277: Care For Yourself - Mental Health for Entrepreneurs with Sherry Walling

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Hello and welcome to the Food BloggerPro podcast this week. My name is Alexa and I'm part of the small but mighty Food Blogger Pro team. And we're just so excited that you decided to tune into the podcast today. Today's episode is. Man, I'm just so excited about this episode and to share it with you today. And that's because it's about a topic that we don't talk too much about, but it's a topic that's incredibly, incredibly important, especially during the kind of year we've been having. This year. The focus of today's episode is actually mental health for entrepreneurs. Why it's so important, practices that support positive mental health and how to make lasting behavioral changes. Bjork interviews Zen founder co founder Sherry Walling in this episode and she draws on her background as a clinical psychologist who has experience supporting high achieving people with high intensity jobs to help entrepreneurs support their mental health and emotions. It's such a good, important interview and I know you're going to love it. So without any further ado, Bjorke, take it away.

Sherry, welcome to the podcast.

It is so good to be with you. Thanks for inviting me.

Yeah, I'm excited to talk to you about something that when you'd take a first pass at it, you'd say, wait, is this a conversation around businesses? Is this a conversation around building a brand online or blogging? Which I'm guessing is something that you hear a lot. But I think at its core it is the thing. It is one of the most essential things around business. Building around creators, creating content online. And that is kind of this broad category of mental health specifically for entrepreneurs. So you have zenfounder. And I want to hear a little bit about the origin stories of zenfounder. If you could rewind the tape a little bit. What did the conversation look like and what were you thinking when you said, hey, this is something that I think there's a need for it, and I'm going to create a company called Zen Founder. And what did that look like? Take us back to that point.

Yeah, absolutely. It was a really specific moment, actually. That was the birthplace of Zen Founder. Before that moment, I had trained as a clinical psychologist and had done most of my work with people who had really high intensity jobs. So ER docs, people in the military, people who were exposed to a lot of trauma and really high levels of stress in the context of their work. So that was kind of my background, both as an academic and as a clinician. But there was a moment I think it was January 2017 when I came home from my clinic and found my husband, who is a tech entrepreneur. He was sitting in our home office and he was crying and I was, this is, you know, not a, not a regular event in our house. This is unusual.

Yeah, this, this, we need to talk about this.

Yeah, that's not like business as usual. So of course I was like, you know, what's going on? What happened? And he said, aaron Schwartz died. Aaron Schwartz committed suicide. And I said, that is, that's terrible. I'm really sorry to hear that. Also, like, who is Aaron Schwartz? This wasn't somebody that we knew. This wasn't a friend or a family member. But Aaron was a young entrepreneur who founded Reddit, among other things, and was, I think, representative of this bright, young, amazing mind. And so it was right there at that moment that my serial technology entrepreneur husband and the psychologist in me kind of hatched this plan for what can we do about this? How do we help make sure that some of the brilliant, creative, innovative entrepreneurs that we were in contact with would, would feel healthy and well enough to really see their full potential and to grow their businesses in a good way?

Yeah. And when you, when you look back at what you had thought it was, what, what you're getting started with today, does that look pretty similar to what you had imagined? Or as you started to build it, did you realize, hey, this is going to be. Look a little bit different and feel a little bit different than how it started?

I think I'm happy to say I'm still really close to the mission where we started. We started with this idea that education and conversation around mental health need to happen in every place where entrepreneurs are gathering. I think there are certainly some forces within culture and within larger trends in business that have facilitated that, but I'm still very much part of the world of whether that's conference talks or writing books or doing podcasts or just normalizing conversations about mental wellbeing for entrepreneurs and for people who are in business?

Yeah. Do you work individually one on one? Like, would you do a zoom call with entrepreneur who's struggling and is that part of what you're doing? So you have a little bit of understanding of what that looks like as well as a macro level from a conference perspective?

