Eckhart Tolle explains that the desire to have children is biologically ingrained in most women. If you don't become conscious enough to transcend this drive, choosing not to have children can cause unhappiness. The solution is rooting your identity in presence rather than biological imperatives.
Now, a desire to have children is probably biologically built into almost every female human on the planet. It is built into the body by nature. And unless the female is sufficiently conscious to rise above that, it could make a woman very unhappy not to have a child. If it has— if she has not risen above The biological need, which may be there and is not met. There are women nowadays who decide not to have a child, and that's fine. They may still feel in the background sometimes their biology may want it, but there are other factors that are regarded as more important, higher than the biological factor. And the most important thing is when you derive your sense of self, your identity from presence, which is why we're here, to go there, then these other factors become less important on a biological level.
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