Weekly Wisdom - Anxiety Sucks!

Hey guys. Welcome to the Weekly Wisdom. I am a day late. I apologize. Here are we still live here? Okay, let me check these. We're back. Hopefully you can hear me. Guys. It's a pleasure and an honor to have you guys here as a Weekly Wisdom. Today I want to talk about anxiety. I'm down here in Palm Springs, Florida. It's beautiful. It's a little cloudy out, but it's gorgeous. I flew, didn't get in until about 2:30 this morning. Morning. But I want to tell a personal experience here about anxiety. Have you ever, in your life, if you have, give me a heart, give me a, like. If you've ever suffered from anxiety, if you've ever been stressed, had that, like that tension, that worry, that fear. I don't know if you have, but I have literally yesterday I haven't had anxiety like that in years. And I remind. It reminded me how crippling it was. I have something going on in my personal life and, and we all do. I always tell you if I, if I didn't have things going on in life, I wouldn't be human. And I get to fight through those things. I get to learn through those things. I get to use all the things that I share and practice and I get to find the solution and then I get to share it with you. It's the greatest gift in the world that I have that have this outlet to share. But I want to talk about anxiety and how crippling it truly is. Even if you're a tiny bit anxious, even if you're a little worried or even if you call it stress, it'll stop you dead in your tracks from the momentum, from breaking through. It'll keep you playing small. It'll keep you in a relationship that sucks, in a job that sucks, in a life that sucks, in a world that's just not fulfilling your heart. So yesterday something triggered me to have anxiety like nothing I've ever had before. And I couldn't get rid of it at first and I was stressed and I'm worried and I'm thinking, what is wrong with me? This is what I do. And, and literally I thought of you guys and wanting to share with you today is three ways that you can break anxiety. When you're in an anxiety loop, when you're feeling anxious, when you're feeling stressed, when you're feeling worried. Usually we're doing a few things. We're thinking of what could go wrong. We're thinking of the worst case scenario. Oh my God. If that happens, I'll Be broke. If that happens, I'll lose the relationship. If that happens, I'll lose my family. If that happens, I'll lose my money. If that happens, it'll go wrong. And we don't even realize subconsciously that we're thinking of what could go wrong. And then we're stacking it. We're stacking it on top of ourselves again. If you've never had anxiety and never worry, then this one's not for you. I always say I share each week by take what serves you from what I say and throw the rest away. But if you've ever felt nervous, scared or anxious or had actual anxiety, then like this and share this with somebody else. Because I want to give you three ways right now that anxiety can go away. So I yesterday hit me so hard that I went through a couple things quick and figured it'd just go away. And it didn't. It was just lingering. So then I realized the way to do it. I was focusing on what could go wrong even though I didn't realize I was, I was focusing on. So you either realizing, figuring something that could go wrong or there's a deep inner fear that you have. You have a fear of being alone. You have a fear of being not loved. You have a fear that you're not good enough. You have a fear that you won't have enough money. You have a fear that your relationship is not what it should be. You have this inner fear that could have happened as a kid watching your parents, watching friends, something that happened bad when you were a kid and that fear lives in you. It's like this hidden monster that lives inside of you and see something triggers it and you don't even know why. Like why do I feel so crappy? Why do I feel so scared? Why am I afraid? It's because it's dinging on that fear again. Or you're projecting in the future of something that hasn't happened yet. So here's three things to do if you're feeling anxious, nervous or scared. First of all, realize that fear. Try to identify what is that fear that making you feel this way. That fear is truly something that could have happened to your 8 year old self, your 12 year old self. Is that fear actual or is it something just digging an insecurity inside of you? When I literally yesterday I recognized why I was anxious or having anxiety is because it was digging a fear I worried about when I was literally 7 to 10 years old. Something just going on with family. My parents were love my parents dearly but they were married a lot. We moved a lot, and there was a lot of insecurity. So that feeling hit me yesterday. So, first thing is recognize the fear and call it bullshit. That fear is something that happened to you a long time ago. History doesn't repeat yourself. You're not your family. You're not your parents, you're not your ex. You're not the person with. You're you. You're here right now. That means you're someone working on being better, improving and evolving. You've had massive success. You accomplished so many things. You're a freaking badass. Don't play small. Don't feel small. Don't let a little insecure child or a past experience determine your future. So that fear, if you like this, please share this. And like this, if you like that, don't let that determine