Yeah, absolutely. So the macro level is kind of what we give away. Right. The mission is to provide high quality information around mental health for entrepreneurs, but then the direct intervention. So I do a lot of one on one meetings or meetings with co founders or just conversations with People who are in some way feeling stuck, who, who want to be healthier, who want to be more present, who want to have better relationships. So that's sort of the bread and butter of the work. That's what pays the bills and I think fuels my ability to do the preventative work.

Yeah. When you are having those conversations, let's say you and I were to have one of those conversations, what would be some of the first questions that you would ask or the things that you would look for to kind of get a lay of the land for where somebody's at. And I ask that because I wonder if there's some type of practice that we could do individually as we think of how we are operating, to kind of self analyze, like what are the questions you ask so we could ask ourselves those questions to get a sense for where we're at.

Yeah, I love that question. I think I take in the lay of the land in a couple different domains of life. So even though you don't think about it automatically, when we're talking about mental health, I always ask people about kind of their physical well being, how are they sleeping, how are they eating, how's their energy level, are they exercising or moving? Those are really helpful indicators that sort of let me know if someone is pretty depressed or if someone is also engaging in the kinds of foundational practices that will help support mental health. You know, if you're not sleeping, not going to feel good, period.

Yes.

So I think just identifying some of those vulnerabilities is an early part of the conversation. I also ask a lot about relationships. Right. Like your relationship with your significant other, your relationship with your co founder, with other people in your life. And once again, that can feel sort of separate, but it's a good indicator if you're feeling really irritable or having a lot of conflict in any of those key relationships, that maybe something is sort of unwell or amiss within you. It's at least worth exploring.

Yeah, that's interesting. One of the things that I think is undeniable, and we talked about this a little bit hinted at it, is that who we are and how we are showing up impacts the thing that we are creating in the world. And I think one of the through lines that you hear a lot of times in the entrepreneurial journey is this idea of hustle and kind of draining yourself in service of the thing you are building and the reality of how much work that it takes. Do you find that with the people you work with, the conversations you have, that, that spirit of work is detrimental to mental health, or is there some reality of that needing to exist? And we just need to figure out ways to support ourselves when we are in that season of Hustle or whatever you would call it.

Yeah, I think it's both. And the co founders of Basecamp have popularized this hashtag on Twitter, but it's killthe Hustle porn, which I really appreciate. So I think we have over glamorized hustle as a way to get towards success. And when we over glamorize Hustle, we're really overlooking how the mind works, that if you want a creative, innovative mind that's capable of focusing, that minimizes mistakes, that's able to do innovative problem solving, that just as an organ, your brain must have a certain amount of rest, must have a certain amount of time solving different kinds of problems or dwelling on different topics. So. Yes.

And good energy, feeding it like water. And like, what are these core things that are required to make this thing work?

The care and nurture of brains.

Yeah, totally.

So how do you.

Which is interesting because I think about what I do, and I literally come into my office and I sit down, and then my body doesn't really move. It's just for 6, 7, 8 hours is just my brain looking at a screen, two screens going back and forth and like, thinking about stuff and responding to it. And when you frame it up like that, it's like, oh, man. It is the most important thing that we can be doing to treat our mind, our mental health, our brain, with the utmost care, because it's the tool that we're using every single day. Not everybody's sitting at a computer, but you can start to understand how that's. How that becomes so true. Um, so do you see that with the conversations you're having with people right off the bat, are they. Are. Are. Do you. Do you start to see those opportunities for improvement pretty quickly? And how do you go about changing those?

Yeah, I think it's pretty easy to recognize when someone is doing the thing that they know they shouldn't be doing. Like sitting in the same chair for 12 hours. Like, we sort of know, oh, I probably shouldn't be doing. But just one more thing. One more thing, one more email, one more thing, and we get sort of sucked into the vortex of that.

Yeah.

So I think that, you know, like any kind of behavioral change, first step is self awareness. Right. It's recognizing the pattern and it's, you know, trying to identify where you're most vulnerable to the pattern.

Yeah.

And then secondly, can you explain what.

