Dean Graziosi argues that clarity in strained relationships comes from modeling the behavior you want to see. Listen more if you want to be heard, show kindness if you want it back. He says criticism often means you're making an impact.
In relationships, when things are going sideways, the best way to get clarity is just be the person you want the other person to be. If you want them to listen to you, listen more. If you want them to do the little things for you, do the little things for them. Take back the ego. Take back the aggressiveness that a critic can create, and just know that if you're causing people to talk about you, if you're causing people to say negative things about you, most likely that means you're moving and shaking.
