A short motivational YouTube talk by Dean Graziosi arguing that pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice. He advises reframing painful experiences as learning opportunities—extract lessons and use them as fuel—while building "real confidence" by believing in your ability to figure things out. The speaker gives examples (failed deals, unfaithful relationships, illness) and offers a brief practical hack: change your thoughts to search for the lessons and actionable information that prevent repeat pain.
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Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Wow, you hear that one? Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional. Now I want to see something. Pain is a real confidence. Learn to struggle. Learn to honor the struggle. I love that. Don't expect joy. I want to cover something, I just don't want to cover it twice. So pain is inevitable. What does that mean? Things are going to go sideways. Things may not work. The relationship could end, the business deal could fall through. But that. It could be painful. Suffering is a choice. You see pain, and this was from Brendon Burchard. Pain is something we feel, all of us. Doesn't matter how much money you make. I made all the money I could ever have dreamed of. I still feel pain on a regular basis, but I've chosen not to suffer. And the difference is, pain is you want to experience it. Before, when I was talking about something failing along your goals, you didn't reach it and it fails. It's kind of painful. I thought I was gonna do a deal by now. It didn't. That's a little painful. But the suffering is when you go, I can't believe I did it. And the next day you think about your insecurities. The next day after that you're thinking about why I didn't reach my goal. Next day after that you're like, oh, now I'm stuck in a life that sucks. The next day and the next day and two o' clock in the morning and three in the afternoon and lunchtimes. And all of a sudden the suffering begins. Pain is meant to teach us a lesson. Suffering cripples us. Now, I don't have time to go through a whole process on how to stop suffering, but I can give you a little hack. Change your thoughts, change the way you think about pain. Think of the lessons you can learn from it. Immediately train your brain to extract the what valuable information, what research, development is coming from the pain so you never experience it again. So you can make it better for the next time. So you can use that as your fuel to blast off to your next level of life rather than the anchor that holds you back. So let's think about that. What pain have you gone through that has turned into suffering? It's the relationship where someone's unfaithful and you end a relationship that you thought was great. That is painful. Painful. I've seen it tear people apart. I know it personally from past experiences. But suffering is three years down the road and still saying, can't trust a man, can't trust a woman. They only want your Money, they're never going to be faithful, come up with these shitty stories that make you suffer and cripple you and stop you from a new relationship. It's the same thing when it comes to money. It's the same thing when it comes to business. What pain have you experienced in your past that you didn't process, that you didn't learn from? And now it's just this same suffering mechanism that wakes you up, keeps you thinking, is when you're, when you're alone in your thoughts, it pops up. It's like, hey, suffering, here, let's spend some time together. It's like, no, screw you. I learned from that. I'm no longer suffering. Declare today, Decide today that suffering will end. Pain is a part of our life. The more pain you have, that means the bigger you're playing the game. But we don't have to suffer. You have a choice. Real confidence is your belief in your ability to figure things. Things out. Man, that is just such a. Think about that. Real confidence is your belief in your ability to figure things out. You see, when does lack of confidence come in? When does insecurity come in? Think about when you don't have options, okay? Think about that. Think about. You know, I'm going to pick a really hard topic again. This is all relating back to success. Habits for wealth, abundance, joy, whatever you want. But think about you. Go to the doctor and they say you have. Not something life threatening, but something really debilitating. You have, I don't know, Crohn's disease. Pick any disease now. If you went home, if you went home and said, I don't know what to do. I don't have anybody to talk to. I don't know what this disease means. Am I going to die from it? Can I get healthier? Can I get better? And you just didn't do anything. You didn't open a book, you didn't try to Google it. You didn't call a friend, don't go see another doctor. You just sat home for two weeks thinking, what do I do? How does it get better? What food do I eat? I don't want to leave my kids, I don't leave my family or I want to start a family, I don't want to leave my parents, I don't want to leave this world. There's so much still to see. Does that rob your confidence? Because you're not figuring things out, you're just obsessing over it compared to a doctor. Say you have XYZ disease and a moment you get off the phone, you find the expert in the world. Not all the crap you see on Yahoo. Questions of how is this disease? You're going to die, you're going to live. Do this, do that, drink tea, take this. No. You find the best person in the world and you read everything on them and they say, oh, you have XYZ disease. This is what we figured out. This is the path, this is the plan, this is the hope. The person who does that because they had the ability to take the time to try to figure it out, all of a sudden you're alive, you got confidence, you're moving forward. Compared to just sitting there feeling hopeless. Where in your life do you need guidance? Do you need to grab the information? Do you need to have the belief that you could figure this out? Like you need to anchor into your soul if something goes wrong. I got this. If I lose all my money, I got this. The relationship ends. It'll suck. I got this. I get sick, that'll suck. I got this. When you start building that, you start building the grit, you start paying your success and life abundance tax. That's the difference of people who go, oh, no, what do I do? Compared to no, I got this. It sucks. I don't like it, I don't want it. I'm not joyful. I haven't. But. But damn, it ain't gonna bring me down. Those are the ones who beat the disease. They're the ones that find the better relationship. They're the ones that make the money and their businesses thrive. So think about that again after I shared that real confidence is your belief in your ability to figure things out. Guess what? You can figure anything out. And we have access to so much information in today's world. Think of 20 years ago, what would you have done 30 years ago, what would you have done in any area now? We could research, dive deep, find the best, read their articles. There's so much great content published for free. And then you have the opportunity to follow people that have already forged the path. What's up? What's up? Hey, before you go, you need to watch these next few videos. They're absolute game changers. Hurry up and click right over here and watch them and I'll see you there. Sa.