You mean by that? How do you do that?

I think so. When we talk about self reflection we're sort of identifying like okay, I get really tired around 3:30 in the afternoon and that's this sort of decision point of I could get up and go for a walk or better yet even quit for the day. But often I just lean in and kind of make myself slog through.

So relatable.

And when I send emails during that time I like, I make more mistakes. Like I just am not, I'm not creative, I'm not at my best. So just, just again recognizing, oh hey, this is how this pattern shows up for me. This is what I tell myself to keep myself in the chair, which is just one more thing is often, is often what we say. And if I'm going to change that pattern, I have to recognize that it's happening.

It's. That feels like it might be hard to do. I think one of the things that it's interesting, I think from the outside I think I can think of people that are in my life and I can see the patterns and even the mental framework that they have for decision making or the repeat things like I'm just so busy I don't have time for it or I don't know if it'll, you know, if I'm capable of doing this or whatever that the rhythms of that might be. But, but I think it's hard for like it's hard, it would be hard for me to see the things that I am doing consistently or my own repeat behaviors. Do you have any advice for people who are looking to reflect in that way to understand themselves more?

I think this is where our emotions are actually a really good tool. So I think a lot of us who are hard workers are used to overriding how we feel and just saying push, push, push. But if we can recognize an emotion of increased anxiety, of just feeling strain or stress, of feeling sort of sad or irritable, if we can recognize that emotion, that's often a good indicator that it might be time to shift our body, change a pattern, pay attention to something.

What do you mean by shift your body?

I mean get up from the chair like in this specific example. Yep.

Yes.

I'm getting kind of irritated. It means I've been pushing my brain too hard in the same way.

Yeah, it's interesting. I can think of when I first, I had my first official office and it was like $200 a month and it was in the like there was this church that had rented A building for their offices. And I had asked if I could rent a little office within those offices. And it was like moldy and it wasn't super nice, but it was like an office and I loved it. And there was a couple times when I kind of came up against a wall like that and I would go for a walk and I brought an apple. And I to this day remember thinking like, wow, this is such an impactful thing for me to like go on a walk and eat an apple. And I remember being so surprised at how my brain worked so differently in that moment compared to when I was sitting in a chair. But it's also hard to do, especially when there's always something. There's one more thing. There's always one more thing. So do you have any advice for people who want to figure out how to like pattern interrupt, or is it just making a decision about it and saying, hey, for a week, for two weeks, I'm going to try this. Whenever I come up against this wall, here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to get up and eat an apple and go for a five minute walk.

Yeah, I think you can do it from the inside out, which is that listening to those internal cues, oh, I'm getting grumpy, I'm getting tired. I'm going to make an external change. Or you can do it from the outside in, which is to say every two hours, I'm going to set a little alarm for myself that says get up and move or I'm going to put a calendar alert for having a snack or for calling a friend or for doing some of these other helpful behaviors.

Yeah, that makes sense. So this is going back. We had rabbit trailed off of this. You had said the number one thing and talking about some of these things. Do you remember what number two was? Yeah.

Number two is seeking support. It's saying to someone in your life, someone who's in your office or your co working space, like, hey, I'm gonna work on improving my mental health by taking more breaks during the day. Or I'm going to work on improving my relationships by making a list of old friends and calling someone every day and just reaching out and connecting and trying to counteract a lot of the isolation that many of us are feeling right now.

Yeah.

When you speak that goal aloud to another human, you're more likely to follow up on it. And especially if you ask them to help you follow up.

Yeah.

Behavior change is best in groups.

