Dean GraziosiCofounder @ Mastermind & AI Advantage | Serial Entrepreneur

Stop Waiting For Them To Change First

14 May 2026 · 0 min

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In this brief motivational monologue, Dean Graziosi advises that when relationships become strained, the most effective way to gain clarity and improve dynamics is to embody the behavior you wish to see in the other person. He suggests mirroring desired actions—listening more if you want to be heard, performing small acts of kindness if you want them reciprocated—while shedding ego and aggressiveness that often fuel criticism. Graziosi also reframes criticism as a sign that you are making an impact, implying that being talked about indicates movement and progress rather than failure.

In relationships, when things are going sideways, the best way to get clarity is just be the person you want the other person to be. If you want them to listen to you, listen more. If you want them to do the little things for you, do the little things for them. Take back the ego. Take back the aggressiveness that a critic can create. And just know that if you're causing people to talk about you, most likely that means you're moving and shaking.