Self-sabotage: What IS And How To Overcome

Now, because you're taking the time to watch this video, I'm going to assume that there's an area of your life that you want to change. An area of your life that you want to shift or maybe take to the next level. But maybe you're struggling to get going or struggling to stay focused. Because maybe success for you right now is losing a few pounds, but you're finding yourself eating more and moving less. Or maybe success for you is making more sales, but you find yourself on Facebook doing unimportant emails and shifting paperwork around. Maybe success for you is finding a life partner, but you find yourself hiding behind that laptop rather than getting out there and meeting people. Maybe success for you is traveling right now, but you find yourself spending money on things that are meaningless. Or maybe success for you right now is starting your own business, but you find yourself taking the same journey to work every day in a job that you hate. Well, welcome. My name is Colin Hiles from advancedmindpowertraining.com and in this four part video training series, I'm going to pull back the curtain and reveal the absolutely need to know and need to do information that will increase your odds of achieving your goals. You see, over the last 20 years I've had the privilege of working all around the world and coaching thousands of people from all walks of life, from full time mums to, to sports stars, to entertainers, to leaders of FTSE 100 and Fortune 100 companies, all with one goal in mind and that's to help them turn their goals into reality. And over that time, I've learned some key distinctions about the psychology of achievement. How to unlock your potential for greatness and increase your power to succeed. How to use your mind power. They might be thinking, Colin, well, what is mind power? Well, mind power simply is about using the power of your thoughts and your beliefs to express achieve your goals. You see everything that happens to you, everything that you become or everything that you accomplish is determined by the way you think your mindset. And as you begin to change your mind, you'll begin to change your life. So without any further ado, let's jump straight into this first training video. Okay, I've called this video this first video how to overcome Subconscious Sabotage Self Syndrome and there's a mouthful. And I'm going to look at three things. Cover three things. Number one, your two biggest obstacles, especially when you want to make a change in your life. Secondly, why logic fails and emotion wins. And thirdly, the quickest way to get leverage on yourself so that you stay Motivated when you are looking to achieve a goal. And I'm going to use this flip chart up here to draw this out. I'm not the best when it comes to drawing, but I'll do my best to make it very pictorial for those of you that like pictures. So you'll see straight away on here, we have two sides. We have results that we don't want, side. Results that we do want side. And we have if in the middle. So let's look at what the if means. Understand that? Then we'll look at the psychology and how it plays out in our life day to day. Okay? So the if is if we have these two things, we stand more chance of achieving that side. The results that we want. If we don't have these two things, then we get more of what we don't want. So what are the two things? Well, firstly, the I stands for inspiration. Now, when we're inspired, what are other words around that? Passionate, excited, motivated, energized. To be inspired, to be, in spirit, absolutely crucial when it comes to setting and achieving goals. On the other side, the F stands for faith. Now, I know faith has a lot of religious connotations and of course it is included in that, but it's actually bigger than that. You know, faith is, if we keep it in very simple language, is to have a positive expectation. Faith is what keeps us going on our journey, no matter what results that we get. Because often when we set a goal, especially if it's taken us outside of our comfort zone, which it should, because then it's a real goal, we're going to hit obstacles, we're going to hit difficulties, we're going to hit the unexpected. And it's faith that keeps us going. When you look at most of the famous stories out there of people that have achieved greatness, then they had these two things in abundance. So let's look at Edison. Edison. I know this changes depending on what book you read, but he supposedly failed a thousand times to invent the electric light bulb. But what kept him going? Inspiration and faith. J.K. rowling. Who? We know the story of J.K. rowling and Harry Potter, but she was rejected 12 times before the book was accepted. A few publishers must be really kicking themselves, but 12 times. So, but what kept her going? Inspiration and faith. There's plenty of these. But what about Henry Ford? Henry Ford went bankrupt five times before he actually made it. Five times went broke. But what kept him going? Inspiration and faith. Now, that's what enables us to get these results. But let's look at the other end of the spectrum of these and then we'll make more sense of this. So what's the other end of inspiration? Well, Apathy. Okay, so apathy and all the motions that we have around apathy, you know, demotivated, uninspired, can't get ourselves moving. So that's apathy. What's at the other end of the spectrum when it comes to faith? Well, that's. Fear. Okay? Fear is at the other end of faith. And fear, to keep it simple, is a negative expectation. So we have a positive expectation faith and a negative expectation, fear. Okay? Now depending on where we are. So if we, for instance, it's possible that we've got faith but we're not inspired. It's possible that we have inspiration but we don't have faith. So one out of two doesn't cut it. We need to have both. And if this was a scale of 1 to 10, then, you know, the closer we move up to a 10, the closer we move up to a 10, the more chance we've got of achieving. So in between where you are now and where you want to get to, you can look at it. There's only two emotions that are going to block you. That's apathy and fear. That's it. And fear based emotions, doubt would be another one. So