Dallas Bragg argues that people in recovery from meth can explore kink again, rejecting the myth that they can't. Ralph from Real Clear Fetish took two years to reintroduce leather without relapsing. The sober kink community emphasizes consent and communication over the false intimacy of chemsex.
All right, meth recovery myth number 45: I'll never be able to explore my kinky side again. First of all, y'all, I invite you to stop using terms like always and never when you are framing your recovery journey. We tend to think in absolutes, black and white, this or that, which limits our life experience as well as your recovery. Often there's a third choice, a gradient shade of gray, or this and that. You can explore your kinks and fetishes in a way that doesn't trigger meth use and can be much more fulfilling than chemsex. If you watch my podcast, you remember the episode I had with Ralph from Real Clear Fetish. He said it took almost 2 years to put leather on and it not trigger him to use meth. So first of all, it takes time and patience. Manage your expectations about this because you've destroyed your sexual arousal template in the brain. Second, the sober kink community is growing like crazy. Men are exploring all of their wild sides, their taboo, their turn-ons. But in an elevated way. A space where you ask for and receive consent. In Tina world, there is no consent. No is not even accepted in the party vocabulary. You might as well use the word condom. The sober kink space is intimate. It's communicative. Guys take their time and bond in a natural way instead of the chemically induced false bonding of crystal meth. Honestly, exploring kink and fetish as a sober man will bring you the best sex of your life. You have to want it, believe it's possible, and slow down.
