How To Get Your Act Together And Quit Procrastinating!

I got sucked into the media, and I'm spending two hours a day watching the news. How did that happen? Never used to do that. It's okay, forgive yourself, but today's the day you stop it. If you ask somebody to write a story, to write a movie, could they write a movie as crazy as what's going on here in the States between the candidates and assassination attempts? And I mean, it doesn't matter what political background you are or you choose, can we all admit it's freaking insanity? And sometimes that can be distracting. Sometimes that can suck you in. Sometimes without realizing it is stripping your momentum, it is taking away your ability to move forward. Because I don't believe it's 100% game. If we are 80% into something, does it work? Anybody ever been in an 80% relationship? How does that work when you're 80% committed? Right. How does an 80% diet work? How about an 80% commitment at the gym? It just doesn't work. And your next level of income impact doing your own thing, doing something you've never done before. In some cases, that takes a little extra energy. If you're just 80% in, it's not going to work. Now, when I say you got to be all in, it doesn't mean all day, every day, 24 hours a day. But when you're in it, you got to be committed to taking the uncomfortable action, scheduled to time, or else it just drifts away. What, some of the thinking, some of the decisions or some of the actions that you took that went right so far since the beginning of the year, what have you accomplished? You know, sometimes we don't pat ourselves on the back. You got to understand our brains. It's so easy to focus on what we haven't done yet. Isn't that true? We're tougher on ourselves than anybody else. You haven't done. Haven't done. But sometimes it got to take a moment and say, what have I done? Heck, you're here. You're a part of this family. Some of you are working with Gigi. You're optimizing. You're extracting the asset in your brain. You told somebody, they're like, oh, my God, that's amazing. Because how I look at it is what has been going right that has given you glimpses, has given you a glimpse of where the future can be. And how can you drag that forward? Right? How can you bring that forward? And then how do we optimize it? When I start sharing information on social, that worked. When I start telling friends this is what I'm doing. They were intrigued. And then if we can recognize what worked, how do we compound it? How do we optimize it? How do we do more thinking like that? What are some of the things we can do to energize that activity, to speed up that activity, to. To add rocket fuel to that activity? And then if we recognize those pieces, who can help us make it even better? Is it this group? Is it inside the Facebook group? Is it a friend or a family member who could take something off your plate? Sometimes we do things that work for us and we don't recognize them, we don't write them down, and then we let them slide away. Okay, so obviously, if we're going to write down what went right, then the next thing we got to do is the complete opposite of that. What didn't work in the last six months? I say that because there is some thinking that keeps you stuck. Is that true? There are some decisions that didn't work out. Maybe decisions to ask for permission or try to sell a family member so they get on board with you when you knew in the first place they weren't gonna. You're trying to get someone else to see through your lenses. Like Trent Shelton says, you want them to see it, you want them to feel it. And when they're not, every time you try, it's deflating. Right? When I say what went wrong, it doesn't just mean the video you did that people didn't buy from, that's a good one, too. But if we identify what went wrong or what didn't work, we can realize that that is our foundation for success as much as the wins, Isn't it? Winston Churchill's number one quote. The definition of success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm. Is it? What it really means is you fail enough, you figure out what the heck not to do. And if you don't lose your motivation, then you can learn from each one of those. So here's a couple things I jotted down that I wanted to share about what didn't work and what went wrong first. And I know this is only for about 60% of you. First, you got to forgive yourself. You got to let it go. Some of you procrastinated in the first six months of the year. Who gives a crap? Maybe that's why you're here today. You might have went down the wrong path, right? Some of you tried and let it slip away. Some of you are dabbling a little. Somebody, Someone else let someone get in your Head. And you didn't move forward because you were letting them steer your ship. Some of you tried certain things and it didn't work out. Isn't that life? Heck, I went through a divorce. I'm not an advocate of divorce. I never thought that would happen in my life, but I have. But I learned a lot from it. I became a better man because of it. Right. So we can let those failures be our anchors. We. Or we could let that be the breeding grounds of what you really need to do or what not to do. What do you need to stop doing today? You know, something went wrong or something's not working right, but some reason we continue to do it, you know? And it could be as simple as, like, what went wrong? I got sucked into the media, and I'm spending two hours a day watching the news. How did that happen? Never used to do that. It's okay, forgive yourself, but today's the day you stop it. I love living by this philosophy that I learned a long time ago is there is just not enough time to do all the things in life that we put on our plate. So I like to live in the area of no gray areas. There are things obvious you need to stop. If you're surfing for two hours online, if you're hanging out with negative friends that make you feel bad about yourself every time you're with them, there is some obvious things. Is that true? Some obvious things like, got to say no. Doesn't serve me, doesn't serve my kids, doesn't serve my family, my spouse. You got to say no. And then there's things you know, hey, if I go to an