Yeah, yeah, sure. So you have a group of people you say, or an individual that you know and trust. This is something that I'm going to do. An example would be, and this is important because Lindsay would be the primary person who would facilitate this, which is, I told Lindsay, I said, I'm gonna try and cut out, at least just for a period of time, refined sugar. And it's, like, really hard when Lindsay, who's testing these recipes and baking cookies and, like, all these great things. Um, but now she knows, and. And it's like, hey, she's supportive in that. And. And not only me saying that to her has been helpful for me just to speak it into the world, but also she's like, hey, all right. Like, if I'm test testing a batch of cookies, I'll do that at the office instead of at home. Or if I do it at home, I'll give you fair warnings. Yeah, like, eat some carrots so you're not as hungry. And it makes sense how that helps in a really real way. Are there any other tools and maybe this is. Solving. This is like every technologist problem is like trying to solve it with a technology. Are there. Are there any tools or apps or kind of services that you can think of that also would aid in this kind of habit formation or trying to improve mental health or anything kind of in that realm?

Yeah, there are a lot of things that are preventative things like Headspace or the Calm app that help people meditate, practice breath, practice, other forms of self regulation that are positively associated with mental health. And then there are a number of different apps that will track symptoms. Or you can sort of wake up in the morning and enter into the app how you're feeling emotionally. It'll track your sleep, basically looking at the full package of how you're functioning and how that's related to your inner state.

Yeah. Headspace is an app that I've used before and had this kind of rhythm of using it got out of that rhythm. But in this season of, you know, for us, we're in Minneapolis, we just went through this season of unrest as a. As a community. There's a global pandemic. There's. It's all things 2020. And I was talking to Lindsay about it, and I had this week that was just a really hard week. And that was one of the things she said is like, maybe you got to get back into the rhythm of doing meditating and using an app like Headspace. I think for some people, the idea of meditating almost seems like it maybe seems scary. It maybe seems like too spiritual. Potentially. Can you talk about what meditation is and even just like the science behind it and why it's a helpful thing?

I think so. Meditation is one of a host of tools that help us shift from the outer world into our inner world. And I think that's particularly helpful right now. As you've identified, the outer world is really, really chaotic. From pandemic to racial justice and unrest. I mean, I just feel like so many of us are kind of like, what's going to happen next? I'm from California, where there's been fires, there's been hurricanes. I mean, it's just like, come on. So when we're meditating or practicing yoga, practicing prayer, even just sort of laying on the floor, breathing in an intentional way, we're just tuning in to the space between our ears. We're tuning into what's happening inside of us and recognizing that we have some ability to create homeostasis or control how we're feeling, regardless of how much chaos is existing outside of us.

Yeah, it's. There's an analogy in Headspace. They have these little like one minute explainer videos that are so helpful, but one of them was the main character kind of the. I don't know what they are. People, I guess, like drawings of people, but floating above their thoughts and looking down and saying like, oh, these thoughts are things, these are not me. And I can understand these as being things that exist in the world and can look at and understand and observe. And that conceptually has been really helpful for me as I think about, like, oh, I have this feeling. Why do I have this feeling? And being able to look at that for. For a feeling, not as necessarily truth or who I am and just being a really helpful idea or concept. So is that, Is that something you do? I'm curious, are you somebody who meditates? Yeah. And do you use a kind of a guided app to do it or.

I don't anymore. I have a different points and I think like all things in my mental health or physical health, I kind of listen to the rhythm of it. Like, sometimes I'll want a guided practice and sometimes I'm in a season where I don't. I think for people who find meditation unwieldy or sort of hard to get started with, a good entry point can actually be yoga, which has many of the same mental health benefits because it does calm the mind, clear the mind, and focuses on the breath. But you're doing something right. You're moving your body. And that in and of itself is just a different Meditative focus.

Yeah. There's a friend that we have who has a popular site, and she talks about yoga being her saving grace. She's like, it's the one hour a day where I know I'm gonna go there. I can block everything else out. I don't have my phone. I don't have my computer. And it seems so restorative for her and also maybe kind of intimidating for people who haven't gotten into it. I know even for myself, there's been like, we have a peloton tread, and they will do like, hey, and now we're gonna just do some stretches and they'll name some of the poses. I'm like, oh, if I wasn't looking at somebody, I wouldn't know what that is.

Right.

