The MINDSET Of High Achievers - Do This For SUCCESS! | Dean Graziosi & Brendan Burchard

People, he wants to start that business, he's ready to do it. But sometimes there's that hesitation. He used the word hesitation, right? And the hesitation comes from, I'm not ready, not the right time. I don't know what to do. I don't have the strategy, the plan. I don't have the procedures. I don't know what the system is. And so what we do is, well, we say to ourselves, the funniest mind trick. We say, I don't know how to do that.

Hi, I'm Jeff.

What's up, Jeff? Say hey to Jeff.

Hey, Jeff.

I'm at a point in my company, I'm a handyman. It's time to go bigger. So there's been a lot of hesitation. Am I good enough? I need to get over that. I need to put procedures in place. I believe that a system would probably be helpful, but I don't know where to start with any of that stuff. So I'm a little guy that wants to be a lot bigger. Got great ideas, but I don't know how to get there.

Systems and procedures, that's, that's, that's just the way you're looking through it. So you're a handyman right now?

Correct.

Are you a one man show?

I am.

Okay, and who do you work for? Do you work for individuals or you work for, like apartment complexes? What do you do?

I have a couple property management companies that I service as well as individuals. I'm presently defining my ideal client.

Okay. And if you. If this was three years from now, two years now, we were back here, Brendan and I were up here, and you're like, holy shit. It went amazing. Best three years of my life. What's that look like for you?

That looks like me having my time to manage my business and not be in a job.

Okay.

I want to have multiple trucks. I want multiple people benefiting from my ability. What I feel is ability to manage and lead. And I want them to be able to take advantage of that and have their jobs. But I want to. I want to be. I want to give a. Well, you. You touched on it. It's odd, but I have, I have a dream to have a concierge service.

Okay, that has great.

Could you guys bring me out the whiteboard or the flip chart? It'll come out now. Watch this. It's cool. No, I'm kidding.

It might fall on you, though.

It might fall on you. Got to watch it. I wanted to show you something real quick. You want to share something?

I have an idea. You Go.

Yeah, yeah, you go. Or you want me to go?

I don't. We can talk about systems and procedures. That's maybe a separate conversation, but the first conversation is always mindset. And the first conversation in this is, yes, absolutely, go. Sooner than you are ready.

Absolutely.

I've asked probably my aha.

Sorry to interrupt. That's probably my aha. Not so much from the last speaker, but there's been quite a few. Okay, I just gotta go.

I gotta go give him a round of applause. You have to. You have to.

So what? Brendan, go.

Sooner than you're ready. And when is the most soon moment? Now, like, here's the thing, people. He wants to start that business. He's ready to do it. But sometimes there's that hesitation. He used the word hesitation, right? And the hesitation comes from, I'm not ready, not the right time. I don't know what to do. I don't have the strategy, the plan. I don't have the procedures. I don't know what the system is. And. And so what we do is. Well, we say to ourselves, it's kind of the funniest mind trick. We say, I don't know how to do that. And so we stop. What high performers do is they go, I don't know how to do that. So I better start messing it up to figure it out. You know, I better get in the mix and honor the fact that it's gonna be ugly and messy and you're gonna mess it up. Like, the good news is, like, I can acknowledge, I don't know how many of you guys are like this. I am fully, fully capable and very proud of the fact that Brendon Burchard is a hot mess. I'm a hot mess. I can go into anything. Dean can say, you want to try this? I'm like, sure. The reason my confidence is so high, because I know I'm going to suck at everything. At first, I don't have any other expectation. I have the expectation of a student. I'm going to bumble into this thing. It's going to be a hot mess. I'm not going to figure out. And then I'll start honing and honing and honing and honing. And then one day, it doesn't feel like such a hot mess. And then one day people are like, you're pretty good. And then one day they're like, you're amazing. That's that idea of it's never soon enough. You have to, like, just go and just wander in, be messy, figure it out. People call that courage, I call that science. That's just common sense. Like until you get into it, you won't figure it out. So I'm like, if you're ready to hire, hire. Well, I don't know how to hire. You know how you're gonna learn how to hire that first person, hate that person, fire that person, go. Not like that. Next. You know what I'm saying? Who's ready to get at this? Let's go. Yeah. Ok, now Dean's gonna say something smart.

No, no. It all starts. Cause how long have you been thinking about this?

I started the business with an idea that I would have three trucks on the road by this time. I'm five years in.

