can't believe you." Basically what he's getting at is that when people lie, they're not just hiding the truth. They're trying to shape the way you see them. And one of the obvious ways people do that is by saying too much. When someone is lying, you'll notice they give you more detail than you asked for. They keep adding context that doesn't really matter. They don't let the story breathe. They always have to fill in the silence. When someone is lying to you, they don't try to change your perception of what happened. They try to change your perception of who they are.