But for. For somebody who's in the really beginner stage, how do they. How do they start with yoga in a way where they're not going to feel like they go in and everybody's staring at them, knowing that they're not a yogi?

Right. And okay, here's a little bit of a secret, great thing about the pandemic is you can try all kinds of yoga classes from the privacy of your own home.

Right, Right. It's probably not happening in person a lot now. Yeah.

And. And again, just sort of figuring out how your body works and where the poses are. And then there's also some live classes that can happen online, which are really helpful because then you have a teacher who can say, hey, rotate your wrist this way, or make this adjustment, which will help both in safety and comfort.

That's great. So you kind of mentioned this by talking about yoga a little bit. One of the practices that you have and kind of how that's a version of meditation for you. I'm curious to know if you go to Zenfounder. If you go to the site, I think it says 72% of entrepreneurs deal with some level of mental.

It was concerned about their own mental health.

Concerned about their own mental health.

Yeah.

So, like, aware of it. So three out of four people that you interact with, entrepreneurs are worried about, like, am I going to be okay? Is this. Am I okay? Is this sustainable? And I think also very relatable, especially for online entrepreneurs, can be kind of a siloed or solopreneurs, especially if you don't have a team. I'm curious to know, for you, Sheri, as you have interacted with a lot of entrepreneurs, are there things that you have learned that exist and that are potential areas of risk that you have mitigated in your own life and developed practices around. Sounds like yoga is one of those. But are there other things that you've taken experientially to from the conversations you've had, the things you've observed to form as norms or patterns in your life or things that you are insistent on that you've learned because you yourself are an entrepreneur? I think that's at its core. What's so interesting about this work. How are you as an entrepreneur, setting yourself up for success based on the things you've learned? There we go. It just took me a while to get to that question.

And I don't always do it perfectly by any stretch of the imagination. But I think a couple of things that have that come up in a lot of conversations that I'm really careful to protect against is isolation in the form of like failing to really invest in friendship. And of course, that's extra tricky now that we're not bumping into each other in natural ways. But it's really, really important, I think, for all of us, especially as adults. You know, I have. I'm parenting three children. Like, my life is very full and it's easy to see, say I can work and I can deal with my kids, and that's kind of all. But the reality is that I, like every other human, need friendship, friends to laugh with, friends to play with, friends to, you know, stay connected to over the years. So that's a lot of. That's something that I see a lot of entrepreneurs kind of letting go by the wayside.

Yeah.

Because of time.

It's interesting. I've heard. I won't remember all the different pieces. I think it's like social, family, business and fitness. Pick three and you can be really good at those. Do you think there's truth to that? I was working with a business coach once and he's like, or not just do all of them well and invest in all of them. But sometimes it can seem like, especially if you have kids, if you have family, maybe you're taking care of a parent. It seems like, man, maybe one of these has to go. Do you think there's truth to that or can you do a good job with all of them?

I think you could do a passable job with all of them.

Right. Like not a. But passable.

I do think that every day is different and every week is different. You know, one of the habits that has been really helpful to my husband and I is we sort of chat every Sunday night and it's a little bit Of a. An assessment of, like, what do you need this week? What do I need this week? So some weeks I'm like, look, I'm done with people. I need introversion time. I need to read a book. Three nights this week, and you can do that. And then the following week, you double down on some relationship energy. And the following week, you spend some extra time making a great care package for your mother. You know, like, I think if we segment our days believing that we have to get a certain amount of those things done in every day, that can feel, like, totally overwhelming.

Yeah. Macro as opposed to micro. It's not a balance of those things on a daily level. But what does that look like on a month or week to week or month to month basis? And are you kind of covering all those spaces? One of the questions I'd be curious to know about is you and Rob, your husband Rob, who's an entrepreneur as well, talk a lot about your relationship together as entrepreneurs. And I think one of the things that we hear about is relationships where one person is entrepreneurial and the other person in the relationship maybe doesn't have the same level of interest or the same level of belief in the thing working. Maybe the person feels like their time is being taken away. Do you have advice? This could be an entire podcast series.

