CJ Moneyway and Debra Bower say if your words, actions, or appearance upset someone, that's their problem, not yours. Don't change to make others comfortable. Once you find your voice, what people think stops mattering.
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. And it's taken me a long time, but now I will tell you that if something that I'm saying or that I'm doing or that I'm wearing makes you really upset, then you should try to figure out why. Because I don't have anything to do with you. And I promise you, I ain't having a second thought about you or what you're doing. This is me and it doesn't matter what happens around me. All kinds of chaos and craziness and insults and goodness and everything can be going on around me. And this is me and I am not changing. And if you don't like it, then that is— then don't have me around you. I mean, there's 7 billion people on the planet. If you don't like me, there's an easy replacement to find. And that's okay. It's not a character flaw. So for me, it's about helping other women find their voice. Because once they have their voice and their confidence, all that other shit goes away.