Dean Graziosi describes a questioning technique that took him seven levels deep to find his real why: he works hard so his kids have choices he didn't have as a child. He recommends asking yourself the same question repeatedly until the answer hits you physically and emotionally.
Something shifted, and this is the part everybody should hear. If you. If you take nothing else from this podcast, take this Joe Stump, this guy Joe. I'm sitting in front of my team. I got about six of my team members, and I'm waiting for him to give us gold, to get more of our people to do the things that we know will change their life. Step one, two, three. Yeah. What's one thing everybody should do right now to be healthier if they're not doing it? Like, sleep. Sleep. Right. Yeah. And he said, dean, why did you spend ten grand for me to come here today? He calls it seven levels deep. Because you ask yourself the reason why. Seven times. And I don't even know what I said for the first four or five times. But, man, when he got to the fifth time, he goes, why is that important? Something shifted. And this is the part everybody should hear. Something shifted from my head to my heart. It was like I physically changed. It felt like, you know, you get the goosebumps. And I said something I had never said. I said, I don't ever want to go backwards. I remember being broke as a kid. I remember not being able to go to restaurants. I remember my mom struggling for money. And in this moment, talking about why I hired a consultant. With my team around, I got a tear running down my eye. And all I remember is I didn't feel like I had choices as a kid. Right. I wanted my kids not to be entitled. The world doesn't need more entitled children, but I wanted them to have more choices in the world. And I said the thing that shifted my life, I said, I need to be in control. And for me, not a control freak. What I realized at that moment, I'm an adult with children sitting around a team. I realized the reason I work so hard is because my parents were married nine times. Between the two of them, five and four. All these things come racing in my soul. And I realize I work so hard because I want to be in control of my decisions. I want to raise my kids in a different way. I want to be the husband to my wife in a different way. I'm not trying to make it about me, but I would love for you if take nothing else in this podcast is find someone to do it with or do it on your own. And every time you think you have the answer, you got to go deeper into your heart. And it's usually seven times. And when it clicks, you feel this. You feel it through your body. So to this day, I mean, we all face adversity. People think as you get more successful, it gets less just. You just deal with bigger problems.