Yes.

Disclaimer on that. But for people who are in a relationship with somebody and they want to in some way, bring them in or have their support, how do you do that? What does that look like for somebody who is an entrepreneur who's listening to this podcast to engage their significant other with them in the journey?

Yeah, in a way, I think it's great practice, because getting your significant other on board is kind of your. They're your first investor. They are the person that you want to sell enough on your idea that they're going to sign on. And I think a lot of us don't take that seriously. We just sort of lean our way into entrepreneurship without doing the work to bring our significant other along. And that means understanding their concerns and speaking to them.

Yeah.

So, you know, I think early on in our journey, Rob was an entrepreneur, and I was an academic. I worked at a university. I was a professor. And so I had this very kind of traditional job. And, you know, we had conversations where I was like, look, I don't care what you do, but, you know, we have this chunk of. We have 20 grand in a bank account, and that's. That's off limits. Like, I want that there. That's our emergency fund. That's our, like, don't touch that money. And he was like, okay, I could, you know, we could agree to that. So I think there's. Every couple has their version of that conversation and understanding that your partner may be nervous, and that doesn't mean they don't believe in you or they don't love you or they're not on board, but you have to listen to their concerns in order to move on in a way that you both consent to.

Yeah, I love that idea of your significant other being your first investor. And it's not necessarily like financial investment, obviously. Right. But a lot of times people who have business time, energy, shared resources, all of those things, and how important it is for them to feel comfortable and confident in the decisions you're making. And not that all the questions are going to be answered, never will that be true, but that being a really important consideration. And it's less of somebody blindly saying, hey, okay, I'll do this and I'll just follow along and you can do whatever you want to do. And more of saying, hey, I really care about you, your opinion, your thoughts. I'm going to do whatever I can to walk through those and make sure that you feel comfortable with these. Maybe it's building out a little bit of a plan, saying, here's what we're going to do. I know that you and Rob have done pre Covid couples retreats for entrepreneurs. What are some of the things that you focus on in the conversations that you have for those retreats and post Covid, whatever that means. Will you guys be doing those again?

Yeah, we. We focus a lot on play, actually, because I think entrepreneurs, we're kind of an intense, driven crew of people, and many of us don't play very well. And that can really take its toll on a marriage, especially if you've got two entrepreneurs in the family or, you know, people who are doing really busy, intense things and don't take the time to play well together.

Yeah. How do you do that? That seems like such an interesting. Lindsay always gives me a hard time. We have this recurring joke about being a troll, and she's like, you're just kind of like, don't get too happy, don't get too sad. Like, just kind of this, like, right in the middle. But I think that's one of the issues is she would say, like, you just need to, like, lighten up and have moments where you are playing or relax or not always thinking about work. And when that does happen, it's such a great thing. And I Realize my own need for it. How do you do that with a significant other?

Oh, it's a lot of silliness. So in the context of retreat, we actually have a couple who are both yoga teachers. They come in and do this sort of joint yoga class where you're stretching together and balancing on each other and it's absolutely guaranteed that you're going to feel ridiculous at some point. And so there's the practice of how do you laugh it off? How do you playfully engage, you know, playing games together? There's lots of ways to just take a break or use a different part of yourself than the driveness of entrepreneurship. That's pretty helpful.

Yes. I think that's so great. One of the things that we found most helpful is in. Which is really hard in a world of social distancing and the reality of 2020, but like building in times to not be at your house or not be at the office and to actually go somewhere else and do something else a lot of times with somebody else. So what does it look like for Lindsay and I to go somewhere with another couple and hang out or go out to eat or. But we've really found the location of that to be super helpful and then building that in because if we don't, inevitably it's just going to get back filled with stuff that's probably not going to be play or fun in the same way.

Yeah.

