Dean Graziosi breaks down how confidence actually builds: decide, act with courage, gain skills through experience, then confidence follows. Overthinking past failures or future fears kills it. His fix: mentally release negative thoughts like putting them in a bottle and watching them float away.
Hey, everybody. Dean Graziosi, welcome to the Weekly Wisdom. Did you get the chance to see that live webcast with Matt and I the other night? Wow. Is that amazing? I'll talk more about that in a minute. But today on this Weekly Wisdom, I want to talk about confidence. You know, without confidence, nothing works. I don't know if you remember dating when you were younger or maybe you're dating now. If you have no confidence, it doesn't work. If you go into a job interview with no confidence, it doesn't work. If you want to get somebody to do something for you, help you with something, go see a movie. If you do it with no confidence, things just don't work. But I've really been going deep on this whole confidence thing lately. And I, you know, the other night, if you watch the webcast at the end, I talked about confidence starts with a commitment. And so if you work backwards from confidence, it starts with a commitment. Commitment to lose weight, commitment to make money, a commitment to make money with real estate and get the education. Commitment. After that, you make a commitment to do it, not dabble. Then comes the courage. Now, I don't have confidence yet, but I'm courageous. I'm going to push forward no matter what. And once you have the courage, then you start gaining the capabilities. Like the other night in the live cast, the opportunity to get those capabilities, or if you've gone to a live event or been through our success academy, you're gaining the capabilities. So after you commit to it and you're courageous and you get the capabilities, then you gain the confidence. The confidence doesn't come until the end. And when confidence begins, that's when the results start. And that's just an evolution. It took me years to figure out. But, hey, what I want to teach you today, besides that, is that your confidence doesn't have to be in the pooper all the way down for you not to do well. If your confidence is just 10% off, literally, you're not going to live the life that you want or else you wouldn't be watching me. And what I'm going to share with you this week might sound crazy, but stop thinking. Thinking is what destroys our confidence. When we, and I've been talking about this a lot lately with Wayne Dyer's books and the Power of Now, but I've been really on a journey myself to figure out what kills your confidence, what can get you being on a funk or off or not taking action or watching an amazing live webcast like the other night and not jumping in what holds you back when every opportunity available is right there in front of us. And confidence has a key role in it and, and thinking is what does it. When you can't shut your brain off, when you're thinking about things in the past that you tried and failed, that tags your confidence and you're not going to move forward. When you think about things that could go wrong in the future and well, what if we go down this path and then this and then this, that tags your confidence and you're not going to go forward. You know, in one of the books I've been reading so many lately, I'm absorbing books like a madman right now. Talked about thoughts are not who we are. And I know I've said that a lot lately, but one person described it as, thoughts are like a river with bottles going down it and in each bottle there's a message and that's a thought and they just keep coming down. How many thoughts do you have in a day? Non stop, in the middle of the night, just boom, boom, boom, boom, boom. But we are in control. If a bad thought comes in, like, hey, if you try this, maybe you'll lose everything and it won't work and you're not smart enough, you're not good enough, you failed in the past, you know what you do? You take that thought, put it back in the bottle and stick it in the stream and let it go. Think about that analogy. We are living with this stream of thoughts going by and you have the choice to pluck the ones that don't work for you, don't empower you, and don't tell you that you are amazing, that you are great, that you can accomplish anything you want. If they're not empowering thoughts, stick them back in the bottle and send them down the stream so they go over the waterfall and crash. That's my message for today. Your confidence is your key to your success. One of the major, if not the most important key. And when it's off 10%, there's no way you can get ahead. Stick those terrible thoughts from the past and painting pictures in the future, throw them away. Focus on how amazing you are, the things you accomplished. Live in the now and make it happen. And when you have an opportunity to work with somebody like Matt Larson, you should take it and jump on it. If you didn't get to watch the live cast, we'll put a link below. If you're watching us on iTunes, go to deansfreebook.com that's deansfreebook.com and get my newest book for free. No shipping and handling, just free. And once you get it, you can have the opportunity to watch this training that we we actually did a shorter version, so we took about an hour and a half, and we did a shorter version in about 15, 20 minutes. But you get all the powerful wisdom that can just empower you. And if you're@dingaziosi.com, click the link below and watch it. If you didn't. And you have the opportunity to work with Matt, but that live training starts soon, and that opportunity is going to go away forever. So if you're ready to take action, if you're ready to commit, ready to be courageous, gain the capabilities to gain the confidence to get the results you want, then, then let's take some action. I'm Dean Graziosi. I'll talk to you next week.
