Chris Fenning explains why knowing your goal matters when asking questions. If you don't identify what you actually want—permission, advice, instructions, or direction—your question gets misinterpreted and you get useless answers. State your intent clearly so the other person knows what you need.
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How to ask questions. Tip number 1, have a clear goal for your question. When you ask a question, you're trying to get a specific type of answer or piece of information. Perhaps you're looking for approval from your manager, looking for input or advice from a friend, or a set of instructions, or be pointed in a direction for where to find a solution. Whatever you want, whatever your goal is, you need to know that before you ask the question. If you don't know the goal, you might ask a question that doesn't lead the person to give you the answer that you need. If you're asking for permission, but you don't say, I'm looking for permission, the person that you're speaking to might not know that, and they may think that you're asking about something else. The clearer you can be about your purpose, the better you can structure a question to get the answer or the type of answer that you want.