Dean Graziosi explains why holding grudges drains your energy and hurts you more than anyone else. He uses a bucket metaphor to show how revenge consumes the resources you need for growth, joy, and business. Better to redirect that energy toward what actually matters.
The high cost of getting even. Now I'm going to resort back to my buddy. If he's watching this, he's probably mad at me right now, but you know I love you and you'll be here and we'll be on a different space after you spend time. He doesn't get mad. He actually laughs at himself. But my buddy, if someone takes advantage of him, my dad, the same way someone took advantage of him, man, he had to get him back. Just had to, even if it was in his own mind, didn't do something physical, but, like, figure out a way to wish bad thoughts, say bad things about them. Like, the cost of getting even is huge because it doesn't live in anybody else. But you see, if I look at this and again, I'm having so much fun with you guys today. I'm just speaking from my heart today. It's very casual. I appreciate it. But here's the way I look at it that you only have, say you have a bucket. And in that bucket is your energy, your enthusiasm, your happiness, your joy, your ability to take action. It's all in there, right? And say there's 100% if you're someone screwed you over in a relationship, in a partnership, in life, robbed your money, all of that could be did something horrific against you. That energy of getting even, there's only that much amount. There's only 100% of this bucket with all that, if half of that energy is used up to, I'm going to sue them, I'm going to get them back, man. It just robs that. And you don't have the energy left to have the enthusiasm, the joy, the abundance. Take action, get the job done, start the new business, get in real estate, make the offers, make the deal. It just doesn't happen. There's just not enough energy. And the only person it hurts to try to get even or hold a grudge, it only hurts you. It's not hurting the other person. They already did it. Whether they're getting. They got in trouble for it or not, or they got away with it or not. If you leave it in there, it's only hurting you. And I know that sounds hard because some of you have gotten taken advantage of terribly. And my friends will always say to me, especially my buddy that I'm talking, he'll always say, dude, you let people walk on you. You let people take advantage of. I'd get him back, I'd take him to court, I'd kick his ass. It's like for what I want to be a better human being. I want to be a dad who's in a good mood. I don't want to stress. I got enough things to worry about. I want to worry about my business. I want to worry about my students. I want to read this book. I want to go to this event. I want to, you know, go to my masterminds. I want to. I want to grow as a human being. There's no space left to get even. I don't have it. And I felt that way as a kid. My dad was obsessed with getting even with people. It doesn't make him a bad guy. That's the way he was brought up. And I had. I had that in me. And I've worked to just let it go. And it was the greatest gift I've ever been given. Why get even when you could take all that energy and fill your bucket up? What's up? What's up? Hey, before you go, you need to watch these next few videos. They're absolute game changers. Hurry up and click right over here and watch them, and I'll see you there, Sam.