One of the questions that I have kind of around the category of it kind of goes back to the hustle piece that we talked about, because I think it's really important and I think that we, we kind of touch on that occasionally within the podcast is saying, hey, there's going to be sacrifices that need to be made. You might have to work in the margins of your day, especially if you're working a full time job. How does somebody know that they've gotten to the place where they're teetering on burnout? Because I think that's one of the biggest benefits of understanding the kind of maximum hustle amount is to know when you. Because at some point you'll tip over into burnout and then it's like you're done and we're done for a period of time. And we've seen that happen from people who exert a huge amount of hustle over a short amount of time and eventually they hit a wall and then they're just done.

There's no more.

Yeah, there is no more. And the thing that once was so valuable suddenly becomes detrimental in that it's taking so much from you. If somebody feels like they are there or approaching that or starting to enter into a relationship with their work where they feel like it's taking in some way, do you have recommendations for how to course correct that and some steps that people can take to right that ship before it goes off the end of the earth?

Yeah, yeah, Great question. I think maybe a good starting place is to just quickly say really what burnout is from a clinical perspective. So burnout is like a recognized diagnosis. It's something that we give to people who experience a set of three symptoms. The first is physical and emotional exhaustion. So this is what we often think of with burnout. We're just tired. There's no umph. There's no get up and go. We're just sort of dragging. The other is cynicism and detachment. This is where we start to feel quite differently about maybe the people that we serve, our readers, the people who are using our product or taking our courses, and where maybe in the past we were really excited about sharing with them or communicating with them or answering their questions or supporting them or helping them with, you know, something that doesn't install correctly. Suddenly we're feeling more and more like, ugh, another person, another question, another email. You know, there's this sort of cynicism that keeps us from being connected to people. And then the last component of burnout is a diminished sense of personal efficacy. So no matter how hard we're working, we feel subjectively like we're not accomplishing anything. So it's sort of like the hamster on the hamster wheel. You're doing all the work, you're running, you're running, you're running, you're running. But you don't see the outcome. You don't feel the benefit of having completed something.

Yeah, well, go ahead.

Yeah, finish that, I was going to say. So I think it's helpful to know that because burnout is specific, it's not just like, I'm tired today.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's. Yeah, totally. It's a. And that was interesting for me. I think maybe in a Zen Founder episode you had maybe talked about that. But a good reminder, like, this is something that you would actually diagnose as you have. You are burnt out, you have burnout, which I think a lot of people would throw it out in a similar way to like, oh, I'm ocd. And it's like, no, that's like, that's a thing.

That's a real thing.

And burnout is a thing. And so to say, like, I'm just so burnt out on that. It's like maybe, but it actually is a thing which I think is helpful for people to know.

Yeah. And I think you get into the danger zone when you get any of those symptoms in a light way. When email becomes or however you correspond with the humans in your business. It just becomes something that you're kind of doing this internal eye roll about tired. I mean the, the under recognized preventative for burnout is, is to take vacation. Like it's to take a break.

Yeah.

People are like, I pay you a lot of money to tell me to take vacations. And I'm like, yes, I should have a travel agency business on this.

And it works. Yeah, yeah. It's a, it's a great correlated, correlated business.

It works because it lets your brain focus in something else.

Yes.

Your brain is shifting its attention, it's shifting its patterns, it's shifting its routines. So literally on the cellular level, some of those neuronal connections get fatigued. And when you take a break and take even a long weekend away, your brain kind of gets to, to nourish itself.

It's just yesterday I went on a, for my birthday, which was like seven months ago, but Lindsay gave me dad's day of leisure. Like that was her gift. So I finally cashed in on dad's day of leisure and did this little road trip with my dad and took an hour for me to drive to where he is. And then we drove for an hour and a half to go look at this kind of lake property. Which it's not something we're moving on. It was more just something to do. But in that hour drive on the way back home specifically I thought, gosh, I haven't had a pocket like this to think and to let my mind be the way that it's being in a really long time. And it wasn't a vacation even, it was just like an hour of driving. But it was a realization of how important that is. But it's really hard when vacationing doesn't look the same. Do you have advice for how people can do that if they're nervous about traveling in a global pandemic?

