A short spoken monologue by Ryan Daniel Moran (uploaded by Capitalism.com) reflecting on the human tendency to chase the next desire and later romanticize past states. Using personal anecdotes (money, body image, parenthood, hometown, grief, business), Moran argues we habitually overlook present positives until they are gone and urges conscious appreciation — "these are the good old days."
When I was a kid, all I wanted to be was a millionaire.
Now that I am a millionaire, all I want is to be a carefree kid. There was a time in my life where I lost a lot of weight and I had abs for the first time in my life. But I felt too skinny and all I wanted was to add some muscle. Now that I've added some muscle, all I think about is how much I miss my abs. Before I was a father, all I wanted was kids. I wouldn't trade my daughter for anything. But I sometimes miss the days when I was alone. When she was a baby and she was crying in the middle of the night, all I wanted was for her to be older. Now that she's older, we have such a stronger connection. But sometimes I miss the days when she was a baby. When I was growing a small business, all I thought about was growing a big business. Now that I'm growing a big business, a successful business, I sometimes miss the days when it was small or simpler. Growing up.
In a small town near Cleveland, Ohio, all I thought about was getting out. Now that I live in a big booming city, I miss home.
I realized the other day that there are two sides to everything. There are the problems that we feel in the moment and there are the positives that we think about in the rear view mirror. We feel the problems and we long for the positives. We rarely, if ever, pause to appreciate the positives while we're still in them. And instead we just experience them later. And we experience them in the sense of missing the times that used to be.
A friend of mine lost her brother recently and my heart just broke for her because I knew that all she thought about, all she wanted was to have her baby brother back. And I knew that she thought that if she had her baby brother back that she would appreciate him so much more and love him so much harder than she ever had. Now I have a brother and I don't spend 24 hours a day thinking about how much I love and appreciate my brother. But if anything ever happened to him, all I would think about was having my brother back. It made me realize that there are things in my life that I overlook. That if they were taken away from me, it would be the thing that I longed for the most. The times when my daughter is screaming, if anything ever happened to her, all I would want would be to comfort a screaming baby. If my business went under and I was working for someone else, I would long for the grind of starting something, spending long hours building something. If I was going hungry, the extra flab covering up my abs. I would gladly trade my hunger for a little bit of fat if I had food to eat. The beautiful curse about being human is that we are wired to find problems. That does not make us happy, it actually makes us miserable, but it also makes us grow and create. And to solve those problems, we rarely, if ever, pause to appreciate the things that are in our life that we could be grateful for until it is too late. But you get to control what you focus on. You get to control whether you consciously appreciate the things that are in your life or if you focus on the problems and you wait until later when you feel that sense of longing for how things used to be. No matter who you are, where you are, what you have or don't have, I can promise you there is someone else looking at your life, longing to be in your situation. Even in the situation that right now you see as a problem, there is someone who looks at your life and longs to be in that situation, even though once they got it, they would probably long for something else. No matter who you are or where you are, you have so much, much to be thankful for and to appreciate. These are the good old days.
