How to Speak Your Partner’s Love Languages (and Why You Should)

Hey there everybody. Doc Snipes here. Today. I wanted to talk about love languages. And love languages are often misunderstood because we often communicate with other people using our love language. For example, my love language is quality time and acts of service, whereas my husband's love languages are physical touch and gifts. So when I communicate that I care about him through quality time and acts of service, service, it's nice and all, but it doesn't hit the mark as if as a meaningful gift and physical touch might hit the market, he receives it more effectively when I communicate with him in his love language. And the same thing's true the other way around. So paying attention to what the love languages are of the people in our life. And that can mean your friends, that can mean your co workers, your children, of course, your family, of course. Paying attention to what they talk about. Do they talk about gifts a lot or do they talk about quality? Spending quality time with people or words of affirmation or physical touch or acts of service, noticing what things are most poignant for them, are most meaningful for them, can help you recognize what their love language is without even having to ask them. Because some people don't know. But instead of mind reading, as I've pointed out in other videos, you can also ask them, what is your love language? I want to be able to communicate to you in a way that best is is best received by you. So tell me, what is your love language, acts of service, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch or gifts. And most people have a couple of different love languages. You can kind of rank them in order, but knowing what their top two are can really give you guidance on ways you can communicate with them so they feel heard and valued and loved.