Short YouTube monologue by Elay Amitay Halevi arguing that past hurts or negative parental relationship examples can cause people to 'shrink' their desire and close themselves off, which affects who they attract (soulmate vs. 'cellmate'). The speaker uses a three-ring metaphor (engagement ring, wedding ring, suffering) to illustrate possible relationship outcomes.
In a relationship, when a person shrinks their desire, either because they were hurt, because they've had negative examples of relationships their parents never exemplified love, so on and so forth, and the person starts to shut down their desire, then the signal that you're sending out to the world is that men and women should not approach you. And the only ones that kind of get through the guards are the ones that are there just to open you up, actually, the relationship yet. So you're either drawing in your soulmate or your or your cellmate. One of my friends, gadai, always says this. He says three types of rings. It's the engagement ring, it's wedding ring, and then the suffering.
