Ryan Daniel Moran says he regrets education choices, relationships, and business decisions but reframes them as R&D instead of failures. Dan Sullivan's concept lets you learn from the past without judgment and make better choices now.
Carl Knight asks, do you have any regrets? And if so, how do you deal with them? Okay, I'm a nerd and I watch Survivor. I've never missed an episode of Survivor in my entire life. 32 seasons of Survivor, I think, and I've never missed an episode ever. And I'm always shocked when people are voted off and they say in the final words, no regrets. Who in the world does not have regrets? Like, if you fail at something, don't, of course you have regrets. Like the idea of like, like getting to the end of your life with no regrets. That doesn't make sense to me because I have regrets and I can't do anything about them. Like, I can't go back in time and fix them. So, yes, of course I have regrets. I have regrets around where I went to school and what I started off studying. I went to college to be a pastor. I am clearly not a pastor. This would be a very different show if I was a pastor. That would be interesting. There we go. Preview of an upcoming episode. Anyway, I have regrets. I have regrets around people I dated. I have regrets around business decisions I made. I have regrets around businesses that I started. I have regrets around things I didn't do that I'm only now getting to. Yes, who in the world does not have regrets? People who have really low standards. That's who doesn't have regrets. The great question you asked as a follow up was what do you do about them? And like most things, I think Dan Sullivan probably has the most insightful way to view this and he simply says if you can look at your life as though everything up until this point has been research and development, R and D, that frees you up to make the best decisions moving forward. Everything up until this point has simply led you to where you are. And that is when all decision is made in the now based on your previous experience. Look, you did not get to choose who your parents were. You did not get to choose where you were born. You did not get to choose your natural health. You have a set of cards that you have been dealt in the same way. Your past experiences, your regrets, your successes, all of that are cards that you currently have. Play the best hand that you have. If everything up to this point has been research and development, you are free to make the best with the cards that you've got. That is the same across the board among all people. We all are operating with the set of experiences and the opportunities that are in front of us. That a is a super freeing thought and a it eliminates all judgment. I love the quote from the Great Gatsby that says, the minute that you want to judge someone, just remember that they didn't have the same set of opportunities as you did. Look, we would not berate someone else for the regrets in their past. So let's treat ourselves in the same way that we would expect to treat others.
