Bruce DoughertyFounder, Discover U · Human Behaviour Specialist Life/Family/Relationships

Build Walls or Boundaries? Finding the Right Balance #shorts

6 Sept 2025 · 0 min

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The speaker warns against two extremes: having no boundaries leaves you vulnerable to harm, while building an impenetrable wall blocks out the people who care about you too. The answer is a flexible approach that keeps you safe without isolating you.

But go to the other extreme. Build a giant brick wall with no gate. That way nobody gets in. Not the strangers who might harm you, but also not the people who care about you, who just want to sit with you in peace and enjoy the authentic you, the one that allows you to feel safe and content. That's the trap. No boundaries at all, or boundaries so rigid nobody can reach you. Neither one really works.