CJ Moneyway explains why recognizing your childhood coping mechanisms isn't enough. You need to rewire them using neuroplasticity techniques, not just affirmations. He calls this process a software upgrade: replacing outdated mental programs to reduce emotional triggers.
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We can't change what happened to us, but we can recognize that what we did as children was to adapt to often difficult situations. But sometimes those behaviors and adaptations we carry into adulthood and they just no longer serve us. So there's really amazing techniques that are available to go in and not just remember that, oh yeah, that was a coping mechanism, but to actually go in and change the circuitry and some of the patterns in our software, kind of like a, a software upgrade to, you know, CJ 2.0, where you're in there and you modify some of these patterns so things just don't trigger you as much. And it really is powerful. And that's like, sometimes we talk about lasting change, because like to go back and just have daily affirmations to try and push those things down is really ineffective.