who you are. Don't let that determine your future. So call that fear out for what it is and let that fear just be called the lie that it is. So that's the first thing. The second thing, and I got this from my buddy Tony Robbins, who's just magnificent. And I love this, and I'm using the word magnificent, is immediately we want to think about what's wrong, is write down what's magnificent in your life. So first, call the fear out and then write down. Literally sit in front of a piece of paper when you're stressed, nervous, anxious, feeling like you can't take action, you're feeling paralyzed, and write down what's already magnificent. And if you say, well, I don't have a lot magnificent. We do. We do. I say this all the time. We got, you know, 150,000 people die a day. We're not one of them today, right? Find something that's magnificent. Write it down. Your family, your kids, the people in your life, the relationships you had or have, the business you're doing, the people you're doing. Just. Just write it down uncontrollably. Just keep writing down. Even if you say there's nothing, find it, write it, write it. So you're. You're calling the old fear out. Now you're writing down what's magnificent. And instead of looking forward, the third thing, here's the third thing to kill stress, kill anxiety, is look to the future. Pretend it's a year from now. I use this a lot, but just in a different frame. Pretend it's a year from now and just write down the ideal outcome. I know your brain wants to tell you what could go wrong. The relationship ends, the money doesn't come in, the partnership dissolves, the company doesn't work. That's what your brain wants to. I wish I was smart enough to tell you why. You know, it's flight or fight, right? And maybe it's the flight mode of just know. Let's focus on what's wrong so we protect ourselves. Maybe that's the caveman brain. That's not. I'm not the smartest guy in the world to know exactly why, but I know this. We all focus on what can go wrong. Here's. I want you to address the fear. Call it a lie, write down what's magnificent. And the third thing, like I said, is pretend. It's a year from now and everything went right. The relationship worked the whole life. Work the business work. The money's coming in, the deals are happening, the job is working, people are loving you, the family's okay, nobody's sick. I don't know what it is, but write that down. Those three things, those three things will break the pattern. Those three things will break that. That anxiety loop, that worry loop, that stress loop that we're thinking that it's not going to happen. It's not going to work, just like that. Now, again, for me to say, oh, you know, just. Just do that and everything will be fine. That's not the answer. Yesterday, I literally had to do these practices yesterday. Like, not just think about them. I had to sit and write. I had to sit and think. I had to go back into my life and find this fear that was living inside me that I didn't even know existed anymore. Guys, I work on this every day. I have multiple New York Times best sellers on this. It's like, I'm not. I just. I always say that to you. I don't want you thinking, think my life's perfect because I figured this out. It's like going to the gym, which I'm doing right now. I'm late. I didn't get here until 3 o' clock in the morning, so I'm going to the gym late. I haven't gone yet. But I wanted to share this message with you guys because it's so important. If you don't go to the gym every day, you get out of shape. If you don't work on you every day, old beliefs, old fears, old patterns will come back into your life and keep you stalled. That's my message for today. Guys, again, if you've never had anxiety, worry or stress cooking, congratulations. I'm so happy for you. But if you have ever those Three steps usually will kick its ass. And you deserve it because then once the glasses are off, the anxiety, the stress, the worry glasses are off, you get a new pair of glasses that are crystal clear and you can see that bigger future that you guys deserve, you desire and you can achieve. I don't do these messages every week for me. I do them for me because they help me. And I read every single message below. Believe I'll read everything you guys leave below. Appreciate it. Patrick Leverio, everybody. That's here, Rachel. I read every message. If you like this, Maggie, how you doing? Good to have you guys here this morning. If you like this message, share it. I love seeing the likes and the thumbs up going across. Make sure you like it. Share it like this page and let's get this message out to the world. And if you don't have my book, get it. Millionaire Success Habits is not just a good book. It's the best book I've ever written. It's all five stars on Amazon. It's 19 bucks on Amazon if you want to go get that or the audio. But if you want it for free, I still have that offer. Just cover the shipping and handling. Go to deansfreebook.com deansfreebook.com I know you will thank me when you get it. Guys, have an amazing, amazing day. I'm gonna hit the gym. Got some work to do, and then I'm flying up to Boston. For all of those that live in Boston, I'll be in your backyard tonight and speaking there with my buddy Tony Robbins tomorrow. All right, guys, have a good day. Deansfreebook.com See ya. Bye, Donna. Bye, Wally, Peggy, Janet, good to have you guys here. Thanks for sharing this morning with me. See ya.