So you've been thinking about this, but you're thinking, I don't really have the systems, I don't really have the processes. I don't know how to market for that. Right. So Brendan's right. So the thing that I would do, I shared this yesterday. Some people get motivated by aspiration. If I do this, I could have three trucks. Oh my God. Three trucks make more money, less time for me. That's pretty cool for some people. Some people, that's a carrot person. You dangle the carrot in front of yourself and you go after the carrot. But most people, I suggest, go after the pain. How would you like to be here three years from now and giving us this same shit ass story?

No way.

Not gonna happen.

No.

But I would think about that for the next two days. I would say it's three years from now. I'm still a solo entrepreneur. I'm still wishing and dreaming the next level. I'm still envious of other that are doing what I want. But boo hoo, I don't have the systems. I'm just being honest. You want that shit to happen.

Exactly. Not.

Okay, so whatever motivates you, that's the stick. So think. Some of you are motivated by the carrot. Some of you are motivated by the stick. Who cares if pain motivates you because you don't want to be here in three years. Then amplify it, sit in your room tonight going, oh my God, imagine if it was three years. Imagine if it was five years from now. I'm five years older. I'm still running and gunning. I'm still doing it all myself. I'm still answering the phone. I'm still dealing with two jackass clients when I should have 20. Feel that pain and make that your decision. Time that right now. Things are changing.

Right on.

Okay, I'm gonna share one more thing because this will work for everybody. I learned this from Dan Sullivan. I don't want to say, boy, you wrecked this thing good, dude. No, I'm kidding.

The red one smells better.

The red, I like it. It's like so. No, I'm kidding. I didn't really smell it. I'd have a headache. So I learned this from Dan Sullivan, is when you have this balance of growing, there's two things. Whenever you're stressed in business, it means, let's just say this is your opportunities and this is your capabilities, right? If these two aren't in balance, you're stressed. For example, if your capabilities are to handle 20 houses a week, right? That's what you can handle. I'm just guessing some, but all of a sudden a company comes along and says, hey, can you handle my 600 houses? Ah, stress. It's opportunity stress. Holy shit, I can't handle that. Then all of a sudden you go, well, screw this, I'm going on a hiring phase. Even if it's the wrong people and you hire all the people and you match your capabilities with your opportunities, you're balanced. This is the life of an entrepreneur, Brendan. And I get there all the time. You're like, ah, I got this shit. And then all of a sudden this guy goes, I don't want you to do my houses anymore. And it goes down to 20 houses a week. And you got all these employees like, oh shit, I gotta pay all these people and I don't have the opportunities. So the only thing I want to tell you is this is the amazing adventure of an entrepreneur. You could go get a job, your shit's just like this for the rest of your life, that's fine. But if you want to be in the game, match these as best you can. So when I say capabilities and opportunities, capabilities are systems and processes. But if you build all that shit and you don't go out and market and sell to get more people in you, you could build all the systems and processes in the world. You have nobody to do it. So all I could say is, everybody in here, as you're building something, imagine these two are growing and you want them to stay as equal as you can. On the way up, hire one person, while simultaneously you're learning a little bit of direct response marketing. You build a consumer awareness guide on how to hire the perfect handyman, and you're starting some online marketing. More leads are coming in, you hire your first person, ramp ups, go on, start doing videos, more people come in, referral system. Second employee, personal assistant. All of a sudden, if you grow these alongside of each other, you can grow with less. Roller coaster. It's always going to be a roller coaster. Enjoy the ride. Because at the end of your life, you don't want to look back and go, thank God I played it safe. All right. Thank you. Thank you. All right, what's your question? You got one or you just wanted to give the honey? All right, let's just. There we go. Let's.

Hello.

You rock, man.

Thank you. I'm pretty nervous right now. My name is Tyler. My situation is a little bit unique. I'm a day trader, okay? So my whole business is me and my psychology. So that's what I've come here for, is the psychological part of the day trading. And because it's very, very emotional when you. When you're losing thousands of dollars at a moment, you know, you don't want to believe it, and then holding hope and all this shenanigans. But when you're winning, you're like, dude, you're on fire. But I just need help with the fact of, like, now I'm at that point where I get hesitant. I get afraid to pull the trigger. Even though I have my plus setups, everything strategic, but I hesitate. And then I watch it go without me. And. And then when I finally decide to pull the trigger, like, I take. I'm on the bad end. You see what I mean? So I lose money, and then it comes to the point where, like, I don't even want to go in state trading anymore. Like, I just want to go hide.

You know what I mean?

But then I finally get out of that, and I just need help with the whole psychological.

