Dallas Bragg argues sobriety can't be defined by programs or other people. You have to decide what it means for you. A crystal-meth addict might safely drink wine on Friday; someone else can't. The key is tuning into your own sense of right and wrong, not following external rules that breed shame.
Alright guys, I guess this needs to be said. No one and no book can tell you what sober means. They cannot define your sobriety for you. If you're a crystal meth addict and you can have a glass of wine on Friday night and it doesn't make you relapse, have a glass of wine. Who is someone else to tell you what sober means to you? Self-empowered recovery is tuning into yourself and knowing Deep inside what's right and what's wrong for you, regardless of what someone else says based on their own life. Now, this does not give you permission to abuse substances and compulsive behavior in the name of, well, this is my definition of sobriety. That's not what this means. This means thinking for yourself, deciding for yourself, tuning into yourself, and not allowing someone else's rules to shame you into being something you're not.