that's it. They're the only two emotions. And when we can overcome those and find ways to overcome those, which with these videos that are going to come out, I'm going to actually show you how to do that, then we stand more chance, we stack the odds in our favor. Now let's look at this psychologically. Okay, so, So there's my iceberg. And the iceberg is often used to explain the way the mind works because we talk about one mind, but that one mind has two parts to play. Okay? So it has the conscious and the subconscious. Okay? Now with the iceberg, we know that when you're seeing the top out over the, you know, above the water line, it's only a fraction of the total size of the iceberg. And it's the same with our mind. The conscious mind is only a fraction in terms of its size, its capabilities, power compared to the subconscious powerhouse that sits below it. Now if that's just sitting in the sea there, that at the moment is directionless. It's going to be taken by the current. So the current is going to just take it where it wants to go and the iceberg is going to go. So the first thing we need is we need direction the iceberg needs to some direction. So. So we need some goals, okay? We need direction and that's what goals do. They provide direction in our life. They give us something to move towards. That lovely saying, a man going nowhere usually gets there. Now, in my time that I've been coaching people, I call these the four gets, because it's only really four gets that people want, right? Get thin, get rich, get love, or get a life. That's it. Everything can be boiled down more or less into one of those four gets. So I call these health, wealth, love and lifestyle. So health, wealth, love and lifestyle, okay? And when you think about some of the goals that you've got in your life right now are where maybe you're at these end of the spectrum, what is it to do with health? Is it to do with wealth? Is it to do love and is it to do with lifestyle? Health is about mind, body, spirit. It's about, well, being. Wealth is about the career that you've chosen, the job that you do, the. The way that you earn an income. Love, obviously, is about intimate relationship, friends and family. And lifestyle is the fun. It's the sort of lifestyle that we create. It's how we spend our time and money, fundamentally. So here we have now the mind and we have some goals. So let's say that we set a goal for ourselves, Okay? So the conscious mind begins to row towards a goal that we've set for ourselves, okay? Now the conscious mind is the rational, is the logical part of the brain. It's also the processor. It's processing all of the information coming in through our five senses. What we see, what we hear, what we touch, taste and smell. It's processing all of that. And then it's dropping it down into the subconscious mind. Now, the subconscious mind, let me just draw this, The subconscious mind down here. The subconscious mind is more to do with emotions. So we make decisions up here rationally, but we make decisions down here in the subconscious emotionally. So you could say that conscious mind equals rational, subconscious mind equals emotional. So let's put an emotional scale in there, Okay? So we've got at one end of the spectrum, painful emotions, emotions that we like to avoid. At the other end of the spectrum, we have pleasurable emotions, emotions that we like to experience, right? Now the thing is that when we set a goal logically, we go. Rationally, we go. It makes sense. I'm not enjoying this over here. This isn't what I want. Maybe I'm, you know, I'm carrying more weight than I should be carrying I'm not as fit or I'm not earning the income that I want to be earning, or I've got no time to be with the family. I want time to be with the family or my relationship isn't as close as I would like it to be with my significant other. All right, so we don't like that. So we start to row the boat over this way. We start, start moving in this direction. We want to move into this direction towards the goal that we want to achieve. But what happens down here is the subconscious mind is constantly asking the question, well, what does this mean? So when we take action, it says, what does this mean? Now let's say that the action is to get fit, okay? So health to get fit. And you set your alarm at 6 in the morning. You've got everything ready to get up out of bed. The alarm goes off. Logically we know it makes sense to get out of bed. Logically, we know the actions we need to take in order to get ourselves back into shape. But as soon as that alarm goes off, subconscious mind says, what does this mean? Pain or pleasure? Now, what does it mean for most people getting out of bed at 6 in the morning? Especially if it's not nice outside, it's raining pain. So what do we do? We hit the snooze button. And this is what we call mind over mattress. And usually the mattress wins because we make decisions emotionally and then we back them up with logic and reason. So if this isn't on side, and let me draw in a little engine down here, okay? Little outboard engine. If this is moving in this direction and this is a paddle and this is an engine, well, it makes sense which one's going to win. And that's why logic always fails. Willpower only works short term. Long term never works. So what we've got here is we've got misalignment. We've got a conscious intention misaligned with a subconscious program. And as long as we've got misalignment like this, there's no chance of us ever achieving our goals. It isn't until we get conscious alignment with our subconscious mind that really we become powerful and can achieve the goals that we want. Now, over the next few videos, I'm going to show you how to get alignment, how to reprogram the subconscious mind so it's working for you rather than against you. And as a sort of a final with this video, let me give you something to take away, because we're going to deal with fear in future videos. But let's look at something now in terms of apathy, right? When we just like getting out of bed in the morning. It's not a fear thing. Getting out of bed and going. It's not anything to do with fear. It's everything to do with this. That I'm just not inspired enough. Now, when it comes to