So I got a quick question, because I don't know much about that. Besides, I have anxiety for you right now.

Yeah, I'm pretty nervous.

Anybody else? Like, oh, man, you're making me nervous.

I'm sorry. I'm nervous.

No.

Do you know anybody that's been a day trader for 20 years?

Not 20 years, but I have a mentor who's been day trading for eight years.

Is he still day trading? Yes, he's been eight years, you said?

Yes, sir.

What's his life like? Is he stable, normal, or.

Yeah, he makes about. If you want me, he makes, on average, about $8,000 a day.

Okay, and how rare is that? I mean, do you want. I mean, is that. I don't know anything about this business. It just seems like it feels like. Seems like. Like a professional gambler. Like, they don't last long. The emotional roller coaster is so difficult, Right? So it's like, maybe. And I'd love your opinion on this. Yeah, yeah, Let me get your opinion on this before I go any deeper.

I mean, here's why I feel so bad. And this is. This applies to everybody, so maybe it's helpful. The reason it feels so bad is because it's always left to randomness. And so when things are not hitting and day trading, you're like, oh, my God. And this is the stress. The anxiety comes up and you don't know what to do. So you get angry and you're like, oh, I don't know what to do. Or you get scared, you don't know what to do, or you freeze and you're just like. Everything's so minute by minute in his industry, and I've worked with some of you guys at a really high level. And the challenge that will happen if you don't figure out your own method of coping with that and it becomes a rule, it will only get worse. Like, the more success you have and the more randomness you put on the success, the more it feels terrible. It's not that you have to have all systems and procedures and everything perfectly codified, but if you don't, you're in trouble. So you might just have, like, the best guy I know, really great example, like, right next to his computers. I say computers because a lot of these guys have, like, five monitors. You know, it's like, I like, geek out on their tech. I'm like, look at all these monitors. Let's watch a comic book show.

Anyway.

But he has this thing right next to it, next to his monitor, and it has his five rules. And his five rules are how to react in, like, negativity or uncertainty or chaos. And it's just like he, like, he starts. Because you're always going to have that impulse of like, everybody has that. That won't go away. Especially when it's your money, right? And you push the button and the money was gone.

Yeah, yeah, right.

That. That will not change in that particular thing. You'll always feel a little. That. Like that little bit. But what you need is that card that says, okay, when this loss happens, do 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and teach yourself. Will yourself. Make yourself follow those five steps. Because you've done it in the past. Sometimes you've taken a loss and you handled it great. And you went out at night and felt fine.

Yeah.

What did you do in your mind when that happened? What did you do on the dashboard when that happened, like, you know, you did something right.

Oh, I said, I said. I said losses. Like if. Because I'm a scalp trader, so I'm only scalping for 10, 20, 30 cents, but I'm taking thousands of shares at a time, right. When I take, let's say 2,000 shares and it makes 30 cents, that's $600. Well, when I do that, if I can do that consistently throughout, you know, every day.

Yeah, but you've lost before.

Yeah. Oh, yeah.

So think about the time that you lost before and you handled it well and start writing your rule system down. Yeah, like, you need to have that to go to. Like, when this happens, I. Oh, here's what I, what I go to. I do this in my own events because we do eight events a year and there are thousands of people, and every time we do an event, it's like, okay, if this stuff happens at the event, we do these things. It's like your simple little checklist.

Right.

Maybe read. If you haven't read Checklist Manifesto yet, read that book and develop your own checklists to go. Okay, in this circumstance, I follow these five rules, and that will create. Even if it doesn't solve the problem. Here's the funny thing. You don't always have to solve the problem, but if you order your mind, you'll win faster. Right. Sops, like, get that down. So figure, like, order your mind in those moments of chaos and it'll feel way better and you'll get to a solution faster.

Yeah.

And the other.

Yeah, no, this is amazing. This is probably the best advice you could get for this because the other thing, too is your significance. I'm betting at this time is attached to your winning days and your losing days. So are you in a good mood on a winning day?

Of course.

Okay. And you have a girlfriend or a significant other?

Yeah, this is my girlfriend right here.

Okay. So on a day he loses the jackass. Sometimes. Yes. So what you're doing is you're feeling better about yourself if you win and bad about yourself if you lose. You're taking it personal. And you can only do that so much. So his advice is so perfect because whether you win or lose, you're the same human.

Okay?