inner circle, if I get inside the Mastermind business system, if I start studying, if I use Gigi, you know, that's moving forward towards who you want to be true. Aren't they obvious? What I'm going to encourage you to do is look for the gray. You know, it's kind of the thing you've been doing. So. I love gray. To me, means it's either black or white. This is moving me towards the woman or the man I'm meant to be, I desire to be, or this is not moving me towards the man or the woman I desire to be. If you put it through that hardcore lens, the fact of the matter is time will open up. But. But you also stop doing things that don't serve who you want to become. Listen, if you're at an inner circle with me in the middle of an afternoon on a Wednesday, you know you are meant for more true or you're watching the replay. True. You know you're meant for more. That's the one thing we absolutely have in common. Some of you are crushing it already. Some of you are on your way. Some of you are scared you're starting on day one. But you know there's something else. All I can say is there is not enough time in a day to do all of it. So some stuff's got to go. So what went wrong? What didn't work? You know, maybe some of the subtle things that's eating up your time, that's in the gray. So I would say give yourself a little audit this week as you're doing something that goes, is this black, white or gray? Right? For me, there are some things I will never change. I will not, never stop. Time with my children, time with my wife, time. There are certain things I can never say no to, but darn. There are definitely things in the gray that, when I think about it, say, hey, that served the old version of me. Those friends serve the old version of me. The drinking to numb the pain served the old version of me. That ain't the woman I want to be anymore. That's not the man I'm becoming. So I gotta say, that's gray. Bullshit on gray. I'm saying, no. Here's another way to look at some of the stuff that goes wrong. And I'm sorry, I'm spending a little more time on the failure part. Sometimes that trips us up. I. I tried that, but it didn't work. But what if. What if it was designed, whatever didn't work or went wrong. What if it was designed and there was actually a lesson you are supposed to learn from it? Holly, I see you shaking your head, right? It's like, what if there was. What if it was actually. And this is Tony Robbins 101. What if life happens for me, not to me? Then you start looking at all the stuff that didn't work out. How did I miss the lesson that was right there in front of me? I was trying to be someone else when I did that video. I didn't trust the woman I or the man I was. So I was trying to be somebody else. No wonder it came across phony, right? What are the lessons in there? You know, I was saying I was doing the work, but I wasn't really right. I said I was trying to. I have a dear friend. I love this man for 20 years. Love this guy. And he always says to me, gotta lose this £20. Dean, you're in such good shape. He's a little bit older than me. He's like, I gotta lose this £20. And every time I'm with him, the guy is eating incredible salads with salmon and he's a bit overweight. So last time we were together, he said it again. I'm like, I've known you for 15 years, you gotta be BSing me somewhere. You keep telling me you're gonna do it. You eat perfect in front of me, but you still got the weight that you want to lose. I think you look amazing. He's like, yeah, at night when I stress, I eat salad. I mean, I eat cereal, ice cream. I eat from 10 o' clock to midnight. I eat like a maniac. And I was like, what lesson can you learn from this? You might learn, hey, maybe cereal and ice cream from 10 to 12 is your only thing. You love it and you like the weight you're at and you'll deal with the health consequences. If you want, learn that lesson and own it. Instead of saying, I'm losing the weight, say, I love my weight, I love who I am, or you got to learn a lesson and not be super simple. But you got to adjust or quit. Like, it doesn't have to be, it's not gray, Right? Just adjust or quit or accept. Right. And I'm not trying to oversimplify this, but these are the subtle things, the little things that are the big things. And you know, I used this analogy once. I am taking a little extra time on what went wrong because so many times our feedback from you guys is, I tried this, it didn't work. My husband said it wouldn't. It's like, wow, you tried once and you got discouraged. I want you to know this is all part of the journey. I have failed. We have all failed many, many, many more times than we've succeeded. But I want to tell you, business is like baseball. When you're at bat, if you hit three times out of 10, you are an all star. It's the same in business, it's the same in life. It only takes a couple hits out of 10 to win. Imagine if you took the last six months and you, you wrote down all the things that went wrong, all the things that you were wasting time, all the things that might have failed, the relationships, the mindset because someone got in your head. You could do this over a ten year period, but let's just say it's six months. I like to look at it as if you had a building and there were shelves all around the building. And your last six months of all your big experiences were on the shelves, and all of a sudden someone handed you a suitcase and lit the building on fire, and you had, like, six minutes to just grab the experiences that you want to put in the suitcase and let the rest of it burn down. Disintegrated, ashes gone. You get to choose what experiences you take forward with you. You get to look at something like, that was an utter failure or damn proud of myself for trying. What can I learn from it, Right? We get to choose that. I'm not trying to, you know, be too foo foo here, but we do get to choose, and we can take those experiences, like I said, what went right and put it in the bucket. So, ooh, that was a failure. But I learned a lot. Let me take that and let the rest burn down. And we could literally put a line in the sand and start from fresh today to crush the rest of this year. True. We get to make that decision. No one else.