Eckhart Tolle distinguishes complaining from explaining: when a problem like a water leak happens, take practical action and describe it factually without grievance. The key is combining external problem-solving with internal acceptance of the discomfort.
Stop complaining, either internally or externally. If there's something that needs to be changed, of course you go to the reception or you make a phone call. If suddenly there's water coming through the ceiling and it matters and you are on it getting drenched, you don't say, "Accept what is, stay on the bed. Eckhart Tolle said don't complain." But it does mean that when you finally you go to the telephone and tell them what happened, it's not done in a complaining manner. No, you just explain what is and what can we do about it. And in the meantime, you surrender to the fact that you're wet.
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