Dean Graziosi warns that confidence is gradually eroded by accumulating small pieces of negative input—bad advice from friends/family, repeated negative news exposure, and persistent outside influences. He advises identifying and blocking or deflecting these sources (be "Teflon"), shifting conversations, and trying tactics like a short news diet to prevent the stacking effect that undermines motivation to start businesses or pursue goals.
Where are you getting bad advice? What people are you surrounding yourself with that are giving or slowly casting shadows of doubt? Where are you getting shadows of doubt? Pieces of negativity that you need to put a wall on? Confidence get. Gets destroyed by accumulation, by accumulate, by, by accumulating small pieces that build, that suppress your confidence, Right? It's not an all one thing your negative friend says. Why would you want to start a business now? The economy is going to crash, the world is at war, gas is up, inflation's up, costs are up. What the hell? Why would you start a business now? That's so stupid. Your broke friend, right, or the one that hates his job or hates her job is telling you that, right? But she's your friend. She loves you. She's telling you that and you're like, she doesn't get it. She's not a part of the community. She doesn't have what I have. But it builds a little, right? And starts stacking up. So the first thing I want to share with you is where are you getting bad advice? What people are you surrounding yourself with that are giving or slowly casting shadows of doubt? Where are you getting shadows of doubt? Pieces of, of. Of of negativity that you need to put a wall up? Now here's the thing. Yeah, Carmen, I get it. Close family, right? Sometimes the people in your lives sleep next to you at night that are doing this to you. Sometime it's your parents, sometimes it's relatives, sometimes it's your friend. And you can't just boot them out of your life. But I've shared this before. What you're going to have to do is become Teflon or you're going to have to even get more creative and find ways to shift the conversation. You cannot let anyone climb inside your mind. Find a way to deflect, be Teflon. Find a new story. Just let them talk about something they want to talk about. If they got something and that they want to talk about, let them have it. And when you're done, you can give them love and move on. What are the outside influences that affect you to make you go ugh or right? I talk about this. You guys know I've been talking about this for 15 years. I went on a 15 year, 12 year news diet. Because what I realized is there's never a time that I watch the news and get done and go, damn, I feel amazing. I feel so empowered. What a great message that was. Every time you watch the news, I don't care if you're a fox. News watcher or a CNN news watcher or MSNBC or you bounce back and forth. Has anybody here in the last year watched the news and got done and felt amazing? Raise your hand if you felt amazing watching the news. Not one. Who in here has watched the news in the last six months or the last year and got done in like, damn, this world's screwed up. We're in trouble. I'm screwed. Why should I even do this? Why should I start my new business right? I mean, it can get extreme. And I'm not saying you should. I mean, for me, I know this is a crazy time and you might want to get updated, but go on a one week news diet. What if you just went one week, you would see that your emotions change. There is no doubt that watching the news affects your confidence, which is. What have I been talking about? What is the word I asked you to write before? Accumulation, right? If you have a friend in your life saying, kev, I don't know, you really want to do this? Come on, come on, you really got to do this. And you're like, no, no, I got this. And all of a sudden you click the news and it's like, oh shit, things are pretty bad. And all of a sudden your friend that tells you you can't. Then the negative news and then we're going to talk about more. And when they stack, then all of a sudden one day you go, maybe I shouldn't think about that. And you can't even put your finger on what it was. You can't just blame your friend or you can't just blame the bad advice or you can't just blame the news. It's this stacking effect. So that's why I said in the beginning, how do you build confidence or how do you maintain confidence or let confidence come through is by identifying what robs it and not allowing it into your life and identifying what builds it and bring more of it into your life.
