This ONE Lesson Transformed My Entire Life

Do you ever think about it this way? You win when no one else is watching. Welcome to the Dean Graziosi show. All success starts right here. You win when no one else is watching is something I've been telling both of my kids. I bet to say six years, seven years, about six years when it comes to playing sports now, both of them. My son plays baseball, My daughter plays softball. They both pitch. They're both really good. Not because they're my kids, they excel at it. But one thing I've been telling them forever, if you saw my kids, if you ever see me at a live event or I'm anywhere with my kids, just test me on this and say to my kids, hey, how do you win? They'll say two things, practice and hard work. And you win when no one's watching. And here's the thing. My daughter loves the praise of winning a game. She loves when she pitches, she has the ball in her hand when everybody's cheering for her. But that doesn't happen at the game. That doesn't happen in public. The reason she's good is because she practices her guts out when no one's watching. I want to give you a quick little story. It doesn't matter if you're a parent or not. Listen, the reason I teach my kids this, the reason I teach you guys this, is because I want it anchored into my life forever. I mean, everybody wants the praise of the win. Everybody wants the winning business. Everybody wants the winning relationship. Everybody wants the winning income. They want to win the sports game. But not everybody's willing to put the time in to work when no one else is watching. So for example, my daughter, last night, as I'm recording this, it was last night she played in the championship game. From 11 to 13 year old girls fast pitch softball. And they weren't even supposed to be in the finals, but they beat everybody. And now they're playing the number one team who is undefeated. And the only way they could take first place is to win twice. So they wouldn't even play the championship game. They didn't win the first one. So there's two pictures on my daughter's team. The other girl's amazing, too. Great athlete. She's a year older than my daughter. She pitches first, then my daughter goes in and my daughter had the game of her life. She did not give up one run against the undefeated team. I mean, she threw strike after strike. And all her friends came and seen her, and all her friends were saying, oh my God, Bri, you're so Amazing. You're so lucky to be that good. And I started hearing these girls, they weren't doing it to be disrespectful, but that's how the world is. I heard lucky or blessed or gifted. She's not gifted. My daughter wasn't. My daughter's short for her age. My daughter did amazing last night and got the praise is because she won the game when no one else was watching. I go home four nights a week early because she wants to throw the ball, and I want to be there and encourage her. She's practicing literally almost every single day. She could go hang out with friends, she could play video games, she could do something else, but she likes to win. And she practices when no one else is watching. In fact, in my office, in my studio where I hold my masterminds, and it's big enough, and I'm going to, literally, because summers in Phoenix are really crazy. It's hot as hell. I'm putting in this week. I'm putting in a place for her to pitch in the office because she said, I don't want to lose momentum over the summer, Dad. I want to come back even better. Now, that's an amazing lesson I taught, and I hope that rubs off on her. I'm using sports as this foundation for her life. But let me ask you, do you want the glory? It's like wanting to be the rock star. You want to be up on stage jamming and singing and the crowd going nuts and the girls going crazy or the guys going crazy, you want all that. But how do you think those people got on stage? Do you think they rehearsed when no one is watching? Do you think they packed up a crappy old van in some cases and went to a club where no one showed up? No one's watching, but they still played, they still pursued. If you want to win the game of life, whatever it is, you want that next level of relationship income, doing your own business. You have to practice and work hard when no one else is watching. Like watching or listening to this podcast or modeling and following. Hey, listen, I have a lot of mentors model and follow other mentors that are playing the game at the highest level possible. But there is a lot of work. There is a lot of time that goes in when you don't get the glory, when no one sees the blood, sweat and tears. No one sees the sleepless nights. No one sees the anxiety when you wake up in the middle of the night not knowing if it's gonna work. No one sees that you're scared shit, shitless that you're gonna go from a job to doing your own thing. And here's the other part I remember in my own life, when I started getting success, I was working my guts out. I was working on cars during the day. I was working at real estate at night. And then before I did my first, like, education course, I was doing cars during the day, real estate night, and setting the alarm at 5 in the morning. From 5 to like 9 in the morning. I'd work on trying to figure out how to write a course on how to do what I did in my life and how to be successful. I was so confused. I did all that and guess what? I did that for years. For years. I'm just being honest. I put in lots and lots of hours. I had fun, I enjoyed myself. I played hard, too, but I put in a lot of time. But then when it finally hit and I got a little momentum, do you know I heard a lot of my friends say, oh, you lucky bastard. In fact, I had a joke for a while, made me think I had a joke for a while, that when I try something new that's out of the norm, which most people wouldn't try, people either say, oh, you Dean got lucky, you lucky bastard. Or if I tried and failed, it's like, I knew that idiot wouldn't make it. There's nothing in between. And you know what? Awesome. Screw it. I don't care. I don't dislike my friends who said all that stuff. I'm still friends with them, some of them since fifth grade. But they're gonna look through life through a lens of they're satisfied with okay. They're satisfied making okay money, they're satisfied with okay relationship. They're satisfied with being an okay parent. They're satisfied with an okay career that doesn't light them up. Screw that. I'm not satisfied with. I'd rather fail miserably. If I look back on my deathbed, would you. You too? Let me ask you, would you let them look back on your deathbed and be like, hey, you know what? Played it safe. Didn't go after anything. But, you know, I lived an okay life that. Excuse my language. I. It just. I felt like saying it and I said it. And if you have someone younger, listen, I'm sorry, I feel bad now, but that's the emotion I feel. And if you're listening to me, if you're listening to my podcast, then you feel the same way. And what I'd encourage you to do is don't try to change those that don't want to change and those that do want to change, don't try to sell them yourself. Send them here. Send them this podcast. Send them to my Instagram. Send them to somebody else that can help inspire them so maybe they could see there's a better, bigger version of them waiting. Listen, life is short. It's going by a gazillion miles an hour. We got one shot at this. We might as well squeeze every bit of juice out of life we possibly can. So with that said, the lesson I taught my daughter, my son too, I could have a great story with him. But I love keeping these around 7, 8 minutes so you can get some wisdom, get some and go out and take action with it. Winners win when no one else is watching. How many basket, how many foul shots do you think Michael Jordan took when no one else was in the gym, right? How many shots did Wayne Gretzky take when no one else was on the ice? Right? How, how many, how many times has LeBron James practiced and woke up sore and couldn't move that no one else sees? Yes, he gets the glory. Everybody goes nuts. I, I, me and Tony every year invites me to the finals and I, I'm blessed. I'm not even saying I got it. Tony gets the, you know, half, half court on the floor, seats. Tony Robbins. Those, those seats are probably 40 grand each. I don't even know invites me every year. I sit there, I watch LeBron James play four, three or four times now. It's unbelievable. And he gets the praise and the audience go, I watched Cleveland go insane when they won. But guess what? He did that when no one else is watching. You don't get the glory. My daughter, last night, everybody praised her. They won the first game. They lost the second one in the last inning. I was so disappointed, but they won the first game. I watched everybody high fiving her. She loved it. But if she didn't practice, she wouldn't get any of that. So remember that. Doing this work, listening to this, watching this, going through my courses, other people who are playing the game, you're doing the work when no one else is watching. And when you soar, let them admire you. Let them envy you. In fact, be the inspiration to pull some people with you. If you love what I do, make sure you share it with other people. All right, See you soon. What's up? What's up? Hey, before you go, you need to watch these next few videos. They're absolute game changers. Hurry up and click right over here and watch them, and I'll see you there, Sam.