Dean Graziosi delivers a short Weekly Wisdom video about overcoming "stinking thinking"—persistent negative, defeatist thought patterns that prevent people from taking action (framed via an airport anecdote about an older man). He identifies key drivers of this thinking (treating setbacks as permanent; imagining negative futures instead of reviewing past wins) and suggests remedies: focus on past accomplishments, seek proof in others' successes (student stories on his site), and focus on the clearing (visualize the desired outcome). The video includes CTAs to deanGraziosi.com and deansfreebook.com for further resources.
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Hey, everybody. Dean Graziosi, welcome to the weekly wisdom. It's a pleasure and an honor to have you here. Hopefully you browse around. Check out dingaziosi.com if you're watching this from itunes, get over to Dean graziosi.com, an incredible site, lots of new updates. And for those of you who are watching this, make sure when you watch this video that you go to the homepage and look below, because every week on Thursday, remember, we are also going to include. We just started this doing a weekly wisdom or a weekly blog from one of our students revealing some of the secrets they're using to crush it out there in real estate. So every week you're going to get a video from me, and also every single week, you're going to get a video from one of my successful students doing amazing things. So make sure you spend your time@dingraziosi.com it pays back. Lots of dividends. I know it's really expensive to be a member. No, it's free. Always been free, always will be free. Okay, here's what I'm talking about today. So this weekend I had two or last weekend I had to fly to Los Angeles for a meeting. It's only an hour flight each way, so. So I'm in the airport and I feel really fortunate. So many people say, oh, I see your show, got your book, been a part of your training. And I love talking to people. But I had somebody come up to me, and it was a gentleman. He was about 65 years old. And he came up to me and he said, oh, Dean, I got your book. And I read a couple pages. I got to find the time to finish reading your book. I think he had 30 days to real estate cash. He's like, I want to do that wholesaling thing. But what I realized is this poor gentleman had stinking thinking. And that's what I mean. It's a silly name, but it's so true. Because he was telling me, I know your book. You look like the real deal, son. I could tell when I saw you on tv. I knew you were the real deal. I knew you cared. But you know, where I live and my wife and my neighbors and the market turned and I don't have the money. And his thinking. Thinking was, was there wasn't one thing he said that was empowering. And I know I cover this a lot, but it's so prevalent in today's world to go down that road. So I started. So I let this gentleman talk, and then I spun him Big time. Now I won't get in the whole detail. What a great guy. I ended up leaving him. I got his number, I'm going to send him books and try to get him on the right path. Really good guy. But what I realized is there is no way on the planet that he could be successful in real estate when all he thinks about is what could go wrong. But you know what? I was on the plane after speaking to him and doing some self analyzation and I realized that I kind of go in cycles and maybe more than anybody else I can bounce out of a cycle. But I realized there's some weeks, months, many months of my life where if anything is on the negative side of me, boom. I immediately think of the outcome, the solution, how I could fix it and not go to that stinking thinking. But I also know in my life like a season, there are times when somebody will say something, I'll internalize it and I'll stress over it and go, God, what if that does happen? Or what if that doesn't work? Or maybe I shouldn't even try it. And I don't even know how it creeps back into my life. This is what I do. I'm reminded every day and every week how to be better, how to get through this stuff. Because I want to be a great teacher, I want to be a great mentor, I want to be a great guide for you or just a spark to light the fire. And it still happens to me. So I started thinking on the plane, what could make you stressed about a situation? What could get you to stinking thinking or thinking there's no way out? And I think there's a couple ingredients. It's when you start thinking about something that did go wrong or could go wrong and you think it's permanent without fixing. Now in most all the things that you stressed about in your life, were they permanent and unfixable? Most likely not. And even if it was permanent, did you learn a valuable lesson? So. So you never do it again. In most cases, if you look back in history, the things that we stressed about the most didn't affect us in the way we thought they were. So I think what causes stress? And when you think, wow, that won't work, or what if they do this? Or what if that person takes my money? Or what if that house doesn't work? We start thinking about things as if they're permanent and not changeable. Secondly, we look forward to things that could happen rather than turning around. I know I talk about this a lot and looking at the things we've already accomplished. So one of the other things to get rid of this thinking. Thinking is to stop looking forward on what could go right, what could go wrong. You're painting movies of a future that you don't know. You can't read the future. But you can turn around and see all the incredible things that you have done in your life. There are so many things that make you cool, so many things you've accomplished, so many things you've overcome, so many people you've helped that make you really cool. And the last thing is get proof, right? So what's incredible about Dean Graziosi.com and the reason I'm adding a student doing their success, you know, a video every single week and all the posts that are here is get proof that what you want to accomplish or what you think is negative is actually accomplishable because other people have done it right. When you get proof that you could lose weight. When you get proof that you could quit smoking. When you get proof that if you continue to smoke, you'll be sick. If you continue to eat the wrong food, you could be overweight and unhealthy. If you get proof that people just like you have done wholesaling and buy, fix and flip and buy, fix and hold and come from tough backgrounds or regular backgrounds with no experience and done it, that inspires you. And you also can get proof that if you leave your life exactly the way it is, it's going to continue to be the same. So proof helps that in a third way. And remember that old saying I've said forever, that I don't know where I heard it from. Might have been Tony Robbins years ago, NASCAR drivers, they teach them to focus on the clearing, not the wall. When they get in a spin, if they focus on the wall, what do they do? Boom, they hit it. But if you focus on the clearing, all your energy goes to where you want to go, not where you don't want to go. So remember that this poor gentleman, all his thinking was stinking and all he could focus on was what could go wrong in real estate. How could he ever start unless he starts focusing on what could be right, that there's another way out, that he focuses on the clearing and makes a transformation in his life. So that's my message for today. It was so fresh on my mind. If you're watching us from iTunes, go to deansfreebook.com get my latest book, Student secrets. It's my students who sent in their amazing secrets. Over 100 pages. Of their words. It's a really incredible book. Go grab it and watch the video. After that, you'll really love it. If you're@dane graziosi.com, love having you here, make sure you look out for the extra weekly wisdom coming every single week from our students. And if you don't have my book, go ahead and get it right up here. You just click on the link. We'll send the book to you immediately and register for the site. You get a lot of extra free stuff. Okay, I'm Dean Graziosi. I'll talk to you next week.
