Want to be Successful? Do THIS for the Next year

Instead of looking through the dust cloud of what could happen, let's pretend it's a year from now. And we're looking backwards. So many times in life because of this thing, right? This phone that's in all of our pockets. We are so connected to everything. Everything is in the moment, right? People can text you and email you and call you. It's so in your face that I think it's the busiest we've ever been. And our brains don't even have time to set goals in the way we used to because we're just trying to get through the day. Like some of us are. Like, I just want to make it through the night. Your head hits the pillow, you're like, oh, I made it out alive. I got another day, right? It's hard. It's got this. It's like a dust cloud around us. And we're expected to set goals when we can't even see two feet in front of us. So I like to do it a little differently. And this is how I set my compelling future. Let's call it a compelling future, not just goals for the next 12 months. Let's talk about our compelling future. I like to pretend it's one year from today. And instead of us looking through the dust cloud. Stay with me a minute. I know this might sound a little hokey, but instead of looking through the dust cloud of what could happen, pretend it's a year from now and we're looking backwards. And let's pretend it was the best year of your life. What would have to happen in your life for it to be the best year of your life in your career or your income or your business or your relationships or love or health or joy? And I don't want you. Your brain's going to go, oh, I would love for this happen. No, no, no. I want you to trick your brain. I want you to focus it and live it positive. Focus as if it already happened. Take a moment and really visualize. My coaching business has launched. I'm coaching 100 different people. 100 different people are giving me $1,000 each. I coach them monthly and I'm transforming their lives. I get to help them through that trouble that I figured out in my life. They send me thank you cards. They're so excited that I get to be with them every single month and transform their life. It's filled my soul. And I get to work from anywhere I want with this laptop. And I can't believe this became real in my life. I can't believe I get to coach people for a living, that I get to make more, do more, be more, while simultaneously serving and living into my full potential. God, and I love the fact that I get to make $100,000 a year just by serving. That's different than saying I hope to make $100,000 a year. Right. So I'm not trying to oversimplify this, but I want to tell you, this has been one of the biggest game changers in my life, is when I can project myself a year from now and I'm looking back, right? Our relationship has our intimacy back. I can't believe when I walk through the door, the way he looks at me is the way he used to look at me 15, 20 years ago. I can't believe that. It's so. It gives me butterflies when he looks in my eyes. It makes me feel like the man I used to be. When my wife looks at me and I know she knows I have her back. I have her back in a way that I haven't had her back in so long. And she deserved that. She's come alive. I see the fire in her eyes. God, it feels so amazing. And you just write this down. When it comes to your health, I can't believe I look in the mirror, there's me. There she is. God, I love the way you look. You're at the ideal weight you want to be, not someone else's weight. Your ideal weight. This is different than writing down 100 grand a year. Get in the best shape ever. You know, make more money, buy the house. Everybody does that. And all of them fall. What I want to share with you is we have the opportunity to pretend it's a year from now and we're looking backwards. Yeah, I wrote the book. You could even sue. You said, my book is written great. Your book is done. Take it one step further. My book is done. And there's people all over the world with my book in their hands, and they're reading it and they're on chapter six and they get that story. I never told anybody except when I wrote in this book. And, God, it feels good when they hit me up on social media and tell me about chapter six. The more we visualize, the more we have a positive focus on it, the more it's not just this dream. It's our reality that we just haven't got to yet. When we can, when we can see it in our head, eventually we can hold it and see it because it's real. So I'd love for you to shift this whole Goal, process, thing and turn it into a compelling future and put yourself in that spot. You could sit and say, God, I haven't laughed again. Hear me on this. I know this might sound subtle, and some of you are probably like, get to the point, Dean. Here's the point. You could say, I can't wait to laugh and smile more in the next 12 months. Or you could close your eyes and go, oh, I laugh so goddamn much now, it's ridiculous. People think there's something wrong with me. I smile so much. Oh, my God, when people. I'm so full of joy. I'm so full abundance. I feel so connected to other people. I love living in my full potential, but I love that I smile more than I ever have. People think I'm up to something. I'm smiling so much. That's different than saying, I'm gonna smile more. Put yourself in this spot of saying, it's the best year of my life, and I smile so damn much. People think I'm up to something. When you start visualizing that, you start crafting what that means to