Ryan Daniel Moran reflects on how natural tendencies and learned programming from his upbringing shape his current behaviors and limits. He describes being a fast starter who avoids details, takes on too much work across multiple businesses, and ties these patterns to childhood experiences (parents splitting, feeling alone, financial worries). He notes that the beliefs that helped him succeed so far will not carry him beyond his current level and need updating.
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I've become really fascinated lately with tracking the stories and the behaviors that I've learned along my life because we have natural tendencies. We have natural wiring, but then we also have programming. We have things that we've been programmed with that we're good at or are natural for us because of our environment. And I'm not a detail person. I am a fast starter. Bring me as little data as possible to be able to make a decision. I don't like details. I avoid them. They freak me out. And a lot of that comes from me taking on way too much. And so I can't handle all the details of everything because I take on all kinds of challenges. I have four different businesses going on at any given time. I'm helping a client sell a company. I'm helping a student go from 1 million to 5 million. I'm recording. Podcasts are going to be downloaded by tens of thousands of people constantly doing way too much. And so why do I take on way too much? Like, that's some old childhood stuff going on of when my parents split. My primary belief was, I'm in this by myself. Like, I gotta take care of myself. No one's gonna take care of me. And my parents worried about money, so I learned to worry about money and success, too. And I just decided that I was gonna put it on myself. And that got me to a certain level. And now I know that.
That was funny. Well, I had fun editing that one, Chris.
And that belief got me to a certain level, but it's not going to get me beyond where I am.
I've done a lot of thinking through my own junk and programming. We've all got it. We've all got stories, we've all got things we learn. We all have things that were put into our brain that served us at one point, but don't serve us going forward. Like, our brains are not wired to make us happy. They're wired to help us survive. And so we are most of the time operating from a place of survival. And that becomes our filter for the rest of the world. Depending on the experiences you had mostly as a child, you have a filter for the world on what's safe, what isn't safe, what's good, what isn't good. And we're mostly evaluating the world through that filter. That filter got us to a certain point. It doesn't have to stay that way. And depending on what results you want, what results you want out of your life, sometimes we have to upgrade those beliefs because they're based in something that was wired into us as a young person. I've only gotten aware of this in the last year or so of my life as I've gone through a lot of pain, a lot of challenges, a lot of changes in my life. And by identifying my habits and my behaviors and going, where does this stem from? It's kind of amazing what comes up and how things that happened a long time ago continue to affect how you view the world now. And I know some of you are watching this going, ah, not me, that's no, everybody, we are all programmed. We are all being brainwashed by our experiences and what we put into our brain. So I, even as somebody who I think I'm fairly self aware, have discovered how much programmed I had in me that was holding me back from a certain point. And if you're not getting the results that you want, there might be a story in there that has held you back into this point. So that has been my experience and I pretty sure that's the experience of just about every person alive. Your brain and your beliefs are wired to give you the exact results that you're getting right now. And we're a product of those beliefs and those habits and those behaviors. And we need new habits and we need new beliefs and most people only focus on one, and we need both if we're going to have a process of manufacturing the results that we want. It's not just beating ourselves into the ground. It's not just meditating to the universe, hoping that something different happens. It's believing that something can be different and developing the habits to be able to create that.
