Dallas Bragg, a chemsex recovery coach, explains why asking "why did this happen to me?" keeps people trapped in relapse cycles with crystal meth. He suggests replacing that question with "what has this experience taught me?" to shift from self-blame to learning and find a way forward.
Being stuck in a relapse cycle with Tina can feel like you're behind bars. I want you to start asking what instead of why. Hi, my name is Dallas and I'm a chemsex recovery coach helping gay and bi men stop using crystal meth and live their best and highest life. One of the biggest inhibitors to Tina recovery that I see is men asking, why did this happen to me, when referring to their active meth use. They can't seem to move forward because their attention is stuck in the past. This is when why isn't even a question anymore. It becomes a statement that says, I am bad. I'm a bad person who has done bad things, which leads right back to relapse. The question that moves you forward is, what has this experience taught me? This question opens up your mind for solutions and looks forward to find meaning in the experience. So what has this shown me is empowering. Why has this happened to me is disempowering. Let me know what you think of this in the comments.