setting goals, there's an important distinction. It's never the goal that we actually want. Think about, I want to make more money. What you want pieces of paper with a queen's head on it? Okay, no, no, because we don't want that. The goals that we say are not actually what we want. What we want is what they're going to do for us or get for us emotionally, okay? That's what they're going to do for us. So I was speaking to this one individual that had gone out and bought himself a brand new sports car. It was a Porsche, right? And he was so excited about it. And, you know, when I said, what is it like to drive? He said, oh, it's incredible. When the roof's down and, you know, the wind and you can feel the sun and you put your foot down, the whole car vibrates. And you feel that power. You can hear the air being sucked into the engine. And he went and he lit up in front of me. I mean, it was kind of the way that he had sex outside the marriage, right? And that's what creates the inspiration. So it's the why under the goal that really we need to connect with. And as soon as we start connecting with the why, the bigger why, they say 80% why to 20% how to. When you've got a big enough why to, you find a way to achieve your goals. Because we begin to really influence the subconscious mind down here because this side gets massively amped up. Now, I'm talking about this, not this, okay? Because if fear's in the way, fear can still override inspiration. You can be inspired to do something and fear comes in fear of rejection, fear of failure, and it will grind you to a halt. So we've got to look at how to deal with that. So the way that we do this is we raise our. What I call our Y flag. Okay? Our Y flag. Y flag. And what that does, metaphorically, is it creates. Let's draw ourselves a magnet, okay? What it does is it creates a compelling goal. It's like a magnetic goal that pulls us. Less paddling, more being pulled towards the goal that we want. So we start to achieve things more effortlessly and more easily. And that'll make more sense with the other videos that are coming your way. So there we go. We've looked at the two saboteurs, the two emotions, fundamentally that in between where you are now where you want to be, that is apathy and apathy type emotions and fear and fear based emotions. Motions we've looked at. Logic fails. If we're just trying to paddle, this is always going to win because emotion is far more powerful than logic. We've got to have total alignment with the conscious and subconscious mind. And the quickest way to get leverage on yourself when it comes to your goals is to connect with the why? Why do you want that goal? What's the reason? What will it do for you? What will it get for you when you start to connect with that why? You start to become far more purposeful. Okay, so I hope you enjoyed that. And it's given you a little bit more understanding and clarity about the importance of conscious and subconscious alignment. So now what? Well, I'm very excited to announce that I've created the Mind Power Academy membership site to provide you with a fast, affordable way for you to achieve your goals. Now, whether that's weight loss or improved relationships or better sports performance, or getting a raise or a better job or completing a project or starting or growing your own business, I mean, basically whatever you want to improve or accomplish, and you'll do it in three months or less. Now, I'm calling this the 90 Day Challenge. How to get what you set. And I'm going to give you simple, powerful and proven transformational tools to keep you in consistent focus and daily action and hold you accountable for getting the results that you're committed to. Now, hold in mind the numbers. 91 1. That's 90 days, one goal, one action every day. Now, it could be 92.2 or 93.3 or 94.4. That's up to you. But think of the power of that, of that level of focus. Now, your first assignment, once you get into the membership area is to download my 90 days to Unstoppable how to get what you set. It's a planning guide. And this guide is going to walk you through how to successfully set one, two, or three goals and a plan for action. Now, this piece of the jigsaw is essential. It's the number one reason why most people fail is that they take action without a plan. It's the ready, fire, aim philosophy. Right? So having this is going to save you time, money, stress and frustration. And with each training video that I bring out there's going to be an assignment and a download PDF. So this will build into a comprehensive guide. So you might be thinking, well this is all well and good Colin, but how much is this going to cost? Well, let me ask you a question. What would you expect to pay for a program like this? A program that includes training videos, PDF downloads, a Facebook accountability group, proven transformational tools, my time, my X Men needs and my commitment. I mean what would you pay for that? 300? 200? 100? Well, all I'm charging is £5. That's it. It's a once only payment that gets you everything. I mean really, it's a no brainer. If you're serious about taking your life to the next level and learning the master skill of life, which is how to set and achieve goals, then this is really for you. Now mentally you might already be in, but you might not. So I'm curious, which one of the two emotional blockers have you just bumped into? Into? Is it apathy? Is it an apathy excuse or is it fear? Is it fear of being held accountable, of having to let go of any excuses and step up? Well, now is your chance to break through and take action because you can't use the I haven't got enough money excuse with this one. So let me leave you with three actions. Firstly, put your email details below and once you've paid your £5, you're straight into the membership site where you can download this guide. Secondly, leave a comment, let me know what you think. I mean, was this video helpful? Not helpful? Useful, let me know and if you did find it useful, then please hit the Facebook like button and pay it forward. Now maybe a friend would like to do this 90 day challenge with you and they'll get to know about it. So with that, thanks very much for listening today and I'll see you in the membership area. Sam.