So you can't just. You can't make. I have money. I'm good. I'm strong. I'm taking care of my family. I have no money. I'm a loser. I'm an idiot. Why the fuck am I doing this? Right, that you can't handle as emotional roller coaster you have to anchor in who you are. And even if you gotta write it down to the left, this is who I am. And when stuff goes sideways, this is what I do. And train yourself over the next six months, you'll be able to do it less emotional.

Thank you.

You got it.

Round applause. Great question.

Who's next? Who's got the mic? Oh, there we go back there.

Hi, I'm Kathryn Gray from near Chicago, Illinois.

What's up?

I'm Kathryn.

I actually came here to learn more about real estate and how to get involved in it. And I have learned some. But while here, I realized that there's so much more that my business can do. I've had a business for 35 years, and there have been some good and bad and really bad. And we're trying to grow right now in a different market, but we have five different. Still in software, five different ways. I guess I didn't say that. We're engineers and we write engineering software. Five different potential ways to go. Do we have to choose one and focus on only one? Or can we choose two based on what are we. What do we think is going to be best?

Can I ask you a question? How do you sell your software?

Everything's sold online.

Okay, so let's just. Let's just. And I love the way we go back and forth, but let me just tell you the variables that I see is who runs your marketing to sell it online?

Me.

Okay, so. And do you study any direct response marketing or understand how that works at a deep level or.

No, not on a deep level.

Okay, so think of these variables. Brendan and I do millions and millions and millions and millions of dollars every year just online selling our products and our courses, right? If we just take our books, we take one book that we have to sell, not all other things. We do one book. It might take. And we call it, or I call it marketing stamina. It might take five or 10 different sales videos, five or 10 different offers, 50 different ads that we're running on Facebook or Instagram or YouTube. That's so many different variables. But that's the marketing stamina. That's why we win. We keep at it until we find the perfect sales page with the perfect offer, with the perfect platform, with the perfect ads, right? So that takes a lot of different work. Which is all worth it. 1,000% worth it. I just passed a half a million copies all on social media with my book.

Right?

All worth it. But here's the thing. If you have that and all of a sudden you have Five different softwares. I'm not good at math, but imagine the variables, right? Is it Instagram, Facebook, is it YouTube? Is it a video? Is it a static ad? Do I sign them up to an opt in page or I go to the regular page and then when they're there, what is the messaging for this software and the messaging for that? My suggestion is, which one do you feel is the biggest home run? Which is the one that people need or I should say want the most? And be careful. I could go in a million different directions. Be careful. You're building these software for what people need. Make sure you know what they want. People only buy what they want. They don't buy what they need. I would figure out which one of those softwares people want the most. This is my opinion. He might have a completely different opinion. And I would obsess on that one. I would go deeper on marketing. I would understand direct response. I would crack the code on that one and then once the code is cracked on that one, you can apply it to all the other four.

Okay.

Do you have one or two or three of those? Top five? Which ones? Like, which ones are the lion's share of revenue?

Our revenue is from custom programming.

Okay.

But we're trying to come up with a service.

Got it. So you don't yet have the service.

Correct.

Okay, got it.

Got it. So I'm definitely focused on what Dean is saying. And I would also like, if that's going to be the thing, who they are. Yeah, whatever you've already like. The big thing is when you're in transition as business, find what is really driving like 80% of your success and keep doing that.

We will.

Okay. Then that other part of time, you add on that new service, but only choose like one and get that one thing. There's a mentality in that we kind of try to teach at my events. It's called blockbuster mentality. If you're going to do the work, create blockbusters. Right. So if you're going to make a service, make a blockbuster service. Something that is like, that one thing will crush it for you. And you can focus so much time and energy and effort on that instead of doing lots of different things. It's that very basic thing of like I always tell people, you all know, like, Apple is worth like a trillion dollars plus as a brand or whatever. They have like tens of thousands employees, but they basically have like six or 10 products when you really think about it. So think about that. You're trying to do five things. Apple, that has Tens of thousands of employees and a trillion dollars to spend is only doing, like, 10. Yeah, it kind of re baselines like, wow, we really take on too much as entrepreneurs and think we have to do everything when the biggest companies in the world are really honing, like, obsessing about one or two little things, and that's it, and that's what makes them bigger. So I would find, like, what's that service gonna be? That's gonna be a blockbuster. Obsess on that. But make sure you have that. That part of the business that's already doing really well. Let that thing keep doing its thing. Make sure that's doing it with excellence while you bolt on a new blockbuster. I don't usually tell people just like, well, stop everything and start this new thing, especially if you have good momentum, good clients, good team, good responsibilities over here. Like, maintain that and then make that transition. And that will usually help you do it a little more sanely, a little more strategically, and maybe that will serve.