you. And that's where you get your goals. You start visualizing the best year of your life with your career and your income or your health and your relationships and your joy. Allow yourself to think. Allow yourself to be there. See it crystal clear. And that's how you craft a compelling future. Because when you know where you are, the next piece is, where do you want to go? That's how we attach an emotion. That's how we get to see it. And as you visualize it, write it down. That's where goals really come from. And don't feel like it's just the predictive model. I want to be healthier. I want to be happier. I want to have more joy. I want more love, and I'd like more money. Yay. You and everybody else. That everybody else. After a month, those things go away. And then there's one thing I want to share with you. Once you craft these, don't just read them once in a while. Let's spend the next year together and read them on a regular basis. The biggest sales job in the history of the world, we have to do is sell ourselves that we deserve this and we can take the steps to do it and don't allow ourselves to feel fall into old habits and old routines. So once you craft your compelling future, why not read it every day? Why not look at it every single day of your life? Because it's your life, and we only got one shot. If you Know where you are and you know where you want to go. The third thing is why? If you guys know my journey, you know this story. This is an exercise I've been doing for 20 years of my life. Why? Why are you here? Why do you want to go from where you are to where you want to be? Why do you want to empower your girls? Work from home, live into your full potential? Why? You see, we all think we want why. We know. But a lot of times, especially those of you who are new, sometimes you got to dig under the hood and really get out of your head. Get out of your head and get into your heart. And when you attach that emotion to the why, oh, my God, that's the secret. The secret of this whole thing is stay engaged. Learn from people who've already been there. Stay engaged, take uncomfortable action and lead with your heart. Get out of that logical mindset. It's not logical that you could be happy every day. It's not logical that a broke kid from upstate New York with nine marriages and dyslexia and no college could have more success than I could ever imagine possible. It's not logical. Get out of your logical head. Get into your heart. Your heart can accomplish anything. Model those that have already been there. Stay connected and let your heart be your driver, not your thoughts. And when your thoughts do, use all the other stuff we trained and what's in accelerated success for me to get the right thoughts. But let your heart lead. And that's what this little section of why is about. For those of you that know my story, about 15 years ago, 12 years ago, I did an exercise called Seven Levels Deep. I hired a gentleman, a consultant, at $10,000. His name is Joe Stump. An amazing human. Love the guy, still friends with him. And I said, how do I get my students more success? He said, have them do the seven levels deep. I'm like, great, I paid you 10 grand. Give me that seven levels deep. And he's like, no, no, I got to take you through it. I'm like, oh, alright, I'll go through it now. I had team members with me. I remember we were sitting outside of my house at the time. We were sitting in an outside table of 10 people. And I'm like, all right, I'll just go through this. What is this? Seven levels deep? Joe, I paid you. If it gets my students more success, I'll do it. He's like, we're going to find your why. I'm like, oh, it's about purpose. Yeah, I've done Exercises about purpose and why. No, I've never done anything like this. This is the simplest way to get into your heart. Holy shit. Changed my life forever. I remember this day like it was yesterday. Especially when I cried, ugly cried in front of my team members for the first time. But he said to me, why would you started with. I could say to you, why are you here today? Why did you join up? Why'd you come today? Right? There could be a lot of reasons. I want to make more money, want to launch my business, want to be happier. I want more joy, right? You could put in the chat if you want. But why are you here? Right? He said to me, why did you pay me ten grand? We ended up doing a barter, but that's originally was 10,000 bucks. And I said, I remember. It popped out of my head. I said, I want my students to have more success. He's like, oh, that's really noble, Dean. So I asked you why you hired me. You said, students, more success, Great. So the seven levels deep is asking the same question with the previous answer. Not to give it away, but that's really it. So he said to me, why is it important for you for your students to have more success? I remember being in my head and I gave some kind of noble answer. It's like, hey, people deserve more. I see the path, but a lot of them give up on themselves. I. So I want to help them leave a legacy. He's like, oh, that's great. I asked why you paid me and said, you want your students to have more success. The next one was, you know, you want them, they deserve more. They could see it, you want to help them, so why is that important to you? And I remember I said something that was in my head. Something about a sustainable business and making people in this industry step up or step out. I had all this stuff I was saying that was out of my head. But when I got to the fifth