Dean Graziosi says the biggest obstacle to success is the story you tell yourself about what you can't do. These narratives, picked up from parents and media, make you hesitate instead of commit. Write down the story, find evidence it's wrong, and watch it lose power.
The only thing standing between you and the life you deserve and you desire is the story that you tell yourself without even realizing it. And I'm going to just encourage you as we go through this is to look out for those disempowering stories. Whenever you're going through this process, when we talk about it, you might go, you know, I'm really good at negotiating, I'm good at selling. And then all of a sudden the story will tell, Ah, salespeople are cheesy. And then you got to be a salesperson. And what if you had to quit your job to be it? No, that's probably not. You know, my uncle was a salesperson and he tried and he was kind of lame and then he went broke when he was older. No, sales is bad, okay? And suddenly your body told you that story without even realizing it. You got a little anxious about it and you retreated back to the way you are. Or Yabisto. I'm just going to use real estate, for example. It's like, you know what, the hell with this. There's a trillion dollars in cash coming in the real estate market this year. No more sitting on the sidelines, no more doing a deal every three months. I'm going for this. And all of a sudden you remember someone else who lost all their money in the last real estate bust because they weren't educated, they weren't getting capabilities like you are. They didn't have the path. But that doesn't matter. Your subconscious, your ego, your emotions told you that that story popped up and you go, eh. And then you dabble, right? The story will make you dabble. The story will make you not jump in with both feet. And then the story is self fulfilling. Like, see, I knew that wouldn't work. No, you have to call that story out. When you feel it, when you see it, when you're dreaming, when you're looking to that new level and this story pops up that was your parents or your cousin or a teacher or a self defeating belief that you got off the news. When that story pops up, you need to recognize it, call it out like it's a thing. Thing. It's not an event, it's a thing. Call it out and go, what is that story? Write it down. I can't make money in my area because it's too small, it's too big, it's moving too quick. I don't have the money, I don't have the education, I don't have the people. And then go prove it's crap. Go Google it find someone else who had the same exact circumstances and killed it. Okay, I'm getting to unique ability. But again, guys, these are these core foundational things that I could give you a business on. How to sell $20 bills for 10 bucks today. And if your story got in the way and said, well, that can't be, that's too good to be true. What if they stopped making $20 bills? What if some of them are counterfeit? My parents said that, like literally selling $20 bills for 10 bucks, this will get in your way. So how important is this? It's the most important. It's everything. What I'm sharing with you right now, guys, I hope you understand it. I hope you appreciate it. Again, I. I have a group called Genius X People come. I don't share some rocket science breakthrough. This is the type of stuff I share. I just go deeper, harder and stronger. And some of them are doing 10 million a year. And my buddy's doing 800 million, $800 million a year in sales. He still sits there and is reminded of the stuff I'm telling you. He's like, shit. That's why I can't go to a billion that damn story, recognize it, prove it's a lie, go forward and remember this your story. Sometimes we have stories. And I know I have this in certain areas of my life too, guys. The only reason I can share this so easily is that I have stories that affect me still. And I feel the pain of them. I feel the emotion of them. I've had them cripple me. I've had them give me anxiety until I recognize them and go, how did I let that creep in? And it's almost creeped in at a cellular level. You think it's fact. You think it's reality. Reality is nothing. There's no such thing as reality. I want to again, I didn't mean to get off on this, but I feel it in my soul right now. Reality is not reality. I mean, one day you go to a mall and you go to park in a spot in a busy parking lot and someone steals your parking lot. One day you might go, eh, you know, maybe that guy needs it more than me. No big deal. I'll park over there. I'll walk. I could use the exercise. I another day, someone does it, you have, son of a bitch, you, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, Ready to fight, right? What's the reality there? Someone took your parking spot. Actually factually happened. But the reality is what you thought of it. Get in a car accident one day. You know what? No one's hurt. Who cares. That's why we have insurance. It's metal. Get in a car accident another day. Ah. Why'd you do this? My insurance going to go up. This. This. Tell all these stories. The reality is what you perceive it. If you let that story stand there, and we all have them on every level. Doesn't matter. You. You have had massive success in your life where you wouldn't be here, but as you grow, new stories pop out. I'm not kidding you. I'm going to be completely transparent because you guys are like family being with me every single month. I had a story pop out three weeks ago that I didn't know existed. Caused me for the first day of my life to have a full day of anxiety. Never did. If any of you suffer from anxiety, I am so sorry. I didn't know. I've been anxious, I've been stressed. I've had sleepless nights, but. But I never had actual anxiety. And I hit a nerve and just like, the lid came off and I was like, what is this? And it was a story through my childhood that I just repressed, that I kept a lid on and the lid popped off. I was upset the first day, but I'm so thankful for it. I didn't know it was still in there. Now I can work through it. I could call out, lie. I can manipulate that story. There's a whole nother level of life waiting for me now. It's just a story that hit on another level, another level of evolution of life. I went a little too deep on stories, but that's how important it is. What's up? What's up? Hey, before you go, you need to watch these next few videos. They're absolute game changers. Hurry up and click right over here and watch them and I'll see you there.