Okay, thank you very much.

Your question.

Thank you for being here.

We're over on time. You want to do one more? Let's do one more. All right. Sorry. I know everybody's got their hands up. It's Tanner's fault.

Hello, and thank you very much for taking my question. My name is Anthony Costa, and I know my situation might be a little bit different than a lot of people. A lot of people are all awesome in here. They started their own businesses. They've had failures, successes. I'm actually going into a brand new business right now, so I'm going into real estate. I just got my real estate license. I just got signed on to a new brokerage, Keller Williams, here in Scottsdale. Nice and awesome. I just kind of want to know. My goal is to be, like, the rookie of the year in Scottsdale at the new brokerage, Blockbuster.

Why would you have any other goal?

Exactly. I went to their gala. They invited me. They had an extra seat just this past Wednesday, their awards ceremony, and it was just awesome. They, the rookie of the year, actually had $241,000 in commission his first year in real estate. I'm looking to break that and do 250 this next year. And I have the drive. You guys are absolutely phenomenal. This is awesome that I actually had the opportunity to come here and just kind of, what would you advise I should do going into this, you know, for the first time ever and just kind of what could help me get off my feet and, you know, hit the ground running? Like, I'm really looking forward to.

Okay, so a couple things I would do is I would find, you know the name of that guy that was a rookie.

I do not know the name of him yet.

I'll find out his name and take him to like stake 44 or something. Buy him a $200 lunch or dinner and ask him the top five things he did to become rookie of the year.

Yeah.

And then do that. Okay.

Next for sure.

Yeah.

First off, I would do that. I would. Exactly what I would do. I would get with him and say, how'd you crush it out of the gate? First off?

Yep.

Secondly, all the stuff we're talking about here. Right. Third, I would find, I guarantee he found a niche. Like he's dealing with just investors or he's dealing with just high end homes or he's dealing with just low end homes on the west side. What so many people do is they go in and want to be everything to everybody. Niche it down, decide what's the best for you. High end homes, dealing with that type of people. Investors that are buying like crazy from out of state, dealing with Canadian investors or California investors. People get so scared to niche when actually that's where the money is. So I would go to lunch with that dude. I would decide what lights you up. I would set the agenda. I'd make a not to do list and get all the shit off your plate that doesn't stop serve you to be rookie of the year. And I'd go after it that way.

That's awesome. Thank you so much. And if I could, one more quick question, if you don't mind. And I come up really fast. Would you sign my book for me?

Yeah, go quick. And everybody else is like, can I come up?

No, no.

While you do that, I'll give you. Yeah, yeah. You do your thing. I'll give you one more piece of advice too while you're saying that.

Thank you so much.

You got it.

And that's A lot of you guys are starting actually he, he felt like he was kind of not part of this group a little bit. He felt like he's, you know, I'm starting something new. A lot of these guys are like, how many of you are actually starting something new in the next six months? We look around, man.

Like, like look around, look around, look.

Around with these guys are waving their hands because they are also starting something new. So here's the problem. When you're starting something new, you always feel like you're alone starting something new. Right. It's the default setting. We Think we're like, oh, I'm unsure. I don't know, I must be the only one. So, yeah, model someone. Like he's saying. But two, go into that market confident. Confident. When you sell something, be confident. Even when you're new, you got to be confident. You can still be the student, you can still be humble, you can still be great.

I did a whole persuasion training, first day.

That's it.

Confidence. Yeah.

Like, that's too many new people. Especially sir. Look at home, you can have your doubts, but if you are selling with somebody, which is what you're doing, you've got to show them so much confidence in what you doing, who you are, what your process is. Even if you don't know, even if they ask a question, you don't know, you say, you know what, I'm gonna go track that down for you. I'll let you know tomorrow. Instead of, yeah, I don't know. No, it's like, oh, you know what? I'll track that down. I'll get the tumor tomorrow. Like, you gotta have that confident lean to do well in all of sales. And that's where most people really screw it up. They just won't, like, say it directly. And they're just trying to be nice because then what they wanna do is feel like they're fitting in, feel like they're belonging, feel like they're creating this great space for this person. But what that safe place is for that other person is your confidence. So you gotta will yourself to get there and come from that place that you will find a way to serve them, even if you don't know if and if your confidence comes from there. I will find a way to serve you, even if I don't know how. That will make me a successful business person in any context, all the time.

Awesome.

Right?

That's it.

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