Dean Graziosi answers a viewer whose girlfriend is pessimistic. His advice: spend 90 days being your best, optimistic self and see if she shifts. If nothing changes, consider ending it. Staying with someone pessimistic can pull you down too.
I love my girlfriend, but she can be pessimistic. What can I do to change her outlook? So here's the thing. Dump him.
No, I'm kidding. Dump her. No, I'm kidding.
I've had so many people ask me this over the last 30 years. I've been asked this, Stephen, and I probably have said similar but slightly different answers at this phase of my life. Here's what I know. Be the person you would love her to be. Open up. Be trusting. Be optimistic. Show her how great it is. Even if she's pessimistic, you continue to be. You spend the next 90 days being the best version of you. Showing her what it's like to look at the glass half full, exposing her to some of the things you do. Do it for 90 days. Be the best version of you. My gut says she's going to change. You'll see hints, look for signs. She reads a chapter. She listens. She watches a video. She says, ah. She gives someone the benefit of the doubt. She never did. And if in 90 days you are the best version of you, not forcing it down her throat, but just being that and leaving it open for her to see if she's not coming around. And she's more pessimistic. In 90 days after you did that, seriously consider ending it.
That might sound harsh. Here's what I know.
I never met a couple, including me, where one person can grow. Be optimistic. Be in personal growth and the other person not. When people say they grow apart, it means one person's growing and one person's not. Eventually it'll end. Or, just so you know, if she's not willing to look at the world differently, you'll change.
You'll become more like her. It'll win.
She'll wear you down.
And you'll start saying that glass is half empty. I'd love to just give you a.
Shiny, rosy colored glass ending, but that's just the way it is. That's life.
I'm just in a transparent place in my life.
Give her 90 days of the best version of you. If she's still completely negative and doesn't change a bit, I'd run. Okay, if she watches this, she's going.
To want to shoot me.
What's up?
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Hey, before you go, you need to watch these next few videos. They're absolute game changers. Hurry up and click right over here and watch them and I'll see you there. Sa.