question changed, I could physically feel my answer change. He asked with the previous answer, why this? And I remember saying. I remember feeling like literally like a dunk in my heart. And my physiology changed. I got a little emotional and I said, I never want to go backwards. I never said that out loud before. What the hell did that mean? He asked me why I hired him when he started. And now I'm telling him, because I never want to go backwards. What the hell is that? And I started thinking and getting emotional. I didn't like being broke as a kid. I didn't like to go to school with not having lunch money and tell my friends I wasn't hungry when I was like, 90 pounds. I'm not hungry. It's like, no, I just didn't have lunch money today. Or my dad gave me pennies one time. 99 pennies. Lunch was a dollar back then. I was not gonna pull out 99 pennies or 80 pennies and a couple nickels and pay for lunch. Hell, no. I'm just gonna pretend I'm not hungry. I didn't like being evicted from a trailer park when I was with my mom. I didn't like my mom working two jobs to make nothing. Three jobs, actually. I didn't like that the back window of our car was busted out for, like, a year straight, and there was tape and plastic on it. I started thinking of all these crazy emotions that I had never thought of in my heart. I'm like, I don't want to go backwards. That was a real fear of mine. It was from my heart. And I remember getting emotional, and Joe said, thank you for being so transparent. And he said, what was the next question? Why don't you want to go backwards? Like, shit. Didn't I just answer it? I don't want to go backwards. He's like, no, that was only the fifth question. You got six and seven. And then it popped out of my mouth. I said, I want my kids to have choices. I never said those words before. And I'm not talking about raising entitled children. I have four of them now. The last thing this world needs is entitled children. But I remember, and I started thinking, I didn't have choices as a kid. My parents married and divorced and moved so much. I'd find new family, new grandparents, and this. And I have to move, and I have to move, and I have to leave this school, leave this. I didn't have choices, and I want my kids to have choices. And if you guys are parents, you know, that's the time that the fire, the tears are coming down my face going, they deserve choices. I need them to be able to do their thing, to live into their heart. And I'm like, I found it. Thank you for my why. And he said, dina, I got to be honest with you. That was only the sixth time. Like, son of a bitch, I don't know if I have another one in me. He's like, why do you want your kids to have choices? And now I'm completely in my heart. I'm completely full of tears running down my face. And I said the thing that changed my life forever. And I said, I need to be in control of my life. And I didn't mean a control freak. What came flashing into my heart and why I had lots of tears coming out is because my parents were married nine times. They did move 20 times, and I was never in control. I'd get new stepbrothers and a stepdad and a step grandfather. Leo Rizzo was the greatest stepdad in the world. He took me fishing and hunting and he let me drive his car when I was 12 years old. He was such a sweet man to me. I'd come home every day from school. He'd be waiting for me, and he'd cook for me. And I came home one day and it's over. My mom and Lenny broke up. So I don't have my stepdad, my step grandpa anymore, and my stepbrother and sister. And then I move in with my dad and. And I had new stepbrothers and sisters and they were cool. And I went to school with them. And I came home one day and that was gone. And then this was gone and this was gone. And all of this came flashing in my head. And I realized in that moment why I've worked so hard my whole life. Why I take an underdog and I keep moving forward. Why I figured out what I wanted and I didn't stop. I persisted. Until I succeeded. Why when people told me I was crazy, I kept moving forward because I found my why. In that moment, I. I need to be in control of my time. I need to be in control of my calendar. Guys, success is different for all of us. I know that. But you know what success means to me that I would die for is every day I take my children to school every day. Every day. I get my older kids every other week. Every week when they're with me, I pick them up from school. Every time. There's nothing at 3 o' clock that stopped me from not picking up my kids. Nothing. No one. No one's ever going to tell me, sorry, it's not on your calendar. You're going to have to stay at the office today. Screw you. I will do whatever it takes, make the money I need and be in control. I'm going to pick up my kids. I catch for my daughter. She's a softball pitcher. I catch for her twice a week. It is so hard to fit in. Juggling two companies, four kids, wife. It's so hard. But no one's going to tell me I can't. No one's going to tell me I have to raise my children. In a way they think no one's going to tell me I can't wear a gray T shirt every day of my life, no matter where I go. I know that sounds silly, but it meant something to me. I need to be in control of my calendar, control of my decisions, Not a boss, not someone else. Me. And in that very moment, my life changed forever. Because not only did I recognize, did I recognize why I fought so hard my whole life. I had the tool to overcome every obstacle that ever could try to get in my way. It.