You're not your emotions, you're the pond they swim through. Anger is a piranha, people-pleasing is a clownfish. Observe them, feel them, let them pass without feeding them your attention.
Now the truth is, we often confuse who we are with what we feel. We say, I'm angry, as if we've become the piranha. We people-please and avoid conflict, as if now we've become a combination of both the clownfish and the piranha. But you're not the fish, you're the pond. Emotions aren't meant to be lived experiences, they're meant to be observed, felt, and then released. We need to let them keep swimming. Sure, they'll always be a part of the ecosystem, but you don't have to focus on them, and you don't have to feed them.
