This content was created by Cynthia Fortlage. This content was uploaded by Cynthia Fortlage. This is a YouTube video titled "5 Steps of Acceptance" (created 2021-01-13T17:35:25Z) featuring Cynthia Fortlage delivering a solo talk about her framework "Acceptance Without Understanding." In an English monologue she outlines five continuous steps: preparing to learn to accept; learning to accept yourself; gaining acceptance within your close community (friends/family); extending acceptance to society at large while being okay if not everyone accepts you; and using that foundation to realize your human potential and life goals. The speaker also mentions coaching and consulting work to help others apply these ideas.
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Hi, this is Cynthia Fortlage. I just wanted to give you greetings and hello from beautiful British Columbia, where I'm continuing to enjoy my time here in talking to folks and sharing the message of acceptance without understanding. Today what I wanted to do was introduce you to the 5 steps of acceptance without understanding. The first step is preparing to learn to accept. If you're not ready to be open to accepting, you won't be able to. So this is really about preparing yourself in order to travel that journey. Step 2. Step 2 is learning to accept yourself. And this is certainly a part of the journey that I have been through extensively and continue to work on each and every day. Learning to accept yourself as to who you are and to how the world may see you. That you're okay with yourself is one of the hardest things to do. Step 3. Step 3 is once you've worked on and started to accept yourself, that those in your immediate circle close to you, your friends, your family, accept the community that you call yours. Whether it's chosen, by birth, doesn't matter. Once you learn to accept yourself, it's much easier to ask those folks to learn to accept you and to deal with the process of them learning to accept you. Step 4. Step 4, that after you've prepared yourself And you continue to prepare yourself each and every day while you've journeyed through accepting yourself, and you continue to work on accepting yourself each and every day while you work with your community, whether by birth or chosen, and ask them to accept you and to work through that with them. You continue to do so, and then you come to society at large. Because the other layers create the foundation of a strong self and a strong support network around you. And that allows you to then consider moving forward with the ability to ask society at large to accept you. And realize that not everybody may be prepared to accept you. But that you are prepared to be okay with that. That you accept accept yourself. I was once told that all you can ever do is ask of someone what you wish, and all they can do is give you what they can. The two might not always align, but you can continue to deal with it. And I practice this in my own life each and every day. Step 5. So the fifth step, once you've gone through the layers of acceptance, and again, they're all a continuous journey. It's not like homework where you did this assignment, it's done, you move on. It is continually revisiting and redoing that. And what you find is that the ability to accept yourself and your community and to ask society to accept you and to move through allows you to begin to realize your true human potential and to start realizing those dreams that may never have been possible, that you can start to dream life goals, grand visions. And for me, this is where sharing this message of acceptance without understanding became real. So that I could be here to talk to you today to share this insight. So that's the 5 steps to acceptance without understanding. I hope that you found that informative. And certainly working with organizations and individuals in learning through coaching or consulting, etc., that I continue to create opportunities to allow others to put Acceptance Without Understanding into practice in their life. Hugs and kisses. Thank you for being here.