Which that is a fair thing to be nervous about. Yeah. And it doesn't really require long distance travel. Sometimes it can be a weekend project. It can be something that's joyful though not arduous, but you know, putting in a garden, building a birdhouse, decorating for Halloween, doing an online course, getting together with a friend for a day long hike. There are lots of ways to give ourselves some prolonged breaks. You know, I think people are also getting really creative about the staycation. How do you stay in your home or in your city and do it in a way that you're disrupting your work pattern?

Yeah, that's great. So, final question. I know that a lot of people who are listening to this will think I might be in this category of, you know, three out of the four people who kind of question like it, how are things going for me? What does this look like and am I in a good place? Am I trending towards not as great or trending up? And they'll be interested in the potential of working with somebody. At what point would you say would make sense to reach out and to connect with somebody who can help facilitate some of these conversations, to mirror back some of these things? And if somebody's interested in working with you, is that a possibility? And if so, how would they reach out?

Yeah, I think the minute you have the thought is probably a good time to make some, some phone calls. I'm a fan of therapy as a preventative practice. You know, it's sort of like you go to the dentist before your teeth are rotten to try to prevent that from happening. So I think the minute that you're like, whoa, I caught, maybe I need a little check in. I think you can just go and do a little check in. Skilled therapists can work in lots of different ways. You don't have to, you don't have to go three times a week and lay on the couch and talk about your mother. You know, there's people who are, are really flexible about meeting you where you are. And sometimes that's just a three session sort of checkup and then you've got a name and a number if and when you need more support in the future. So I just as a sort of a practice of being a grown up, I think it's helpful to have someone who's your person, who you go to when you're having a hard time.

Yeah, that's great. And in terms of, there's a couple different resources that you have. I'd love if you would share those for both from your site. The writing that you're doing, the books that you have. I know that you have a book that's coming out in the future. Ish. We won't promote that, but I know people will be interested in following along. So sign up to get notified about that. But I know people, cherry, will be personally interested in you. There's the broader topic but I know who you are, what you're about to your skills and expertise in working with entrepreneurs. It's a really great fit and so I want to make sure that you can plug or promote or talk about the things that you personally are doing because you are so humble and you won't do it unless I ask you directly.

Specifically say yeah. So I do host a podcast every week called Zen Founder and that is a place where we talk about all kinds of issues related to entrepreneurship and well being, whether that's family life or physical health, mental health. And I also have a book called the Entrepreneur's Guide to Keeping youg Shit Together which I co wrote with my husband and my 13 year old, well 14 year old son now suggested the title so it's a family affair. And yeah, that's on Amazon and available pretty widely in places on the Internet and I am proud of it as just a nice one. Spot summary for all the kind of significant issues or concerns that you might want to think through regarding your own self, check in related to your mental health as an entrepreneur.

That's awesome. Yeah, I want to make sure I.

Was going to say if people want to work with me directly or have me speak for an event or their business or something, you can reach me through zenfounder.com or sherrywalling.com awesome.

Sheri, so great to connect. Thanks for coming on the podcast.

My pleasure, thanks.

And that's a wrap on this episode of the Food Blogger Pro Podcast. Wasn't that an awesome episode? Definitely a little bit different from our typical episode, but an important topic for us all. I found it really surprising that 72% of all entrepreneurs struggle with their mental health. So if you're struggling, you're not alone. But also know that there's something that you can do about it. Talk to someone, whether that be a friend, a family member or therapist. Write about it on your blog or in a journal, take up yoga or meditation. Or you can chat about it in a group of like minded people like in the Food Blogger Pro forums or in other forums online. Your mental health is important, it matters and it's okay and necessary to take time for yourself. The links to all of the resources Sheri shared today are at the Show Notes for this episode@foodbloggerpro.com 277 if you're interested in learning more and diving deeper into the topics that she mentioned, we'll see you next time. And until then, from all of us here at FPP hq, make it a great week.

Sam.